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18 May 2011, 1:20 am

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There are people who make whole careers out of being weird. Look at Frank Zappa, or Tom Waits.

The trick is to develop your own unique brand of weird. Then you stop being weird and start becoming memorable.


Wow. That's really astute advice. :)



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18 May 2011, 9:59 pm

You should never care what people think about you I dont



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11 Jul 2011, 3:22 am

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I actually had a woman at work completely convinced that I was non-corporal (AKA, a ghost)! I would get the strangest looks from her and I never could figure out why. Finally, she asked a coworker of mine who assured her that I was real. Her comment was, "I never see him come and I never see him go, he's there and then he's gone!" I guess that the Aspie lack of body language didn't help either.


You should have told her you were a vampire, what with the Edward Cullen hysteria. Major attraction points there. Just kidding, of course.



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11 Jul 2011, 3:45 am

all the time, kinda the weird one of my group. I'm open about my condition if they ask, but otherwise people just assume I'm a bit loony, which I like :P


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15 Jul 2011, 2:51 pm

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A word to those who call Asperger's a disorder: we do not call it a "disorder" here. That's what I always say when our local society meets, that we do not call it a disorder here, I'm a stickler for that, we call it a condition if anything.


It is worse then calling a n****r, a n****r. A disorder. I am not that successful by no means, but it is easy to believe I might be worse of if I was an NT.



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15 Jul 2011, 3:44 pm

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Do you ever think that girls or women had ever tell you that you're weird? Because they've told me an it hurt a little bit. :cry:


The difference between me and other people is so extreme that I don't bother and don't care.



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15 Jul 2011, 3:49 pm

Sure, I would normally get this by going non-verbal with a group after coming across as social. After I'd exhausted my charm and started speaking less, it was not uncommon to get that label or attitude in some form. People are social animals and you have to maintain verbal relationships and exchange pleasantries with them or they get suspicious that you are the "other" than mommy warned them about.

Seen it many times. I refer to it as being "spotted".

It's mentioned by the author of "look me in the eye" as well. You can't ignore people and stand apart. They don't like it.



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16 Jul 2011, 2:46 pm

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Yes but I'll never know if it was a compliment or an insult.


Assume it's a compliment.


I would take that a step further and say not only assume, but embrace it as a compliment.

Unless your weirdness is dangerous, own it. This goes for guys and girls.



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16 Jul 2011, 2:51 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:
SiegePerilous wrote:
There are people who make whole careers out of being weird. Look at Frank Zappa, or Tom Waits.

The trick is to develop your own unique brand of weird. Then you stop being weird and start becoming memorable.


Wow. That's really astute advice. :)


Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. Lady Gaga as another example. Her whole persona gives others permission to be weird.



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16 Jul 2011, 2:58 pm

monkees4va wrote:
all the time, kinda the weird one of my group. I'm open about my condition if they ask, but otherwise people just assume I'm a bit loony, which I like :P


I've begun telling more and more people I meet straight away that I have AS, especially potential romantic interests. Now this might not work for everyone, but I've found that it gives me a sense of freedom to be myself. That revelation hasn't scared anyone away yet (that I know of).



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25 Jul 2011, 10:18 am

AsteroidNap wrote:
monkees4va wrote:
all the time, kinda the weird one of my group. I'm open about my condition if they ask, but otherwise people just assume I'm a bit loony, which I like :P


I've begun telling more and more people I meet straight away that I have AS, especially potential romantic interests. Now this might not work for everyone, but I've found that it gives me a sense of freedom to be myself. That revelation hasn't scared anyone away yet (that I know of).


Assuming my diagnosis comes through (eventually) I may start doing this. I think most of my friends/mates think of me as 'slightly odd but harmless' anyway' so at least they'll now know the reason why. :)


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25 Jul 2011, 10:55 am

yes, i have indeed been told this quite often, also from both sides of the mirror.
i stopped counting the times i heared "you're weird", combined with a death-stare or turning away.
however, there are also instances in which i have been called "different" and "intriging"; which is the good part of weird.

this is also what i turned myself into, after getting comments about those comments by female friends.
i got my first impressions from 'autistic' to 'weird/quircky' years ago, but still struggled to get fruther down the normality scale.
after those comments; i settled on being 'intriging', something i get better at every time i try



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25 Jul 2011, 10:25 pm

jrjones9933 wrote:
Lots of teenage girls hate themselves with a passion you and I can barely comprehend. It makes them mean, sometimes. Show some compassion to the sad girls, and leave the rude ones to grow up a little.


Agreed. Also, take time to know a girl you think is out of your league. Turns out that she might not be totally out of your league after all.



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25 Jul 2011, 11:09 pm

ConfusedDude wrote:
Do you ever think that girls or women had ever tell you that you're weird? Because they've told me an it hurt a little bit. :cry:



I am 41 and I haven't had women tell me I am weird, instead they bite their lip and wait until I make a mistake to unload on me, for whatever slight I might have caused. In my experience, most women enjoy the passive, backdoor route.