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31 Jul 2011, 1:56 pm

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When I look around msyelf new couples spend more time with each other... that is logical since they love each other.
And they spend less time with their friends, whom they known for a longer time.

Why would people who spend less time with friends, even consider posting on a forum?

It is the way of things.

Understood.

But it still implies that frequent posting on WP is often:

1. A surrogate for a romantic relationship
2. A vehicle for establishing a romantic relationship

The implication is informed by your perspective. For most of us, it's simply a matter of time. Most of have obligations to work, family (children, parents, both), school, etc., and a limited amount of time to give to "elective activities." Where one finds the relationship isn't really relevant - that a relationship takes precious time to nurture and develop is.....there are only so many hours in the day.
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31 Jul 2011, 2:55 pm

HopeGrows wrote:

Grisha wrote:

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Understood.

But it still implies that frequent posting on WP is often:

1. A surrogate for a romantic relationship
2. A vehicle for establishing a romantic relationship

Agreed. How much I post on WP is related much more to how much I have to do at a given time than anything else.

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31 Jul 2011, 3:00 pm

Grisha wrote:

Asterisp wrote:

Understood.

But it still implies that frequent posting on WP is often:

1. A surrogate for a romantic relationship
2. A vehicle for establishing a romantic relationship

It implies no such thing. Frequent posting could simply imply a desire to understand AS better; or a desire to help others; or a desire to commiserate.

I think you're simply projecting your own desires onto the community.

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31 Jul 2011, 3:56 pm

I make at most 5-10 posts a day now, often make none for a week or so, whereas I used to make upwards of fifty.
Now that I'm in a relationship, I'm not interested in it as much anymore.
Hardly means I'm here looking for relationships, as opposed to wanting to spend time with an actual person instead of posting online all day.

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31 Jul 2011, 4:05 pm

Because they hate us

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31 Jul 2011, 4:06 pm

Because they won't come here to whine about being "relationshipless" anymore.

The former top whiners are the same who disappear once they get into a relationship. As if it's that is their only AS-related problem in life, once they are in a relationship, all their social ineptness problems *puff* disappear.

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31 Jul 2011, 4:06 pm

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Because they hate us

We're quite hateable. Especially you. :-P

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31 Jul 2011, 4:10 pm

Esther wrote:

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People lose all capacity to be interesting once they get coupled

This.

It's not that I'm disinterested in what's happening on WP; it's just I've become even less interesting. :lol:

Hi Esther! :lol:

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31 Jul 2011, 4:11 pm

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Because people are sharing their lives with their boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands and wives rather than sharing their lives with tens of thousands of anonymous strangers.

Weird.

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31 Jul 2011, 4:12 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Because they won't come here to whine about being "relationshipless".

The former top whiners are the same who disappear once they get into a relationship. It's as if it's that is their only AS-related problem in life.

That's why I'm posting less but it's also because I'm obsessed & it's hard for me to focus on much else besides her unless it's something that i have to or should do.

I felt that was one of my biggest AS problems. I sorted out & understand alot of my other AS issues & I don't really feel like they were limiting me as much as not having someone who I connected with & understood me did

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31 Jul 2011, 4:16 pm

Grisha wrote:

Tequila wrote:

Because people are sharing their lives with their boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands and wives rather than sharing their lives with tens of thousands of anonymous strangers.

Weird.

Totally.

Wait, tens of thousands?

~feels famous~

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31 Jul 2011, 4:18 pm

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tens of thousands of anonymous strangers

"There will be no dawn for men."

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31 Jul 2011, 5:43 pm

i've noticed how people in relationships evaporate, and it annoys me for a silly reason... these people are evidence that aspies CAN and DO have successful relationships, but when they stop posting... the community quickly forgets they exist and goes back to complaining that aspies are doomed to singlehood.

*cough* ummmm of course i am happy for their success :lol:

for me, WP is in kind of an escape from aspects of my life, so i suppose that if i did not need to escape those things anymore then i might post less. but i really love the community and some of the people here, so maybe not. let's just consider me an obsessive anomaly k?

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31 Jul 2011, 5:51 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

let's just consider me an obsessive anomaly k?

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31 Jul 2011, 6:36 pm

Grisha wrote:

But it still implies that frequent posting on WP is often:

1. A surrogate for a romantic relationship
2. A vehicle for establishing a romantic relationship

Not really. I posted here before just to talk about autism and learn other people's perspectives. Now, I have far more people to discuss these topics with IRL, so I have no need to be here as much. As a result of this newfound social life, I also managed to get involved in a relationship, so now I post on this forum even less frequently. I still browse it while I eat or listen to music sometimes, though, but not really in-depth. I also mostly go on the Love and Dating forum now to learn about other people's perspectives on relationships.

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31 Jul 2011, 8:42 pm

Am I going to stop posting when I enter a relationship? HELL NO!! !

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