07 Jan 2012, 4:47 pm
Daemonic-Jackal
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07 Jan 2012, 6:05 pm
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I did not think my comment on her musical preference (Queen, which is also my favorite band) would elicit a response. Now I need to think of something to say to keep the conversation going. I really need to practice my small talk skills.
07 Jan 2012, 8:34 pm
My profile got a lot of attention. Then I changed my status to "seeing someone" so I don't get as many now. And I met my bf through my friend so I guess I didn't need the site after all. 
08 Jan 2012, 4:15 am
"Hey gorgeous"
"Wats up?"
"wanna have sex"
"what is lds"
I think out of all my messages, maybe a handful contain actual content.
But what annoyed me is I found a cute guy, mormon, similar interests, but he didn't think it would work out because he loves meat.
There is good news, okcupid is 100x better than datehookup, I have never actually had a real conversation on there
I hate getting boring generic messeges like that.....and always quickly delete them.
I try to be original when I send messages on okc. I don't think I've ever sent a generic message like that. Usually I write about something from their profile. But still I rarely get replies.
And there is the symbiotic problem in online dating. People (men mostly) will send out spam to see where they get a response. So women get lot of messages that aren't worth responding to. Knowing this men are less likely to put a lot of work into a message knowing it might just get lost in the spam, and if they do they still might not get a response, so they end up being spammers too.
It's a self fulfilling prophecy.
For me it just decreases my motivation into sending people message on OKC, since I so rarely get a reply. I won't become a spammer, though. I just need to find a girl that's weird ennough to like my messages. It's an ongoing quest for weirdness that'll probably never end. But who knows, it might one day.
08 Jan 2012, 4:45 am
08 Jan 2012, 12:13 pm
OkCp has just been recommended to me by a friend but after reading this thread iv been put off.
This may be naive of me but there seems to be an abundance of genuine people on here and we are all in similar boats, maybe we could have a love in 
Seriously though i feel theres more chance of me meeting a boyfriend through this website than anywhere else. I think il stick with this for now as id really like to date a man with AS and they all seem to be here already.
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08 Jan 2012, 6:36 pm
This may be naive of me but there seems to be an abundance of genuine people on here and we are all in similar boats, maybe we could have a love in
Seriously though i feel theres more chance of me meeting a boyfriend through this website than anywhere else. I think il stick with this for now as id really like to date a man with AS and they all seem to be here already.
Unfortunately (going on my own experience here) it's the genuine people on that site which get ignored.
In a way I thought it would be easy for Gay/Lesbian folk (without generalising here) for internet dating as it's more likely they'd looking for like minded people. Maybe that isn't the case.
08 Jan 2012, 7:22 pm
This may be naive of me but there seems to be an abundance of genuine people on here and we are all in similar boats, maybe we could have a love in
Seriously though i feel theres more chance of me meeting a boyfriend through this website than anywhere else. I think il stick with this for now as id really like to date a man with AS and they all seem to be here already.
Unfortunately (going on my own experience here) it's the genuine people on that site which get ignored.
In a way I thought it would be easy for Gay/Lesbian folk (without generalising here) for internet dating as it's more likely they'd looking for like minded people. Maybe that isn't the case.
OkCupid is good for meeting people of the same-sex. I get a lot of message from men but practically no message from women. Men also responds much more often.
08 Jan 2012, 8:54 pm
but I haven't had very good results, either. They girls that like me are mostly not my type, and the ones that I do like don't seem to respond. I kind of know why that is, but whatever. It's really weird for me to be on there, too. I want to close it [I did before.] I haven't been trying really hard to meet anyone, though. I just rate people [lol!] most of the time. I've messaged a few people here and there, but I don't ever get a reply.
...but it has only been a week.
I guess I don't have any game or something, but I'm okay with that. I'm just going to stay on there and do what I feel comfortable with. I don't really care about meeting anyone. My height is also an issue for me and them: I like my height and don't want to date anyone taller than me and girls don't tear down walls to get to short [aspie] guys who aren't famous...so whatever and stuff. 
12 Jan 2012, 7:25 am
I made an account on Plenty of Fish a while back. I started actively looking again the last couple weeks but to little avail. I've talked to a couple girls and even had one message me out of the blue. Did some chatting back and forth but she didn't give me much to work with and seemed to lose interest so I stopped bothering with her.
It really seems like girls on these sites have some unrealistic idea of what they are going to find on these sites. They believe they are going to find some overly attractive, caring guy that will sweep them off their feet. They don't seem to realize that the same douchebags that they are trying to excape at the local scene know how to use the interwebs too. Overly attractive and social guys on these sites have no trouble finding women. They are only on them to find girls outside of their general area to give the ol' in-out to (Clockwork Orange references ftw).
I don't even dare to mention my AS openly on my profile because I know it is suicide. Imperfections don't fit into a girl's fantasy and I'm sure there are some creeps out there that think they could exploit a girl with AS. I am normal enough (most of the time) that if I did meet someone I could hide it until they have some emotional investment in me.
I didn't get much traffic until I posted pics of my new look and even then any girl that does show interest will probably have minconceptions about me. I'll prolly lay off of it for a while, I just have no interest in the mass spamming you have to do to find anyone. I don't like to talk to more than one girl at a time and that can get quite taxing when they drag it on even though they have no interest. Plus most people are into rap and dance music, which I personally find insufferable. I can't handle another five years of constantly having to listen to it.. I need at least a minute of guitar solo in my music to keep my head from exploding.
Oh yeah, and the single moms... THE SINGLE MOMS!! ! EAAAAGGHHHHH!!
I appologize for the length of my message, but I've been holding that in for a while lol. Hopefully some of you will have better luck with these sites than I have. If not, going up to people in person might suck but the worst they can do is say no.
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