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03 May 2011, 10:54 pm

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See? You're already angry at me and we haven't even met yet. My point has been proven.


I think this proves another point that being so negative about yourself can drive people away. I know at times you probably feel terrible, and I know it's hard to shake yourself out of it.


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03 May 2011, 11:03 pm

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techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
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Who the hell would want a girl like me when there are plenty of more attractive and intelligent NTs that are willing to open their legs for them? :roll:


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If you met me in person, you would run for the hills like all the other men. :roll:

If you find yourself in that dilemma my advice would remain the same - be true to yourself, rep the best you have for your own satisfaction, odds are in the vast sea of people out there that something will eventually turn up and - if you have to wait a long time - odds are it will be well aimed and on point.

The silver lining of that as well - for I think most of us dealing with that - I think we have a much better chance up ending up with relationships or marriages that are closer to 95% for our extra waiting rather than being the types of people who can date and enamor anything down to 60%. That seems to be the biggest downfall and wipe-out point for NT's as well, things can work too quickly, blow up in their faces, and they can't get a refund on the decisions that got them there.


Well, I can't wait too long. I DO want to have children someday. So I'm on a 19 year countdown until menopause. I have that much time to lose weight, attract a mate, date for a few years, be engaged, get married and THEN have children. And unless the next guy I date is "the one" I'm going to be behind schedule by quite a bit. >.<



I use to think that's how my life was suppose to go until I got older. After my sis had her kids at 18 and married at 20, I knew it was no life for me. If I do want kids that bad and I get too old for that I can always adopt. As for guys, I think just being with them is enough for me. Sometimes if you give life a little time, you might find not everything is as you think it should be.


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03 May 2011, 11:03 pm

emuman100 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
See? You're already angry at me and we haven't even met yet. My point has been proven.


I think this proves another point that being so negative about yourself can drive people away. I know at times you probably feel terrible, and I know it's hard to shake yourself out of it.


Well, how can't I feel terrible? After this week, I'll never see my friends again, I'll be forced into the work force where I'll be miserable trying to pay back my loans, I miss my Aunt terribly, and have to live with my overbearing family until I have enough money to move. After this week, my life will be hell and I'm scared. I don't want to deal with it. :cry:



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03 May 2011, 11:06 pm

MissConstrue wrote:
Erisad wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emuman100 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Who the hell would want a girl like me when there are plenty of more attractive and intelligent NTs that are willing to open their legs for them? :roll:


:wall:


If you met me in person, you would run for the hills like all the other men. :roll:

If you find yourself in that dilemma my advice would remain the same - be true to yourself, rep the best you have for your own satisfaction, odds are in the vast sea of people out there that something will eventually turn up and - if you have to wait a long time - odds are it will be well aimed and on point.

The silver lining of that as well - for I think most of us dealing with that - I think we have a much better chance up ending up with relationships or marriages that are closer to 95% for our extra waiting rather than being the types of people who can date and enamor anything down to 60%. That seems to be the biggest downfall and wipe-out point for NT's as well, things can work too quickly, blow up in their faces, and they can't get a refund on the decisions that got them there.


Well, I can't wait too long. I DO want to have children someday. So I'm on a 19 year countdown until menopause. I have that much time to lose weight, attract a mate, date for a few years, be engaged, get married and THEN have children. And unless the next guy I date is "the one" I'm going to be behind schedule by quite a bit. >.<



I use to think that's how my life was suppose to go until I got older. After my sis had her kids at 18 and married at 20, I knew it was no life for me. If I do want kids that bad and I get too old for that I can always adopt. As for guys, I think just being with them is enough for me. Sometimes if you give life a little time, you might find not everything is as you think it should be.


Adopting kids is expensive as hell. I can't afford it and it's not fair. Of course my life isn't what I think it should be, that's why it SUCKS. If it was what I wanted, I would be 80 pounds lighter, with a man that treats me well, employed, have a car and license, and be able to live on my own. I have none of that. :(



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03 May 2011, 11:19 pm

Erisad wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
Erisad wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emuman100 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Who the hell would want a girl like me when there are plenty of more attractive and intelligent NTs that are willing to open their legs for them? :roll:


:wall:


If you met me in person, you would run for the hills like all the other men. :roll:

If you find yourself in that dilemma my advice would remain the same - be true to yourself, rep the best you have for your own satisfaction, odds are in the vast sea of people out there that something will eventually turn up and - if you have to wait a long time - odds are it will be well aimed and on point.

The silver lining of that as well - for I think most of us dealing with that - I think we have a much better chance up ending up with relationships or marriages that are closer to 95% for our extra waiting rather than being the types of people who can date and enamor anything down to 60%. That seems to be the biggest downfall and wipe-out point for NT's as well, things can work too quickly, blow up in their faces, and they can't get a refund on the decisions that got them there.


