LexF wrote:
Do people really think that having a few books published somehow magically solves all your relationship problems? Ah, if only it could be that simple....
I'll tip-toe around this one a bit, because I think it's fair to point out that the more functional among us (I'm one of them) should at least count our blessings before we whine too hard.
There is a clear NT belief system that basically states that once you're successful, dating and marriage should come together easily. The notion is that once you've buried the great adult "are you a loser?" test, the rest should simply follow.
The joke for me on the "find a nice girl" thing is that I have found plenty of nice girls. But, them being nice girls doesn't magically make a relationship spring forth, fully formed and functional. I happen to be a bit more able to date than most folks around here and I still end up with huge problems when it comes time to turn the corner in a relationship and get serious.
NTs can be downright obnoxious in their willingness to oversimplify things.
Moog wrote:
You don't go out with people just because you/they have a boy/girlfriend vacancy. That's how awful marriages start
I think this is one of the great disservices that Anglo-American culture does to young people. The whole "you're a freak if you're not constantly dating someone, anyone" thing.
It's funny, because I remember a South American girl from college who was drop-dead gorgeous and everyone gave her s**t for being single. She tried to explain to them that dating in lieu of boredom is a thing in the English-speaking world and people elsewhere don;t do it anywhere near as pathologically as we do in our society.
Shebakoby wrote:
I am the nice woman that nobody went to find!
Well, I've found you. Problem solved according to all the advice I've been given.
Shut it down folks! Our work here is done . . .