Would you date someone you are not physically attracted to?

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14 Dec 2011, 3:39 pm

Yes i have because they were the "hot" model looking sporty guys who all the other girls went ga ga for. I am look the way that i attract these types. So yes i have dated men that i dont find attractive.

My personal preference is for really nerdy types. Preferably large with long hair, at least 6'3" (i am 6'3"and like men to be taller) and glasses.

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14 Dec 2011, 5:31 pm

No way. In order to date them I must like what I see.

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14 Dec 2011, 8:30 pm

smudge wrote:

No. If you fancied them though you would like the way they looked anyway.

I'm kind've on the fence about this. A guy only needs to be 'okay' looking, and if I like him enough, he'll suddenly become the most attractive man in the world to me. But if he's plain ugly, no, it's never going to happen. Affection can only do so much.
On the other hand, I've had some gorgeous boyfriends who didn't turn me on in the least.

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14 Dec 2011, 8:33 pm

No.

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14 Dec 2011, 10:33 pm

Situation wouldn't happen.
If I like a person's personality that much, I'll be attracted to them even if they look like Quasimodo.

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14 Dec 2011, 11:43 pm

I'm really horribly picky when it comes to men that I am interested in. As strange as it seems, there are two main types of guys that I'm attracted to:
1. People who are more intelligent than me and have something to teach me. They have to be somewhat good looking but this isn't a major factor in that type of attraction. One of my ex-boyfriends was a really talented music producer, and looking back on it, he wasn't that good looking but while I was dating him I thought he was the cutest thing in the world.
2. Boys that look like I ripped them out of a magazine, but aren't that smart and admire me for the fact that I am much more intelligent than I am.
Now the reasons for both are obvious. As a human, something about both of these things piques my curiosity.
Thats really all I have to say.

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15 Dec 2011, 12:34 am

RawSugar wrote:

lol those are 2 completely opposite type of guys, i would fit in first category.

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15 Dec 2011, 1:07 am

ValentineWiggin wrote:

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No, physical attraction is part of a sexual relationship. It's not entirely about physical attraction, but it does play a major role. Sex (at least for men) just can't happen if he is not "turned on" by the other person, the mechanics of the act don't allow it. I can't speak for women, but I'll guess that sex isn't any fun at all if she isn't "turned on" either.

But of course there are many factors that make somebody physically attracted to somebody else. Visual appearance is just part of the equation, and that rides on a personal definition of what is visually attractive. Personality is also a major factor in physical attraction. I've known plenty of women who are visually hot as hell, but as soon as she opens her mouth, I'm totally turned off. I've also known plenty of women who do not fit the media definition of "hot", but something mysterious about them just gets me goin big time.

But dating and sexual relationships aren't synonymous.

That's a good point you bring up there. but when one is seriously looking for someone who they want to spend the rest of their life with physical relationship has to be taken into consideration unless if they are asexual. I'm borderline asexual but not aromantic and I thought I could go out with someone who isn't good looking though I liked everything else about them but it was sort of unfortunate that his looks repulsed me when he asked me out.

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15 Dec 2011, 2:12 am

smudge wrote:

No. If you fancied them though you would like the way they looked anyway.

I have to agree with this from my own experience

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15 Dec 2011, 2:21 am

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Short answer? No.

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15 Dec 2011, 4:35 am

in short, no.

its human nature to basically need to be attracted to someone in order to make a loving relationship work. at least, initially, as our looks all decline with age. hopefully by then we will have shared enough memories and have a deep enough love connection that our good looks leaving us wont matter

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15 Dec 2011, 8:25 am

Fullofstars wrote:

smudge wrote:

No. If you fancied them though you would like the way they looked anyway.

There's always been something physical about a guy I like that attracted me to him in the first place, even if he was "plain" or even "ugly" to everyone else.

I've been really attracted to guys with big pretty eyes. They're what really draws me. Or just big eyes.

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15 Dec 2011, 3:14 pm

alex wrote:

deconstruction wrote:

Short answer? No.

QQFT.

Huh? What does that mean?

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15 Dec 2011, 4:54 pm

^^^i think it's supposed to be Quoted For Truth, but maybe with an extra Q.

i have dated people i was not attracted to in the past, as i wanted to give them a chance. it didn't end well, and i would not do it again.

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15 Dec 2011, 5:40 pm

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15 Dec 2011, 8:58 pm

No. I need to be attracted to him in every way. I don't mean to sound superficial. -_- Someone can be considered really good looking to others, but that doesn't mean i'll be attracted to him. Attraction is something random. Not everyone is attracted to the same things.

I just really fell inlove and attracted in all ways twice, it's funny how i fell for both of them in the same way. I actually first got attracted to their voice and personality, no idea how they looked like. My first boyfriend was when it comes to looks normally not my type, but i liked him so much to me he was the hottest guy on the planet. The second guy i had a major crush on for years, i was attracted like crazy to him. Over the top crazy. I loved everything about him. Even though i still had no idea how he looked like. I hated feeling that way and being that attracted to him. I hoped maybe if i saw how he looked like, maybe i wouldn't be physically attracted to him and my feelings would go. But he turned out to be my type and everything. It only made my crush worser. -_- If i wasn't physically attracted to him, i probably wouldn't have felt that way for him anymore.

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