Why bother really

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Do better at what?



What's the point? I can't make myself more handsome. I can't become less slow and dumb. I don't have any talents/skills to improve on. Why waste energy on things like that when I can do stuff I'm interested it.

I don't need friends. (I've come to that conclusion)

As long as I have my crazy check and I'm able to afford the things I love, I'll be content.

So why are you posting in here then if you're content?

I have been feeling the same way lately. In theory, I have the looks, smarts and, when I finish college, I will havethe decent job. But I have never felt anything beyond physical attraction for a woman (and even the attraction I have felt was way below average for a 21 years old guy). I actively avoid people and, when somebody befriends me, I do not try to keep the friendship (hell, I even avoid people on Facebook when they are online).

Honestly, I do not have any interest in people at all. I cannot say I dislike them, but to me they are less entertaining than... everything else, I think. In fact, I was playing Skyward Sword last week and, while it kept me entertained, I realized I do not care for company as long as I have something better to do.

My only real issue now is to find some special interest to fill the weird "void" I am feeling right now. I get bored easily and nothing can keep my interest for more than a few days. I think airships, helicopters, sky diving, yachts, swimming, parkour and scuba diving would probably be what I need, since I have had an interest in those things for a few years, but, except for parkour, martial arts and swimming, those activities require insane amounts of money. Parkour does not require any money at all, but it is a very social sport (if you intend to do any real training, it is better to have company). Martial arts and swimming also require more money than I currently have, but my father called a few hours ago saying he is going to pay for a club membership for both of us, which means I could go back to swimming tomorrow if I wanted to (maybe even today, but I am lazy and it is already getting late).

What I really need is money and free time. Easier said than done...

I agree, I think some of us are perfectly happy pursuing our special interests or academic and financial goals. I think there is a societal pressure to fit in or have a baby or marriage at a set age but what you don't realize is that many of these people actually end up divorced or tied down in debt or loans so I think it's logical to pursue your academic and financial goals before getting involved in a committed long term relationship. You are being logical about your approach to life and I don't think there's anything wrong with that, you are far too young to worry about getting married or having a baby.

I feel the same way sometimes, I feel like I have more interesting things to do instead of standing around talking about the weather, the area, football, cars or the local pubs, however I don't mind to a certain extent. In terms of socializing, there is a huge difference for people on the spectrum, we enjoy talking in depth or analyzing a subject or topic for hours whereas people that aren't on the spectrum enjoy brief, small talk most of the time. So perhaps finding a girl that shares your outlook, style of socializing and interests would be best. There are also gamer girls out there that enjoy Zelda so maybe finding a girl you can have fun hanging out with would be a good idea also.

One thing I like about this forum is that not all the people are mindless idiots who just solely believe in relationships and believe they're good without even thinking about it. We need more threads like this.

You can, actually. If you're content, great. But you sure don't sound content.

I mean this in the most constructive way possible--you've got bigger stuff to concern yourself with. Relationships are absolutely vital, I think, but without the proper groundwork they tend to fall apart.

Think of it this way: even if a girl DID show interest in you, all of the bigger pervasive issues would eventually manifest themselves anyway (probably sooner rather than later), so why not focus your energy more on those bigger pivotal issues? Just my two cents, and stuff I've learned through experience.