If it turned out your partner was transsexual...

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MtFs can opt for hormone therapy, so they'll have the same amount of hair as a woman would.

Hey, sign me up for that! Shaving hurts.

You'd also grow breasts, which I'm sure you'd ha...

Nevermind.

lol. True enough. If I had stayed with the bi girls I used to date I could see myself considering it.

I'd be more shocked by the fact that I couldn't tell than anything else, but I don't think I could get over the fact she was born male. I would be interested in how everything functions though, like can post-op trangendered have orgasms, etc.
I imagine I wouldn't stop loving her, but sexual activities would feel too weird.

I think it would depend on how she told me. If she brought me on a show like Jerry Springer to tell me that she's a man; I might get violent. However if she told me about it in a way where I had time to think things over; I would probably stay. I'm a borderline asexual & looks & things aren't really important to me; what is is personality.
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Wouldn't bother me. If thats what they wanted to be happy, it is their choice and it wouldn't change my feelings towards them.

As per other responses... the question presumes that the partner's choice/condition/whatever is a surprise to me. How I would react would very much vary on the circumstances.

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I'll do the internet version of biting my tongue, or else risk being banned, at the fact that someone could refer to a human being as "it".

Suffice it to say that neither chromosomes nor anatomy make one this versus that sex,
or else the topic, that being transexuals, would not be at hand in the first place.

I'd be delighted. Why do you ask?

@Valentine - leaving aside Noop's yet-to-be-ascertained intent in posting in the first place (odds on Noop being a geeky available transperson living near yours truly being sadly low - oh, and like ten years older ^^), I think the "it" refers to the situation, not the person.

I do think it is important for a fully transsexual person to reveal that fact early in the relationship, if only because many people wouldn't be comfortable with it.

In my experience I am not attracted to the MtF type. Also, I don't go for anyone who is ostensibly male... I prefer a moderately masculine cisfemale.

But to answer the question directly, I think that if my covertly MtF partner were to reveal that she had to have medical treatments to get where she was in terms of physical form, I hope that I would be understanding. I can't guaratee that I would be unphased, but I really don't like the idea of throwing a fit and trashing the relationship.

I was asking out of curosity and to partly see what people might think of me. I am indeed a transperson (a fairly nervous transperson who hasn't 'come out of the closet' yet so to speak, but a transperson nonetheless).

I'd be upset that I didn't know earlier. By the time they were a partner I should already have already been told that.

> depends how it was handled
> it may or may not be a shock
> would adapt

Wow, I can't believe the attitudes on here. If someone presents as a woman, they ARE a woman, not a 'man'. There is also sex and gender, they are separate things.

As someone who is transgender myself, it's kind of painful to see so many of you dismissing trans people as being 'dishonest' somehow. No, what is being dishonest is living in a body that you are not comfortable in, that isn't YOU.

Wow. Really, wow. My fellow autistics, you disappoint me.