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12 Sep 2011, 3:21 pm

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I have given online dating a try and my experiences from a couple of sites have been very positive. I joined a site a week ago, have received plenty of mail/attention from very eligible people and already have had a few dates. People have been who they have claimed to be and all have asked to meet again. I need to start making choices soon which is going to be the difficult part.

ok. which dating platform are you working for?

I'm sorry... I'm just quite happy right now

I stayed away from the dating scene for too long and am a bit overwhelmed by the amount of attention I've gotten after having taken some of the chances. Also, I think looking from places with high ratio of like-minded people helps.

I literally just got a text from somebody very wonderful planning a trip from London to Helsinki...

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12 Sep 2011, 3:30 pm

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I think things have to be tailored to your market, too. When I was doing online dating, I had the word "Mensa" in my profile. When I removed it, I got a lot more interest (though not all of it welcome).

"Mensa" would have been a total turn-on for me and might have caused me to respond to a profile that I might have otherwise overlooked. So if I'm the type of guy you're interested in, put it back! :wink:

I will, when I re-enter the market! Mostly I got a lot of dumb messages, like, "You don't look like you're in Mensa." I have a feeling these were people who were not regular meeting-attendees and so would have nothing to base that on... :wink:

Mentioning Mensa on a profile would definitely be a turn-on for me. There is something called quality over quantity, as you know

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12 Sep 2011, 3:31 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

^^ it doesn't work because you'd look shy in an almost-blank profile or anything like that (those who told you they thought you're shy just used that as a convo starter...trust me).

It's all a matter of Supply and Demand, any female profile on any dating site , even it's totally blank, would still receive messages.

there was a really big difference in the number of messages between the blank profile and the filled profile (and i didn't even have a photo in the nearly-blank one). some were spammers, but some were distinct people who ONLY messaged the nearly-blank one. those people sent different sorts of messages with a different approach. some did seem to make an assumption i was shy, by prodding me to fill my profile and talk about myself and so on.

i don't think men with nearly-blank profiles would get messages, and in fact i didn't reply to messages from men who had profiles like that, except to tell them why i am was not interested (the reason being that the profiles were empty so i had no idea what they were like).

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12 Sep 2011, 3:38 pm

Lilya wrote:

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ok. which dating platform are you working for?

I'm sorry... I'm just quite happy right now

it just sounded too perfect :lol:

good luck with the London guy!

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12 Sep 2011, 3:41 pm

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ok. which dating platform are you working for?

I'm sorry... I'm just quite happy right now

it just sounded too perfect :lol:

good luck with the London guy!

Many thanks... I'm feeling lucky

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12 Sep 2011, 3:43 pm

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Well mentioning Mensa is a much better approach than listing every single book you have ever read, if I still had a dating profile somewhere I would post some of the 1,000 word manifestos I've seen... :roll:

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12 Sep 2011, 3:44 pm

Honestly, the word "Mensa" would be a turn off to me because I'd assume that she only wants a genius guy and would give the impression that she's elitist (not really attractive to the mere mortals). You did the wise choice by removing it.

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12 Sep 2011, 3:54 pm

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I want a genius... :nerdy:

And admittedly I've been to "elitist" schools and social gatherings.... :oops:

There's a market niche for everyone.

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12 Sep 2011, 4:36 pm

Lilya wrote:

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I want a genius... :nerdy:

And admittedly I've been to "elitist" schools and social gatherings.... :oops:

There's a market niche for everyone.

Yes, Lilya, this is how I approach it, too. If I'm going to do the thing, I'm going to be choosy about it.

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12 Sep 2011, 10:39 pm

It doesn't matter what a female posts on a dating site. She will still get responses.

Dating sites have a worse male-female ratio than a Star Trek convention...

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12 Sep 2011, 11:30 pm

SadAspy wrote:

It doesn't matter what a female posts on a dating site. She will still get responses.

This is true.

You can also look like a man but as long as it says "female" you'll get about 100+ emails a day.

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13 Sep 2011, 7:21 am

hale_bopp wrote:

SadAspy wrote:

It doesn't matter what a female posts on a dating site. She will still get responses.

This is true.

You can also look like a man but as long as it says "female" you'll get about 100+ emails a day.

I have to say that this is probably true if you're young, like you guys are. This is not so much true when you're in your 40's, like me. It's okay, I understand the market, and I'm picky, too.

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13 Sep 2011, 3:50 pm

I am getting tired to see "The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho." as favorite book on okcupid profile, even sometimes with no other book!! !

Oh C'mon!! ! The story has only an entertainment value with a mediocre morale and it's just that. I swear that if I see a "The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho" one more time on some profile, I am gonna message the girl and tell her to f**k off!! ! or "FUKC U FUKC U FUKC FUKC U FUKC U FUKC U FUKC U FUKC trolllolololololol "

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13 Sep 2011, 3:53 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

funny you should mention this, one of my top pet hates is Coelho fandom. yet another reason to avoid dating sites, yay!

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13 Sep 2011, 3:56 pm

Check the edited post , anna :lol:

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