Strange things that you find attractive in a man/woman

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I have an extreme attraction to effeminate "emo/goth/scene" (sorry for the labels but it's easier than describing them in detail) guys, and also to a small amount of occasional drag. My fiancee is bisexual and he is very effeminate - he paints his nails (black), wears eyeliner, colors his hair (it's bleached right now but he says he wants to put a pink streak in it), and wears a kilt sometimes, which he calls a "man-skirt." He is also the sweetest guy I have ever known; he loves me for just who I am, has a nice sense of humor, and we have a lot in common.

I think perhaps this attraction originally stemmed from the fact that a lot of the gay/bi/effeminate male friends I have are very handsome, but kind at the same time; also, they have a closer eye when it comes to grooming. It also stems from my support of GLBT rights and the idea that if someone is bi, they're not likely to roam about spewing homophobic nonsense.

I love men who (are)...

-Gentle (not 'gentlemen)
-Truly kind to others
-Able to understand themselves
-Truly respect women as people
-Fight for the little guy
-Love me for who I am, not who they want me to be.
-Hardworking

In odd things?
Those who...

-Aren't afraid to cry
-Are shy or anxious
-Are into geeky things like me (like DnD! )
-Are intensely logical in debates, but GREAT at emotional communication. I mean, I can't read your face, you really have to be okay with me frequently asking whats going on. o.o
-Aren't turned off by my masculine traits, or that I'll probably make more money than they will.
-Did I mention gentle? I'll reiterate. Gentle. O.O So very important.

A foul mouth (not in the hygienic sense). There's just something about hearing a woman talk dirty. I can also relax more around people who talk like that because I know I don't have to watch what I say as closely.

Buck teeth. I don't know why, I think they're cute.

Pink or green clothes.

And of course all of the stereotypical things men like but very few men will actually own up to liking. (implants, makeup, photoshop, etc.)

I think skinny guys (so long as they are as tall or taller than me) are better looking than super-ripped guys.

Oh, Gwenwyn, I agree with the part of not being turned off by a girl having guy traits. I've always been a tomboy so it's great when a guy doesn't expect a girl to be wearing make-up and do everything girl-ish.

Competitiveness, I know this isn't strange in the NT world, but I love when a guy wants to compete with me.

Super-intelligent women, perhaps a degree in astrophysics, mathematics, Russian literature....etc.
Nerdy (if you have a star wars cookie cutter set for example)
I also had to tell a girl once to stop speaking Tolkien Elvish to me as it was driving me crazy (in a good way).