the kiss test (a how to for aspies and dating)

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I've found something akin to "I'm going to kiss you" or "I would like to kiss you now" preferable to asking in question form. As a male, one of my functions in a coupling is to be dominant. Therefore if a statement can be made instead of a question, it should be a statement.

example. Instead of "So, what do you do for a living? try "Tell me about your work life" etc.

Don't avoid all questions, some are fine. But whenever possible/convenient, convert questions to imperative statements. The girl will be promted either way, and the statement bears more confidence and dominance. Both of which I (and I assume many here) lack...and are highly desired traits. So emulate them ^.^

well, it would work in situations where a woman wants to be submissive.

but many women, including myself, are not submissive at all. i prefer to have a certain measure of control, so that my partner and i are on equal footing (or alternate between having the dominant position). a mutually initiated kiss is good for me, but when that is not possible, being asked is best.

hearing someone make statements instead of questions sounds alarmingly like a job interview (tell me about your experience with Acme Corp.), or a test question (explain the function of an internal combustion engine), and it would feel rather uncomfortable for me on a date. it assumes that i must answer, almost more like an interrogation but i can't exactly explain how.

suffice it to say there would not be a second date with me as i would not be comfortable with that style of conversation.

i can do that. You want the regular otto cycle or is a wankel acceptable too?

lol what's a "wankel"? (snicker)

Wankel engine (otherwise known as a rotary).

Instead of pistons and a crankshaft to convert the linear motion into rotation, the rotary is immediatly turned into rotation.

thanks for the info. sounds more efficient and less likely to break down.

that animated gif is hypnotizing....

Not really, but enough thread hijack.

So is it ok to use embedded questions and commands to get that outcome you want, then? MMM so you what to use the indirect method, don't you?

Are you familiar with PUA? Dones Milton Hyland Erickson ring any bells for you?