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14 May 2011, 4:09 pm

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For all those complaining about how being fat places you at a disadvantage, I have but one question:

Who gets the blame?

It's not a matter of blame. Some of us are this way due to medications, genetics, hormone imbalances, etc. It's just difficult seeing as the western idea of a perfect woman is impossible for most to obtain so the every day man is lusting for the women they see on TV because that's what they're taught to see as attractive. :shrug:

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14 May 2011, 4:14 pm

You say "blame" as if everyone is in complete control of their lives. If I was in complete control of my life, I wouldn't have to go to work, or school, or pay taxes, or whatever. Do you think kids say they want to be fat when they grow up?

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14 May 2011, 4:26 pm

My friend Britt...

But ah, traits?

-Strong interest (in something, doesn't have to be mine!)
-Doesn't wear make-up, or much make up. Dresses how THEY want to, quite 'imperfect'.
-Friendly and intelligent.
-Loyal and only shares 'deep' things with those close to them.
-Odd sense of humour.
-Eccentric!! !
-Stands for something.
-Can't be anti-drug-legalisation...
-Pretty relationship orioentated.

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14 May 2011, 4:32 pm

Fnord wrote:

For all those complaining about how being fat places you at a disadvantage, I have but one question:

Who gets the blame?

I reject the premise of the question.

It's basic math and straight forward logic. The farther from mainstream definitions you are, the harder it will be to find someone who is attracted to you.

Frankly, any overweight woman on this forum who feels dissatisfied with the current options in her love life ought to private message emuman100. Of course, emuman100 is only one man and there are a lot of men out there who are attracted to overweight women. It's just a matter of trying to hear their voices above the boom of the mainstream crowd.

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14 May 2011, 5:04 pm

wefunction wrote:

Fnord wrote:

For all those complaining about how being fat places you at a disadvantage, I have but one question:

Who gets the blame?

If only he didn't live so far away.

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14 May 2011, 5:10 pm

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If only he didn't live so far away.

How far are we talking about?.

Ive heard about people that live in different continents and made an attempt to give it a shot, I doubt that he lives that far and honestly what do you have to lose?.

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14 May 2011, 5:14 pm

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Erisad wrote:

If only he didn't live so far away.

How far are we talking about?.

Ive heard about people that live in different continents and made an attempt to give it a shot, I doubt that he lives that far and honestly what do you have to lose?.

I don't know where he's at and I just know she's in the US but there are a lot of brits, aussies and kiwis on WP so we could be talking about different hemispheres for those lovebirds. The most challenging internet romance I had was when I was in Illinois and he was in California so I'm at a loss for how a bi-continental couple would cope.

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14 May 2011, 5:26 pm

The girl who reaches in, grabs the reigns, and says "Dammit! I'm taking this one!"

A fascination with cranes and herons doesn't hurt either.

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14 May 2011, 5:31 pm

spongy wrote:

Erisad wrote:

If only he didn't live so far away.

How far are we talking about?.

Ive heard about people that live in different continents and made an attempt to give it a shot, I doubt that he lives that far and honestly what do you have to lose?.

Money. I just got out of college so I have to stay home and get a job. >.<

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14 May 2011, 5:33 pm

wefunction wrote:

spongy wrote:

Erisad wrote:

If only he didn't live so far away.

How far are we talking about?.

Ive heard about people that live in different continents and made an attempt to give it a shot, I doubt that he lives that far and honestly what do you have to lose?.

Im not sure about how a bi-continental couple would cope either but theres no way of knowing if a relationship would cope from the beginning no matter how close both people are(closeness aint the only factor and some things change once you start a relationship...).

Im however aware that some members here found someone they were interested on the boards and they gave it a shot without caring about distance(heck Ive been considering the idea lately and the only thing stopping is low funding). I believe that this whole giving it a shot even though they live in another hemispheres usually has to do with being afraid of wondering if it would have worked out a long time after the shot is gone and you may even have a family by then but theres allways some sort of doubt regarfing the issue.

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14 May 2011, 5:35 pm

I don't have a list. I just like people I can positively relate to.

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14 May 2011, 5:36 pm

Erisad wrote:

spongy wrote:

Erisad wrote:

If only he didn't live so far away.

How far are we talking about?.

Ive heard about people that live in different continents and made an attempt to give it a shot, I doubt that he lives that far and honestly what do you have to lose?.

Money. I just got out of college so I have to stay home and get a job. >.<

I hear you. Im on the same spot but I even hve to finish my degree so its going to take even longer.

Have you considered exchanging pms with him to see if you have something in common/things could work between you two?(you probably already exchanged pms with him so this suggestion may be pointless).

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14 May 2011, 5:44 pm

spongy wrote:

Erisad wrote:

spongy wrote:

Erisad wrote:

If only he didn't live so far away.

How far are we talking about?.

Ive heard about people that live in different continents and made an attempt to give it a shot, I doubt that he lives that far and honestly what do you have to lose?.

Money. I just got out of college so I have to stay home and get a job. >.<

We've chatted a bit on the forums but not pmed yet. I could do that.

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14 May 2011, 5:51 pm

Erisad wrote:

We've chatted a bit on the forums but not pmed yet. I could do that.

Ive been doing it with some people and it just gives me something else to think about.

I mean my days are still going to be crappy for a while but if I know that someone may be sending a message anytime soon/someone wont mind receiving several messages from me in a couple of hours it just gives me something else to focus my attention on(there are times when I need to focus in things that dont revolve around uni due to some problems Ive been having) and the whole pm thing makes things somewhat better.

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14 May 2011, 6:31 pm

Erisad wrote:

Fnord wrote:

For all those complaining about how being fat places you at a disadvantage, I have but one question:

Who gets the blame?

This "Western idea of a perfect woman" is more of a universal ideal than you may realize.

I dated a few heavier women. Some were very sexy. It wasn't the way they looked, but how they behaved. They made eye contact, stepped into my 'personal zone', were cheerful and up-beat, and touched me frequently.

The only drawback, in general, was their insecurity around more 'attractive' women in public. Then they latched on to me as if for dear life. Their clinginess became very awkward, and their eventual over-possessiveness became a burden I could not bear for long. Each one insisted that I give up my friends as "bad influences", especially if those friends had 'attractive' girlfriends of their own.

Sexy is as sexy does, and desperation isn't sexy.

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14 May 2011, 6:38 pm

sunshower wrote:

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Bethie wrote:

Kiran wrote:

Bethie wrote:

Todesking wrote:

Someone who does not find me repulsive

Finding that is actually my biggest obstacle. :cry:

Don't say that. You look great and you seem to be an interesting person, even if I don't agree with everything you say. Why would anybody find you repulsive?

Because in modern Western culture, feminine fat is considered repulsive, and I have a bunch.

That shouldn't matter (I am a Australian by the way).
And besides, we're all meant to have a little fat on our bodies, that's what my Mum says anyways

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I don't think it's that bad, smile more

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I agree, I'm trying to teach myself to love and embrace my natural body fat, and allow it to increase a small bit at a time so I can reach my natural shape (I think I've spent a while being too child shaped due to my fear of gaining weight and my hatred of body fat). Body fat can be healthy and attractive, despite what society tries to drill into our heads.

Ignore society~
You don't need to be fully fit, or have huge muscles or no fat at all to be attractive.
I think a lot of girls worry too much. It's okay to have a little baby fat on the arms, the legs and even the belly.
I have some baby fat on my tummy. -poke, poke- hahas ^^

There's nothing wrong with Baby fat at all, if we focus on not being fat so much, then we'll become anorexic.
And being anorexic is very bad

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