Are you quick to fall in love?

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I fall in love really easily, it's usually not reciprocated though but I still like the feeling.

'Falling in love' is a process, and it's a very vaguely defined one.

I have found 'falling in love' comes in stages, from early flutters of interest to later, more solid indications... sometimes you plateau at one stage for a while, then something shifts gears and the love deepens, or lightens up and goes somewhere else, or fizzles out altogether. Sometimes it seems like you've shifted out of love and then you go back in again. It's interesting.

I only really noticed since I started tracking my physical/mental/emotional experience in more detail.

I tend to be rather cautious.

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Yes, from prior experience it only takes about 5 years.

I would prefer to look at it this way. You're completely right, some aspies want too much too soon and that scares the other person away. I think the thought of not knowing makes us feel very anxious and we want an answer right away. I know I ruined a few chances that way, it sucks. I felt like those guys were great matches, and they were good guys also. I know I didn't fall for them out of lust, I loved the person that they were and I felt like we would be great together. I hope I can keep my emotions and thoughts in check next time around.

OMGoodness! This was so me when I was a teenager. I'm more careful now not to get too attached to people.

Heh. It's nicer when the smasher is smashed back.

I love being in love, I'd like to be in love all the time

Definitely have had plenty of limerence. I doubt I've ever had real love, except with family members.

I've always been much too quick to fall in love and expect immediate reciprocation of my feelings.
Usually, it does seem a bit overwhelming to the other one. Usually, she doesn't want to straight out reject me, because that'd be mean. But leading me on just makes me feel worse in the end. XP

Hmm, I'm not sure.

I've done it twice. They sort of happened at similar times.
There was this guy in my class, met him Freshman year. From day one I put him on my "dateable" list. Then I got a super intense crush on him... When I still cared for him and wished he liked me back senior year, after 4 years, even after he broke his foot and became the fattest guy in school... And I cried and stuff because of him not liking me (or even being my friend), I figured it might be something more.
The second time, I had an internet friend since before I met the first guy. We had talked for like, 2 years when I realised I had feelings for him. This one was proper love. He loved me back but not in the same way. It hurt so. bad. When we decided to cut all contact... Wow I can't describe that pain. We shared so much. He had Aspergers btw.
We're on friendly terms now but I don't like him that way. I've known him like, 5 years, and we're going to meet up this summer.

sorry i did not see your reply until now.
i did not fall into the hole. i got one of my feet stuck in it but i wriggled free.
love is too complicated for my primitive circuits, and i love only one person who fell into the hole that is me.

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Forever alone,
Fell in the hole,
All on his own.

B9
love is not lost,
he loves himself,
at no painful cost

B9
has found one he loves,
Cut the cake,
release the doves,

THIS. Or, in my personal experience, I believe that it's love because it follows some idyllic narrative of romance that I've seen in movies. I learned a lot of my social skills and understanding of social relationships from pop culture, so I feel like my expectations for romantic relationships were based on that. I fell in love with the first person who overtly demonstrated the social signals of "love" or "romance" and didn't soon thereafter disappear. He ended up being an abusive jerk.

So, the answer is "definitely, yes". I have the words "Cupid's Victim" tattooed on my wrists. It's the name of a song:

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heh, i wouldn't know, as it's never happened to me.

well there's no rush

Not really. I take a while to know my own feelings, accept and then act on them. It's more something that grows for me.