How to turn someone down: aspie style

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Tell him you found another man. Then find a male friend who he does not know (maybe some distant cousin) to take a few pix with you so you can post them on your FB or something.

Then after a few weeks "break it off" and tell him that the relationship was "damaging" to you, and that you dont want a relationship for a long while.

Make a fake profile to divert his interests to a new girl.

Being too nice or too harsh does not apply. This is not a matter of demeanor.

You simply need to be CLEAR what you want.

Try something like:

I do not want to meet, I am not interested in pursuing a relationship with you. There are several compatibility issues that I have recognized that would prevent anything between us from developing, and I don't feel invested enough to be compelled to explain. Suffice that I am not, and will not be interested. I apologize for any misunderstanding, I did not mean to lead you on. But again, I am not interested.

Of course reword it to suit your personality, but, the key is to be clear that you are simply not interested in a relationship of any sort. After delivering your clear message, do not engage in any further conversations, and unfriend them. Remove access to you as much as possible.

If you genuinely feel comfortable with and desire them as a friend, also add something like this;

If you would like to remain friends, and only ever just friends, we can remain in contact; However I want to be clear, that is all it will ever be, and any indication that you wish to pursue anything more and I will cease all further contact.

Just my 2c