Learn the BASIC rule: If she likes you, she WILL go out

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You're either talking to the wrong women (possibly sights set too high) or not knocking their socks off.

i have made time.

Well people on here have said i have more realistic standards than some of the romantically challenged around here, but still nothing. I guess I'm either just boring or I'm really just unlovable... or both.

u r not boring or inlovbal.

possibly. I'd suggest adding "right now" to your statement, implying that if that is the case, that it won't last forever. It won't.

I generally agree with the OP, except for one thing: if she really is busy but is still interested, she might say no, but express some anxiety about not being able to go or suggest a later date. If she just says she's got something going on that day, without any other qualifiers, then I take it as a rejection.

I'd say, it depends on the person, but for the most part, if you've tickled her fancy, she'll make the effort to maintain the communication and go out with you. This has been my experience. Also too, if you don't maintain the communication, she'll take it as not being interested. I did this with a girl once, we went out, but I never really "initiated" anything because I was too anxious, and it never went anywhere. The other time I did pretty much the same thing, we went out, but after that I never called her. But this time, I took it as she really wasn't too interested, so I never bothered to maintain communication like I should of, and she thought I wasn't interested. So, both times, I did not maintain communication, either because I was to anxious, or did not properly read her to tell if she was interested.

What usually happens with me, is if they don't initiate, like in those two situations, it ends up like it did in those two situations. In these situations, it usually brings me down because I'm the one who failed, and I could have kept up the communication and made the dates successful, but because I couldn't read what was going on or was too anxious, the dates ended up in failure. The previous two girlfriends I had both were outgoing, and initiated quite a bit, so things went successful until we broke up.

I think this statement is very accuarate. There is one person who I will always make the time for and it has been that way since I have known him. Those that have merely piqued my interest, well if I had the time then yes I may have gone out with them.

I can say with some level of confidence that the same holds true for my NT female friends.

In the event she's already taken, why would she?

In the event she's already taken, why would she?

If she's already taken, you shouldn't ask her out.

She wouldn't..?
Unless, she's a cheater.
then it's not worth the time or effort.

If you really had your eye on her, I think it would be. Just know that she'll cheat on you too and enjoy it for what it's worth. That sounds horrible, but I.... don't care.

meh.
each to their own.
i couldn't date a cheater, or be a cheater.

Ive been a cheater an have been cheated on before

That really isn't something to be proud of.