Well, I can't wait too long. I DO want to have children someday. So I'm on a 19 year countdown until menopause. I have that much time to lose weight, attract a mate, date for a few years, be engaged, get married and THEN have children. And unless the next guy I date is "the one" I'm going to be behind schedule by quite a bit. >.<



I use to think that's how my life was suppose to go until I got older. After my sis had her kids at 18 and married at 20, I knew it was no life for me. If I do want kids that bad and I get too old for that I can always adopt. As for guys, I think just being with them is enough for me. Sometimes if you give life a little time, you might find not everything is as you think it should be.


Adopting kids is expensive as hell. I can't afford it and it's not fair. Of course my life isn't what I think it should be, that's why it SUCKS. If it was what I wanted, I would be 80 pounds lighter, with a man that treats me well, employed, have a car and license, and be able to live on my own. I have none of that. :(


This may sound odd but me either. I don't even drive...<<

I've pretty much learned to adjust in my environment. I don't see it as being permanent but it's the best I can do. I don't believe life will ever be fair or the way I want. All I can do is accept this fact and change my inner self if that means skinny dipping in a lake which I do or being the crazy chick across the office with a bunch of cats....so be it.

I have to say though, I can relate about living in the US with shallow people. Given the current economy, this only adds to what we call "the depression".


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03 May 2011, 11:23 pm

MissConstrue wrote:
Erisad wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
Erisad wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emuman100 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Who the hell would want a girl like me when there are plenty of more attractive and intelligent NTs that are willing to open their legs for them? :roll:


:wall:


If you met me in person, you would run for the hills like all the other men. :roll:

If you find yourself in that dilemma my advice would remain the same - be true to yourself, rep the best you have for your own satisfaction, odds are in the vast sea of people out there that something will eventually turn up and - if you have to wait a long time - odds are it will be well aimed and on point.

The silver lining of that as well - for I think most of us dealing with that - I think we have a much better chance up ending up with relationships or marriages that are closer to 95% for our extra waiting rather than being the types of people who can date and enamor anything down to 60%. That seems to be the biggest downfall and wipe-out point for NT's as well, things can work too quickly, blow up in their faces, and they can't get a refund on the decisions that got them there.


Well, I can't wait too long. I DO want to have children someday. So I'm on a 19 year countdown until menopause. I have that much time to lose weight, attract a mate, date for a few years, be engaged, get married and THEN have children. And unless the next guy I date is "the one" I'm going to be behind schedule by quite a bit. >.<



I use to think that's how my life was suppose to go until I got older. After my sis had her kids at 18 and married at 20, I knew it was no life for me. If I do want kids that bad and I get too old for that I can always adopt. As for guys, I think just being with them is enough for me. Sometimes if you give life a little time, you might find not everything is as you think it should be.


Adopting kids is expensive as hell. I can't afford it and it's not fair. Of course my life isn't what I think it should be, that's why it SUCKS. If it was what I wanted, I would be 80 pounds lighter, with a man that treats me well, employed, have a car and license, and be able to live on my own. I have none of that. :(


This may sound odd but me either. I don't even drive...<<

I've pretty much learned to adjust in my environment. I don't see it as being permanent but it's the best I can do. I don't believe life will ever be fair or the way I want. All I can do is accept this fact and change my inner self if that means skinny dipping in a lake which I do or being the crazy chick across the office with a bunch of cats....so be it.

I have to say though, I can relate about living in the US with shallow people. Given the current economy, this only adds to what we call "the depression".


Trust me. I'd get arrested for indecent expose if I tried to go skinny dipping. >.<



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03 May 2011, 11:28 pm

Erisad wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
Erisad wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
Erisad wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emuman100 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Who the hell would want a girl like me when there are plenty of more attractive and intelligent NTs that are willing to open their legs for them? :roll:


:wall:


If you met me in person, you would run for the hills like all the other men. :roll:

If you find yourself in that dilemma my advice would remain the same - be true to yourself, rep the best you have for your own satisfaction, odds are in the vast sea of people out there that something will eventually turn up and - if you have to wait a long time - odds are it will be well aimed and on point.

The silver lining of that as well - for I think most of us dealing with that - I think we have a much better chance up ending up with relationships or marriages that are closer to 95% for our extra waiting rather than being the types of people who can date and enamor anything down to 60%. That seems to be the biggest downfall and wipe-out point for NT's as well, things can work too quickly, blow up in their faces, and they can't get a refund on the decisions that got them there.


