American Men dating in UK

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That is something that come from building trust over time--being dependable, loyal, there for her when she is going through rough times, etc.

Theme park. Ride the 'coaster. Be sure you don't have a reaction like throwing up first.

Usually the first date is pretty tame, like dinner or something, and you can build up from there.

But the american way doesn't rule out the trust-building over time, that's why there's 1st date , 2nd date.....etc

Either you want someone or you don't. If you want someone and you're not looking, you're a moron.

But still the subtext constantly screaming "I'M TRYING TO DECIDE IF I LIKE YOU ENOUGH TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU AND MAYBE MORE" so blatantly that it's more text than subtext. Seems so inelegant. I could never do that.

Also, my favourite girls have boyfriends, because they're awesome and lovable so why wouldn't they? How do you date a girl with a boyfriend? Doesn't compute.

What I intended to learn for this is. If American done will in UK, then American approach to dating would be more successful over here. Some dating books recommend the American approach but where do they get their research.

Some guys actually use that as their text. It's like removing your clothes in a public place.

That sounds like a dangerous snake. That instantly makes you cool.

you are onto something there... i read something similar in Quirkology: The curious science of everyday life by Richard Wiseman:

http://richardwiseman.wordpress.com/qui ... yday-life/

if i recall correctly from the book, couples on a first date bonded closely when they shared an experience of mild fear (or embarrassment, as long as they were being goofy together).

I am as cool as that black person version of family guy. If you think that NTs
have made me insane( especially the black ones, then you are right). There
was the time some teenagers was hanging around my sports mobile and climbing
into the neighbours yard. They got a taste of high frequency wave from some highly powerful bose speakers
, it was enough to make my neighbours cat screen, which it did. It was dancing like a catfish on a pole.

There was a time when someone in their car showed me the fingers. He broke up him exhaust pipe on the road humps
trying to get away from me. Good that v6 suv did come in handy.

I think the British way is having consequence on our society. Where those who are expert at social networking
and a lot of drinking, and not much else, are having more children. In the generations to come, you will see
a stark difference between Americans and British.

You work hard in Britain, you are left behind, while others are building networks of friend and
relationships.

You work hard in America, you are well respected and usually more attractive as a result. You leave the office
late, DRIVE down to a bar, sober and find a nice girl.

I can tell from this that you've never been here.

From what you're saying though about Britain it sounds like the same types of NT's who are successful over here are successful over there and the 'responsible' types either find another much more old fashion venue, have a rare moment of luck at a bar where quality meets opportunity, or go on single, but in most cases it sounds like outcome is roughly identical. IMO you're not seeing the failings of the 'British' system so much as the tendencies of the human primate all across the board.

You're forgetting the hypergamy, Pole women like Brits, Brit women like Americans.
Lebanese would like all the above.

The wealthier/Stronger your tribe is, the more attractive to the weaker tribe you are.

The truth is that there are more chavs and rudeboys over here then the States. If they had to live in the US, their high status would be brought down a peg or two. They woundn't have the money to spend on fags and booze. They would find it hard to get home from the boozer with 4 lane interstate freeway in between. And no rude boy would have an harem of women in council
apartments supported by state.

I leave it up you to imagination what kind of people would do well living in the states..

Lol, I'm not lost on the chav problem. The problem here though is still, if you're hoping that America is this nice clean environment where being successful in business exceeds macho or social charisma any day of the week - there are a lot of other Americans here who can verify that its not true. If you're not a bag of laughs you're in trouble. If you're not a paragon of social conformity who knows exactly what to do, say, or think, the right posture, etc. you're in trouble. If you have those things, even if you don't have money or much success, you may not have great long term relationships and you may be penning more child support checks than counting great relationships you had but you will be the guy who women are up for slumming with and a good guy trying to go to a bar and meet women is completely out of his element over here as well. Being an aspie here is being an aspie there or anywhere else it seems, we lack the social protocol and ability and from that we typically find out just how much social skills matter and just how much it strikes a nerve with the opposite sex (these days male or female for that matter) when you don't have them or don't have your life history lived along the prescribed narrative. The one benefit of one person going anywhere else is that they're exotic meat - whether that's a Brit coming to the US or an American going to the UK, it can give you some mileage - maybe not tons but some.

During my three months in Redruth, I found the village charming, and the drinking shocking, but I soon adapted. Every weekend night an ambulance sits outside The Rose Cottage (The Rottage as we called it) ready for alcohol overdoses and stitching up people after fights. 18 is the drinking age, but I swear they let Harry Potter looking 15 year olds drink.

No one ever bothered me, but they could tell I was an American from about 6 blocks away. I had a great time there. I miss the Trefusis Arms...