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21 Nov 2011, 1:40 pm

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21 Nov 2011, 2:13 pm

HotRetroHoney wrote:
'there's somebody for everyone.' or 'there's someone love you just as you are.' sounds nice on paper doesnt it? too bad it's not true. reality is some women (and men) have nothing to offer the opposite sex that's probably why getting passed over at every turn.


I definitely agree with the first part, about there not being "someone for everyone." This is why the terms "hermit" and "cat lady" were coined. No offense to anybody who is either a hermit or a cat lady. For example, who the hell would want a jaded guy like me? :P

I'm not sure I agree with the second part though. There are plenty of people who have nothing to offer the opposite sex who get snatched up (then subsequently dumped in most cases).


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21 Nov 2011, 2:20 pm

I used to have the same problem. I look too young for my age. Guys my age weren't interested.



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23 Nov 2011, 9:28 am

deconstruction wrote:
HotRetroHoney wrote:
'there's somebody for everyone.' or 'there's someone love you just as you are.' sounds nice on paper doesnt it? too bad it's not true. reality is some women (and men) have nothing to offer the opposite sex that's probably why getting passed over at every turn.


No, I really believe that, whoever you are and whatever your personality is, there will be people who like you the way you are.

I didn't believe it until I saw it happening (not just to myself, but other people. Even the mean and bad people find someone they're compatible with). I used to be very depressed about it. I'd spent days thinking about it and wondering that a guy who likes me might live on the other side of the world and then what would I do? (This was pre-Internet).

So it's not that someone isn't worth of love or that there's something wrong about a person. It's just a bit trickier to find the people who are interested if you don't fit the narrow standards of how a woman should look and/or behave.


it seem like a lot of work w/ an unlikely payoff especially judging by thus far. I don't think I'm willing to bother with it anymore. but ty anyways.



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23 Nov 2011, 10:12 am

deconstruction wrote:
They often approach women if they seem available or "wanting", or if they are doing the "mass approach" or something. But even then, shy girls and girls who don't seem social are often overlooked.


I will agree with this very wholeheartedly. Which women I would approach when I was single had everything to do with what sort of reaction I thought I would get (ok, assuming there was at least some attraction there in the first place). If a girl looked friendly, open to conversation with a strange man, I would approach her. If not, if she was quiet and kept to herself, I'd assume it was by choice. Especially if she was very attractive.


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