Well, I can't wait too long. I DO want to have children someday. So I'm on a 19 year countdown until menopause. I have that much time to lose weight, attract a mate, date for a few years, be engaged, get married and THEN have children. And unless the next guy I date is "the one" I'm going to be behind schedule by quite a bit. >.<



I use to think that's how my life was suppose to go until I got older. After my sis had her kids at 18 and married at 20, I knew it was no life for me. If I do want kids that bad and I get too old for that I can always adopt. As for guys, I think just being with them is enough for me. Sometimes if you give life a little time, you might find not everything is as you think it should be.


Adopting kids is expensive as hell. I can't afford it and it's not fair. Of course my life isn't what I think it should be, that's why it SUCKS. If it was what I wanted, I would be 80 pounds lighter, with a man that treats me well, employed, have a car and license, and be able to live on my own. I have none of that. :(


This may sound odd but me either. I don't even drive...<<

I've pretty much learned to adjust in my environment. I don't see it as being permanent but it's the best I can do. I don't believe life will ever be fair or the way I want. All I can do is accept this fact and change my inner self if that means skinny dipping in a lake which I do or being the crazy chick across the office with a bunch of cats....so be it.

I have to say though, I can relate about living in the US with shallow people. Given the current economy, this only adds to what we call "the depression".


Trust me. I'd get arrested for indecent expose if I tried to go skinny dipping. >.<



XD I do it when no one's watching but not all the time naked. :P


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03 May 2011, 11:29 pm

Yeah, I'm not risking that. That and I'd get depressed because if I was with other people, I'd be comparing myself to them. Even if I was by myself, I would get depressed at the thought and just go home. >.<



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04 May 2011, 1:20 am

Skinny dipping < Chunky Dunking


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04 May 2011, 4:15 am

I guess there is few people out there that can claim that their life is how they wanted it to be. You can be sure as anything mine is not. I never wanted to study what I'm studying now. I wanted to become a teacher for music and english. I will never be something even remotely to that. I think if I ever find employment at all, it will be either for the government or some big company, nothing that evolves around creativity or experession. I too want to have children some day (even though I feel a moral conflict, since they will be at danger to have both complications at birth, which runs in maternal family since my mother, my grandmother and my great grandmother all have been either twins or triplets. I was twin too, but my twin brother died before birth. The other part being that I feel strange to bring children into this world that may have the same problems like I do), but like Erisad, I feel that the way to that point is still so long, that I probably won't be able - if it all - to have what I want at age 40+. Folks around me already start getting married and having children, and while I'm not that much of the envious guy, I can't help but feel I already missed out on some of the most important parts in life, and that there is no way to bring the lost time back.



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04 May 2011, 8:11 am

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Well, I can't wait too long. I DO want to have children someday. So I'm on a 19 year countdown until menopause. I have that much time to lose weight, attract a mate, date for a few years, be engaged, get married and THEN have children. And unless the next guy I date is "the one" I'm going to be behind schedule by quite a bit. >.<

I'm definitely not saying don't do what you're doing or what you feel you have to, just be sure to stay true to who you are in the process.


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Well, I can't wait too long. I DO want to have children someday. So I'm on a 19 year countdown until menopause. I have that much time to lose weight, attract a mate, date for a few years, be engaged, get married and THEN have children. And unless the next guy I date is "the one" I'm going to be behind schedule by quite a bit. >.<

I'm definitely not saying don't do what you're doing or what you feel you have to, just be sure to stay true to who you are in the process.


Okie dokie, I'm not even sure who I am at this point but I'll keep that in mind. :)



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The other part being that I feel strange to bring children into this world that may have the same problems like I do), but like Erisad, I feel that the way to that point is still so long, that I probably won't be able - if it all - to have what I want at age 40+. Folks around me already start getting married and having children, and while I'm not that much of the envious guy, I can't help but feel I already missed out on some of the most important parts in life, and that there is no way to bring the lost time back.


I know how you feel. I'm a maid of honor in my friend's wedding and while she really deserves this guy who treats her really well (as she also went through several abusive relationships), I feel like I'm behind in a way. She is 4 years older than me though so I guess she already had a head start. >.<



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04 May 2011, 9:29 am

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Okie dokie, I'm not even sure who I am at this point but I'll keep that in mind. :)

Lol at 21 I didn't either. It can definitely take a minute.


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04 May 2011, 10:36 am

Trying to find out who I am is what keeps my motor running, my single one raison d'être. Would take the last bit of fun out of my life if I already knew who I was.



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Trying to find out who I am is what keeps my motor running, my single one raison d'être. Would take the last bit of fun out of my life if I already knew who I was.


I'm impatient about that. I want to know who I am already so I can focus on other things. >.<