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Bethie
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23 Mar 2011, 11:11 am

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Well at least in OKCupid announcing that you have been checking their looks out doesn't seem to work. Can't post the link but the blog post is named Exactly What To Say In A First Message.

Average reply rate to a first message is around 32%

To first messages containing words:
Sexy - 18%
Beautiful - 21%
Hot - 25%
Cutie - 28%


That's pretty interesting-
they do some really cool studies on OKC, using their own data.

I'd prefer to be called "cute", if there HAD to be a reference to looks. :D
Then beautiful- sweet, but cliche.
Sexy- to me, this is saying you're attractive, in this specific way
Hot- makes my skin crawl


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23 Mar 2011, 11:14 am

rocknrollslc wrote:
lustfully gazing




at her tits


I was just struck with the very sharp romance novel/porno dichotomy your vocab had going on there. :D :D


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23 Mar 2011, 11:27 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It depends on the girl , some girls love it, some don't.

Once a girl asked me "why you're staring?" , and I said "' 'cause you're pretty?" , she giggled.

It also depends on the guy's who's checking out, if he's an ugly Qasimodo, he's more likely to be accused as a creep, if he's a drop-dead gorgeous then the girls would be more tolerant to his glances/stares.


Seems.... do I check out girls? i look them over a bit, but I don't know whether I check them out. How do I know if I'm checking them out?

the way some women dress, it's obvious they are looking for attention, though.


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23 Mar 2011, 11:29 am

i don't agree.
sometimes 'attention seeking clothes' are for a girls own confidence, not for a mans attention.



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23 Mar 2011, 11:37 am

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i don't agree.
sometimes 'attention seeking clothes' are for a girls own confidence, not for a mans attention.


You mean...you decide what to wear every day without the "To Be Ogled! Or Not to be Ogled..." thought process?

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23 Mar 2011, 11:39 am

nah.
i always dress in skinny jeans, boots and a hoodie.
day to day anyway.
no -one ogles me.



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23 Mar 2011, 11:54 am

Suomalainen wrote:
Well at least in OKCupid announcing that you have been checking their looks out doesn't seem to work. Can't post the link but the blog post is named Exactly What To Say In A First Message.

Average reply rate to a first message is around 32%

To first messages containing words:
Sexy - 18%
Beautiful - 21%
Hot - 25%
Cutie - 28%

I agree, I dont tend to reply to people who write to me saying "your so beautiful" bleh!

however the PUA stuff has been on to that trend for years and Ive heard they reccomend complimenting a woman on being interesting or deep.



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23 Mar 2011, 11:57 am

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Ive heard they reccomend complimenting a woman on being interesting or deep.


Imagine that. 8O


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23 Mar 2011, 12:05 pm

Bethie wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
Ive heard they reccomend complimenting a woman on being interesting or deep.


Imagine that. 8O

well the lesson to learn is that whether a man complements your looks, or your brain he still only wants to get into your pants!



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23 Mar 2011, 12:09 pm

lotusblossom wrote:
Bethie wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
Ive heard they reccomend complimenting a woman on being interesting or deep.


Imagine that. 8O

well the lesson to learn is that whether a man complements your looks, or your brain he still only wants to get into your pants!


LOL. And there I was feeling optimistic. How silly. :lol:


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23 Mar 2011, 12:10 pm

i hope you're joking that men just want to get into your pants.
that's as bad as saying women only want men for money.



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23 Mar 2011, 12:12 pm

emlion wrote:
i hope you're joking that men just want to get into your pants.
that's as bad as saying women only want men for money.

I didnt say that.

I said
"whether a man complements your looks, or your brain he still only wants to get into your pants!"

which means beware complimenting men not beware men!! !!

I do not think that all men who make compliments have sinister motives, but it is important point about compliments not always being sinsere and are often a means of manipulation.

and it was meant to be funny!



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23 Mar 2011, 12:44 pm

What if you don't wear pants? 8)


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23 Mar 2011, 12:45 pm

lotusblossom wrote:
emlion wrote:
i hope you're joking that men just want to get into your pants.
that's as bad as saying women only want men for money.

I didnt say that.

I said
"whether a man complements your looks, or your brain he still only wants to get into your pants!"

which means beware complimenting men not beware men!! !!

I do not think that all men who make compliments have sinister motives, but it is important point about compliments not always being sinsere and are often a means of manipulation.

and it was meant to be funny!


okay, i couldn't see if you were joking or not.
no offense intended, promise.



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23 Mar 2011, 1:52 pm

so men want the pants and women want the money...now that we've sorted that one, is the pope Catholic?



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23 Mar 2011, 2:36 pm

hill-o-beans wrote:
so men want the pants and women want the money...now that we've sorted that one, is the pope Catholic?


I've never been propositioned for my pants before. :lol:
Maybe a nice pair of slacks will reel 'em in, eh?


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