10 Feb 2012, 9:17 pm
10 Feb 2012, 9:25 pm
CosTransform wrote:
@OneStepBeyond, Makes your head spin. Sleeping with ex #1, but ex #1 is pregnant with male #2, next wooing ex #2 .. 
when you put it like that it does
you joined on my bday, i've decided to like you
10 Feb 2012, 9:30 pm
CosTransform wrote:
@OneStepBeyond, Makes your head spin. Sleeping with ex #1, but ex #1 is pregnant with male #2, next wooing ex #2 ..
That's about the size of it. *sigh* I don't see why he seems to care so much now, probably because his #1 is no longer interested. I don't understand why they're still living together. :/
Chronos - Okay, good. Sometimes I can't tell whether I'm reacting reasonably or not.
10 Feb 2012, 10:21 pm
11 Feb 2012, 5:55 am
11 Feb 2012, 8:40 am
CosTransform wrote:
Unless you want either two boyfriends, an angry one, or a lover on the side.. well then you got to say no in some way. Be direct, be firm but you only have to be rude if that message won't get through.
Just reading this thread it seems there's a lack of structure. One has only so many partners that one has agreed on upon being together. I have always been faithful and I consider a matter of trust more than anything. Which matter a lot if one wants to develop the relationship.
Just reading this thread it seems there's a lack of structure. One has only so many partners that one has agreed on upon being together. I have always been faithful and I consider a matter of trust more than anything. Which matter a lot if one wants to develop the relationship.
I don't want any of that. I want my current bf and to remain friends with the ex. Not sure if that's going to be possible at this rate. I do want to develop that relationship with my current bf, I love him dearly. I consulted him about it and he pretty much says to stay away. I'll do that for him. I do care about my bf and he treats me so well. I don't want to risk that over something like this.
11 Feb 2012, 8:43 am
11 Feb 2012, 8:58 am
11 Feb 2012, 9:06 am
Erisad wrote:
I don't want any of that. I want my current bf and to remain friends with the ex. Not sure if that's going to be possible at this rate. I do want to develop that relationship with my current bf, I love him dearly. I consulted him about it and he pretty much says to stay away. I'll do that for him. I do care about my bf and he treats me so well. I don't want to risk that over something like this.
Your boyfriend is being reasonable by asking you to stay away from this guy. I worry though that his asking is the only reason you are staying away. Like I said before, he probably does have some decent qualities, but this guy has demonstrated in the past, and is demonstrating right now, that your feelings are not a priority to him. You should want to avoid him for your own sake, not simply because you've been asked to.
I think your problem goes beyond being excessively polite. Maybe I'm wrong, and I'm not trying to attack you or anything, but it sounds like you are maybe the type to let people walk all over you. I've seen people, people I care very much about, with that personality type end up very badly hurt because of it. I hope that you can learn the importance of looking out for your own feelings before that happens.
11 Feb 2012, 9:26 am
mds_02 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
I don't want any of that. I want my current bf and to remain friends with the ex. Not sure if that's going to be possible at this rate. I do want to develop that relationship with my current bf, I love him dearly. I consulted him about it and he pretty much says to stay away. I'll do that for him. I do care about my bf and he treats me so well. I don't want to risk that over something like this.
Your boyfriend is being reasonable by asking you to stay away from this guy. I worry though that his asking is the only reason you are staying away. Like I said before, he probably does have some decent qualities, but this guy has demonstrated in the past, and is demonstrating right now, that your feelings are not a priority to him. You should want to avoid him for your own sake, not simply because you've been asked to.
I think your problem goes beyond being excessively polite. Maybe I'm wrong, and I'm not trying to attack you or anything, but it sounds like you are maybe the type to let people walk all over you. I've seen people, people I care very much about, with that personality type end up very badly hurt because of it. I hope that you can learn the importance of looking out for your own feelings before that happens.
I don't think my bf asking me to stay away is the only reason I've asked him to stop. I've asked before I even notified by bf about it. I think the ex has a short attention span or just doesn't know when to quit and try another girl because he screwed up with me and his pregnant ex.
I do. I do need to work on that. I'm just not exactly sure how to do it without coming off as a b***h. Please leave me alone? >.<
11 Feb 2012, 9:53 am
11 Feb 2012, 10:04 am
hale_bopp wrote:
Maybe you should be asking this to your boyfriend.
About how to blow him off without being a b***h? I told him about the situation and he just says, "Stay away, he sounds weird."
11 Feb 2012, 10:14 am
I concur with @blueroses !
I have a slight suspicion that there's more than one person that has a boundary problem, but I might be wrong. Anyway the advice from your boyfriend seems sound.
11 Feb 2012, 11:18 am
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Maybe you should be asking this to your boyfriend.
About how to blow him off without being a b***h? I told him about the situation and he just says, "Stay away, he sounds weird."
Just tell him to stop annoying/harassing you or you will give him a wide berth.
If he doesn't, ignore him. You can't say he wasn't warned.
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11 Feb 2012, 11:36 am
Erisad wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Let him come and hit him on the ballz.
Or just turn it a threesome with you and your bf.
Or just turn it a threesome with you and your bf.
Neither man is bi so sadly it wouldn't work.
I already had to decline a valentine's gift from my ex. He hadn't bought it yet, but he asked me if I wanted a gift from him. It was awkward. "No, I already have a valentine, thank you." He texts me a lot too. He keeps telling me how beautiful I am and how bad he feels for hurting me before and blah blah blaaah.
Even better, you would be the whole center of attention.
11 Feb 2012, 12:16 pm
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Maybe you should be asking this to your boyfriend.
About how to blow him off without being a b***h? I told him about the situation and he just says, "Stay away, he sounds weird."
Just tell him to stop annoying/harassing you or you will give him a wide berth.
If he doesn't, ignore him. You can't say he wasn't warned.
I'm scared to find out what a wide berth is. O.o
Face of Boo- Lool, sure. I don't think either of them would want to share.
Lulz aside, it's not happening. :/
