I got rejected and slapped hard in the middle of the hall.

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lol, that sounds like a nice experience indeed :p.

Go for it, but always be alert. Don't take her for granted at any time.

Hmm, I wouldn't risk it either.

You know that phrase, "Just be yourself"? Maybe in this case, you really should just be yourself.

(As in, she'll flee)

As in, you couldn't be "busy"?

If you want me to be myself then I shouldn't tell her I am 'busy' .

Ah, true. Act needy? Doesn't seem you, though.

As the old saying goes, "it is better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all".

To be honest, in your place I would avoid her like the plague. But I am a coward who gave up without trying. Never follow my example, kids!

I love how this went from a simple date to a serious relationship. You are over thinking this. Have fun it's just a date you never know when the next one will come around. Unless she told you that she was on some funky time where she needed to be with you within a month. Enjoy the date and don't propose on the first date if it goes well.

Exactly what I thought. Life is much more interesting when you take risks, but hmm, maybe skip this one.

It is up to Boo what he chooses to do here.

If he fully understands it's a no go relationship-wise with such a woman but has no issue with just a fling or two with her, then he should give it a go.

I don't think Boo is naive, though. He'll know what to expect.

I don't understand how you go from potentially dating a woman with children to becoming a stepfather or surrogate father to her children. That's an *extraordinary* leap, unless that's something particular to the Lebanese culture. You say the ex-husband is still in the picture, presumably he's still their father?

I never even introduce my dates to my children, and I would never until something more serious were afoot.

I think I agree with the other people, you're way overthinking this.

Having summed up all the information that The_Face_of_Boo has told us about this woman, I'd be tempted to issue a big fat NO to her proposal. I think you're heading into a world of pain, personally. That said, you might size up the situation better and say YES instead.

If you just want sex, then it might be a goer though. If she wants sex and you want sex and the kiddywinks aren't in the picture, happy days, get in there, etc.

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All we know is that she has children.

Boo has started making assumptions about her from there and those assumptions are what seems to be too much.

I think he should give her a chance and judge from what he sees on this date... otherwise he may end up thinking what could have happened and regretting not taking the chance now

Edited to take that into account.

maybe I wasn't clear that i'v accepted the invitation.

MClavera, explain to her lol.


Yea, it's certainly cultural, women here are usually extremely marriage-oriented. In other term they see that the final goal of any date or any relationship is usually marriage. The dating_for_marriage is the default type and not dating_for_fun_and_then_maybe_marriage-one_day, are you getting the difference?

They would open up the marriage/engagement in a mere of few months. If they happen to just want a short-encounter, they would usually wait the guy to say it first (after sending all the signals stuff) but they would never take the initiative (the fear from the slut-labeling is usually strong).

And yes, the ex-husband is still in the picture and will still be their father as long they have half of his chromosomes. lol Actually he came to his son's bday few days ago.

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