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Kiseki
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17 Oct 2011, 10:04 am

I'm 32 and I've personally given up, but I still long to just connect with someone. I don't know why it is so hard. If only my iPod was a human :(


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29 Nov 2011, 10:33 am

I too am 29 and I've given I'm never going to meet a second person who's my type the first woman who its my type that I met was married and moved to Hawaii after leaving her husband



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29 Nov 2011, 10:41 am

It's never too late.
Read the other day about a 95 year old woman who married her 80 year old boyfriend (cougars ftw)
whom she met on...wait for it...
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29 Nov 2011, 12:00 pm

By the time I'm 30 I'll be half dead, so yes, it's getting to the point where it's too late for me.


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29 Nov 2011, 12:41 pm

There's no age limit.



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29 Nov 2011, 11:11 pm

Now I dunno if they were autistic or not but I know a pair that met and got married when they were in their 50s. For the guy it was his second marriage, for the gal it was her first. But they go together real well.



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29 Nov 2011, 11:14 pm

I would advise not dating after you have deceased. That's just icky, and illegal most places besides.

Until then, it's fair game if you want to have a go at it.


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30 Nov 2011, 1:32 am

I'm planning to start dating after my 56th birthday.



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03 Dec 2011, 5:04 pm

people that say it's 'never too late' are full of it, yes it can be too late. the longer you wait to start the worse it looks to your peers and you'll be labeled as a freak to them they really won't "get it." it sends up red flags to the opposite sex the older you are with no relevant experience; I should know, been told this a number of times....with that said I don't think you're there yet at 28 or 29. just my thoughts.



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03 Dec 2011, 8:52 pm

HotRetroHoney wrote:
people that say it's 'never too late' are full of it, yes it can be too late. the longer you wait to start the worse it looks to your peers and you'll be labeled as a freak to them they really won't "get it."

That, if you care what other people think, but what if you give a crap?

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it sends up red flags to the opposite sex the older you are with no relevant experience; I should know, been told this a number of times....with that said I don't think you're there yet at 28 or 29. just my thoughts.

From what I get here on WP, some women here don't find unexperienced guys a turn off but rather care about their personalities (even though personality has something to do with being lonely at a certain age). So, it looks like it depends on the mindsetting of your potential partner or people around, and just that.



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20 Apr 2015, 1:14 pm

League_Girl wrote:
My husband was 32 when we met and he had never had a girlfriend before. I'm his only woman he's ever had.


interesting, nice to know, he probably had to be well-established, financially stable in order for him to get a second look from you



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20 Apr 2015, 4:46 pm

Adam82 wrote:
If you're above 25, and have never dated or had a GF, are you beyond hope? I have had periods where I've been interested in someone in particular, but was either too shy to ask her out, or did and got rejected.

I'm now 29. Is this too late? If so, I can at least devote myself to other things in life that make me happy. I can continue with my teaching, and my hobbies. A lot of Asperger men have trouble with relationships, so maybe I should just accept this and focus on other things in life


The older you get the lower your odds become, I wish I could say it will get easier, but it won't. If you're content with your teaching and hobbies I'd say love the hell out of them.



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20 Apr 2015, 7:37 pm

there are times I sometimes feel bitter and resentful towards women because guys have to be the initiators



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20 Apr 2015, 9:13 pm

PTSmorrow wrote:
Possibly for older folks it's more about companionship and personal qualities. Sure a woman in her 20's or 30's will see things differently due to the fact of career and maybe family planning. Around 60 and retired, people get more relaxed and develop altered standards.


Please, I'm in my 20s and want a relationship for companionship and personal qualities. I've made up my mind about that before I was a teen, before I even had my first real crush.



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20 Apr 2015, 9:27 pm

I think it is never too late. There is always a chance/possibility.



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21 Apr 2015, 12:50 am

MrBear wrote:
I think it is never too late. There is always a chance/possibility.

True. It keeps decreasing but never reaches a zero.