Not all NT women are shallow gold digging b*tches

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WOW you sound really lucky. I mean what you typed in your original post is EXACTLY what I am feeling. Yet whenever I say even half of that, I am guaranteed to turn everyone off. I just wish I could run into someone who will be able to hear everything about my desperation in its entirety AND fall for me.

When I read the first response of your now-girlfriend, she said that she never knew there is a guy who wants this and she was assuming she would have to compromise. Now, THIS is a big clue. I mean there are PLENTY of desperate guys. So could it be that whenever a guy is desperate the girl assumes that he is desperate FOR SEX; and thats why it never occured to her that there is any guy desperate for emotional closeness?

Now if thats the case then most likely the girls are wrong in assuming this. I mean take me for example. Just like you wrote, I don't care that much about sex either; but I am dying to have emotional closeness with someone. Could it be that I fail to convey it clearly enough so girls STILL assume I want sex even when its not the case? It is possible I don't convey emotions as clearly as you do since my posts tend to be more on "analytical" and "logical" side let along the fact that they are way too long. But trust me, I feel exact same thing you do. I just wish someone could look past my long winded logical posts and understand how I truly feel.

He "looks" like a super ugly version of his girlfriend.

You're probably an ugly version of someone too.. if you give me your pic I can find someone.

In my view this couldn't possibly be more true, if guys could simply accept this fact there would be far fewer threads on the subject.

Personally, it's far easier said than done. For me it's really important that my depression be adequately treated, but beyond that it really depends too much on external factors - not the least of which is romantic success: Catch-22

If I could just learn how to be punched in the gut romantically and still think I'm "all that" I probably wouldn't be single so much.

A little luck wouldn't hurt either...

My hairline has been in that exact same spot since my early 20s. lol@full head of hair

Your rite I am EXTREMELY LUCKY to have found her I have made lots of post with this kind of theme on lots of sites & lots of women & some guys got b!tchy with me over it. But I've kinda had the opposite attitude & approach on other sites & offline & I had no luck at all except for maybe bad. That kind of attitude & approach may turn most women off but Aspie guys are NOT like most guys & the kind of women best suited for most of us would not be the stereotypical NT girl. I think that us Aspie guys are very unique & different from most guys so the typical approach & playing by typical NT rules may not be good for us & could actully be a hindrance. I think perhaps embracing our uniqueness & differences could help us find non-typical women which we may have much better luck with.


I do think she was referring to the sex thing there as well but I could be wrong. I'm not sure if women generally assume desperate guys are looking for sex; Megz is unique when it comes to sex because she's kind of asexual(I'm sort of a borderline asexual BTW incase your wondering) so it may be different with her than most women. Some women have said that a desperate attitude is unattractive but I've been attracted to plenty of desperate women only to get rejected by em so I don't get why desperation would be unattractive sense I've been attracted to it.


My post used to be more analytical & logical but I had a mental breakdown after things went bad with my ex 8 years ago & I spent the next 5 seeing psychs & taking meds. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality & Codependency along with lots of other things instead of AS. I spent a lot of time after getting lost in my depression & making lots of post about things trying get help with dealing, wanting sympathy & to better understand the issues I was having. I've come a very long way. I kinda have some of those characteristics still & some of those issues but I am different now than how I was then & before; I doubt I would get those diagnoses now but I am still aware that I do have different issues but I manage em fairly well for the most part if I'm able to look at things analytically instead of getting caught up in the moment of my feelings & I've gotten a little better about looking at things outside of myself lately but I still have to be careful... Anyways I guess I kinda learned to better understand & express my feelings by dealing with em & being kind of analytical about em at times.
I probably shouldn't take anymore about that in this thread because I'll derail it

Yes, I think that's a pretty common assumption. I'm in college, so you could imagine what the dating atmosphere is like to lead me to that conclusion. Everyone is either with their high school bf/gf or just looking for a hook up Or they're a conservative Christian (not that there's anything wrong with that, just limits their dating opportunities to other conservative Christians).

Jono's FB profile:

http://en-gb.facebook.com/people/Jono-L ... 1317832465




Moral of the story:

Aspie guys should make large tattoos and post pics half-naked in order to get a hot blonde girlfriend , don't forget to do sexy poses.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 04 Aug 2011, 2:46 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Personality in all truth is inner beauty. A few years back my mentor and I were talking about physical appearance and personality, he shared with me this insightful phrase that still get me thinking. If someone gives you an expensively wrapped gift when you open it, you might find s**t inside. If someone gives you a plan brown paper bag you might find a diamond inside it!

Maybe... and you may find another s**t.

Besides, most people wouldn't touch a shit-coated paper bag.

We all make judgements on people's physical appearance quicker that making judgements on there personality.
Then you meet someone for the first irl in the first few seconds you make an judgement on there "outer beauty" there physical appearance, before taking the time to talk to that person to "see" there "inner beauty".

That can be summed up with this idiom, Never judge a book by its cover.

hmm, i should get the tatoo then since sexy topless photos did nothing for me.

The thing is....

Laura surely proved that she's not a shallow NT digger-bla bla bla....

But what about Jono? Is he really not shallow (like many NT guys)?

Why did he pick this gorgeous healthy girl to ask her out? Why didn't he go for a girl with a teacher syndrome or with some other facial condition? I am sure they have support group and communities and he can be in contact with some girls with this same condition. I am sure some girls with teacher syndrome would kill to get him a bf like him( like I said before, he's really handsome for someone with that condition.)

I am not quite sure if this an ideal exemplary story of an non-shallow love. My instinct tells me otherwise.

I am the ugly version of this dude:

Irrelivent. Not many girls whine here on a regular basis about shallow guys. If they did, I'd post a pic of Peirce Brosman and his wife.