Have you NEVER had a girlfriend. If so, why?

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I've never had a girlfriend.

What do I blame? I don't think it's my looks, but I can't be sure...I really don't know how to rate male looks. I see some pretty fat guys with decent-looking girlfriends.

Personality? Yep...Aspergers....introverted.....not sociable.....don't have a very masculine personality. Don't like sports or stuff like that. And I'm definitely not a bad boy.

I'm unemployed right now, so that obviously plays some role. But I've been employed in the past, and it didn't seem to help my case.

Because I've never met anyone bi or gay. Ffff they must exist somewhere!

I just don't care.
I do fancy girls, but I don't like being touched, think kissing is a meaningless, awkward and by no means enjoyable thing to do, and I seriously wouldn't know what to say to the same person every single day. And contrary to my peers, who seem to have a desperate need to chase every female creature on this planet, I don't have much of a sex drive that would justify going through all this misery.
Perhaps if I stumble across somebody interesting and attractive down the road I would bother to try and have a relationship but right now I'm fine with (that part of) my life.

Lack of trying, misunderstandings, the usual.

Because I...

1) don't have a job,
2) My health is bad,
3) I can't drive a car
4) My bad body odor turns women off. My health and hygiene is pretty bad. I have a lot of pubic hair too and women don't like that.

I also vomit a lot (especially after I wake up) and I always feel hungry, even after I've just eaten. I'm also weak and tired most of the time.

I wish I was as strong as say Lance Armstrong or Alberto Contador (you know road racing champions) because then many girls would be after me because girls love strong and athletic men.

Because girls think I'm ugly plus I'm pretty nerdy

Girls in my neck of the woods aren't into personality, it's all about looks

honestly, i dont know. According to everyone i fit into their looking for list but get turned down. :shrugs:

Society is changing from what I remember it being. Now that I'm in college, everyone has a relationship, and prefers their "space". So talking to people becomes more complex.

I want to give up on trying to find someone. I'm starting to use my illness as an excuse to gain peoples sympathies even though I don't say/mention anything about it, I still feel like I tried to gain their sympathy on purpose.

When I do gain someones sympathy/praise for something it feels wrong.
I kinda wish I could relive the days before this Ego of myself was formed.
I miss the days where I could accept criticism.
Lately, in college I feel selfish, and only thinking of myself.

The only ones who enjoy me are those "smiling toddlers" at the supermarket.
You wave at them and they wave back, You smile at them, they smile back.
Children at a very young age, don't really think about race/gender/diseases.
I guess it makes them easier to talk to, since they don't know what an Asperger/Autistic person is.

I have had 11 partners, and never have had or ever will have a "real" girlfriend. I didn't decide on this until I was in my late 20s.

I tried, really hard, and when I was a teenager all I wanted was a nice girlfriend. I failed miserably at courtship, again and again. But I won't blame myself. It's not my fault I have AS.

The focus gradually turned to losing my virginity, and I have long decided that ultra-casual relationships are, for me, far more genuine, rewarding, and fulfilling than the "real" thing. In fact I have only been with one person more than once.

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