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20 Nov 2011, 9:24 pm

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I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. Are you suggesting I pretend I have a boyfriend?


Yes. It's a very elegant solution that allows the rejectee to save face...


I'm not very good at lying.


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20 Nov 2011, 10:15 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
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TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. Are you suggesting I pretend I have a boyfriend?


Yes. It's a very elegant solution that allows the rejectee to save face...


I'm not very good at lying.


Don't lie then: just casually say something like "I went with my BOYFRIEND to the movies" and don't volunteer that it was actually in 1998...



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20 Nov 2011, 10:17 pm

Brilliant! :D


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20 Nov 2011, 10:18 pm

Or I could say "I'm into the ladies" without admitting I like men too. :chin:


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20 Nov 2011, 10:24 pm

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Or I could say "I'm into the ladies" without admitting I like men too. :chin:


I don't advise this. Many men find that a huge turn on.



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20 Nov 2011, 10:26 pm

That was a joke. Sorry... my humor is broken of late. :oops:


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20 Nov 2011, 10:35 pm

deconstruction wrote:
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Or I could say "I'm into the ladies" without admitting I like men too. :chin:


I don't advise this. Many men find that a huge turn on.

agreed, ive seen this fail so many times. Maybe its because im one of the few people with respect but whenever ive been told no i just walk away instead of keep pursuing



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20 Nov 2011, 10:36 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
That was a joke. Sorry... my humor is broken of late. :oops:


It's not your fault. This is an Aspie forum, where people take things literally. :P

Anyway, I think the only solution is to make yourself unapproachable, but not an angry b...h. Somebody suggested listening the music while you're outside. It's a good idea, though.

And I agree unwanted attention is bad. No attention sucks a big time, but unwanted attention doesn't help at all.



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20 Nov 2011, 10:44 pm

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Or I could say "I'm into the ladies" without admitting I like men too. :chin:


I don't advise this. Many men find that a huge turn on.

agreed, ive seen this fail so many times. Maybe its because im one of the few people with respect but whenever ive been told no i just walk away instead of keep pursuing


Same. If someone changes their mind, they'll have to come to me.


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20 Nov 2011, 10:45 pm

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TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
That was a joke. Sorry... my humor is broken of late. :oops:


It's not your fault. This is an Aspie forum, where people take things literally. :P

Anyway, I think the only solution is to make yourself unapproachable, but not an angry b...h. Somebody suggested listening the music while you're outside. It's a good idea, though.

And I agree unwanted attention is bad. No attention sucks a big time, but unwanted attention doesn't help at all.


Ah... yes. I need to get my ipod touch charged and working. :)


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21 Nov 2011, 1:17 am

I have a theory why you are getting so much attention. I think you perhaps have a certain brand of attractiveness, a sort of unusual, striking type. I think a number of aspie women have a similar quality. It is attracting attention to you, which you seem to not want, but it is hard to stop certain people from viewing you as interesting or attractive. So I guess it is just life.


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21 Nov 2011, 1:32 am

Grisha wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. Are you suggesting I pretend I have a boyfriend?


Yes. It's a very elegant solution that allows the rejectee to save face...

Just say, "I can see you fancy me, but I don't feel the same way."
Honest and to the point :)



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21 Nov 2011, 1:52 am

zen_mistress wrote:
I have a theory why you are getting so much attention. I think you perhaps have a certain brand of attractiveness, a sort of unusual, striking type. I think a number of aspie women have a similar quality. It is attracting attention to you, which you seem to not want, but it is hard to stop certain people from viewing you as interesting or attractive. So I guess it is just life.


She's tall and curvy. I think you're over-thinking this. The typical male sexual response is not that complicated. Sir Mix-A-Lot didn't write a song titled "Baby got a certain brand of unusual attractiveness". Tall women with ample "features" get noticed, plain and simple.



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21 Nov 2011, 2:06 am

I dont think I am overthinking it at all. She has a striking look that I have seen on a number of aspie women. I dont think men are just ridiculous ass/boob seeking machines, I think they are more complicated than that.


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21 Nov 2011, 2:20 am

Scanning Area....

**Ass and Boob detected***

Target Locked.

Missile fully loaded.

Initiate Courting Procedure.



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21 Nov 2011, 2:30 am

Wear a burqa.