Poll: Who didn't go to senior prom.

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At the time my prom was not really a priority for me. While there was one girl I might have been interested in asking (in my AP calculus BC class, not the girl below), but I didn't bother. At the time of my prom Asperger's had just been a diagnosis for less than a year, and I was not diagnosed. Still I had an intuitive understanding that I was different, and the rest of the world was NT.

With that said, I intuitively saw the prom as an NT activity that I just didn't care for. My senior year of HS I was a total Calculus snob. I guess calculus had become my special interest. I was so proud that I had an A- average in the class that I looked down on anyone who didn't have at least a B average in AP calculus BC (and not the AP calculus AB, which I saw as calculus for wimps). I just wouldn't want anything to have anything to do with them! There was a real hottie cheerleader who was taking AP calculus AB. Since she was taking the easy AP calculus, I didn't want to respect her. She always had a group of guys around her, and I didn't believe she needed or was entitled to my attention to her as well. Although she flirted with me, I didn't (at the time) believe she was being authentic with me. Also since I saw her as a 'social' person (i.e. NT) I felt like giving her a little reverse discrimination to get back at her for all the times that NTs had treated me like $h!t for my Aspie traits. Right now though, I recognize that she did nothing to me to deserve to be treated that way, and I do regret it.

Anyway back to the prom topic! Since the prom had nothing to do with calculus, I really didn't care one way or the other. Actually I probably saw it as a shallow activity that would have taken time away from solving more calculus problems . As such I would have given it equal importance as I would now attribute to googling Charlie Sheen rumors or talking about Britney Spears's hair; the activity was simply beneath me! If I had been diagnosed then and had a real awareness of what Autism is I would have might cried myself to sleep feeling sorry for myself. But looking back at it now I can't help but be sort of proud of the fact that I was able to give the entire prom experience the middle finger and be happy about it in the process.

I voted "other plans" but that is not entirely accurate. The fact is, I knew I would hate the experience. When i graduated 8th grade, there was a big party after the ceremony. I effectively stood in a corner for the duration. A few people talked to me, but it was noisy and confusing, and there were so many people that I hated... my future was uncertain as well. I had no concept of local high schools; I only knew that I would be attending a different one that most of my class. It felt like a horrible way to end things. At any rate, I was not about to repeat the experience.

I went to an all boys school. It would have been a bit of a gay sausage fest if we'd had a prom

I went to mine. Didn't have a gentleman escort though. And some b***h turned up wearing the same dress

On a good note, I'd only turned 18 a month before so I was able to go out on the town with a few friends after the event

I'd be more worried if a bloke turned up in the same dress myself

It would only matter to me if they looked better in it.

I went to my school prom with my best friend as my "date". I loved it, I didn't dance though we just stayed by our dining table having a laugh.

No, I am a girl who didn't get asked ...14%

I didn't get asked and I was RELIEVED I tell you!
At the time, the whole idea of prom was mortifying.
I would have rather died.

I didn't want to do the dress, the social crap, the giggling stupidness, the makeup, and oh god, the dances?! I'd've rather stabbed myself in the eye with a fountain pen.

*Note, I felt the same way about attending my high school graduation ceremony, but my mother forced me to go. In khaki's and a gangsta hoodie.

Sometimes now, at 32, I see pictures of fancy dresses and I think: I wish I could pick one out and wear it somewhere.. Which sometimes gets me thinking of the prom I wouldn't attend.
But remembering how it felt back then, I'm glad I didn't go.

I didn't go because I couldn't care less about it. I went to a baseball game instead which cost me much less than a prom date would have cost.