How do aspie aspie males show interest in a girl?

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Here' the thing:

We do not work together or are neigbors. I'm trying here, guys. And I appreciate your help.

Last edited by GlendaGoodWitch on 02 Mar 2012, 10:00 am, edited 1 time in total.

lol i never show interest. im really nice and they fall for me!

So communicate about how you want his body.

From my personal experience and studies by psychologists, Aspie boys are more likely to be more accepting and much more loyal than NT boys. So even if he doesn't reply back to your note, just wait. He's actually just afraid to reply back because he might say something that might offend you or say something that might make him look like the autist he is deep down inside. Or just send him another! Deep down in his own world he is actually very happy because no one in his lifetime has probably said anything like that to him.

I mean I REALLY wish that the NT girl in my case just spilled out everything for me becase I would have a good idea of what she would want. I can't believe I only found out about how much this NT girl wanted me only 2 weeks ago after 6 years(!) because I was so clueless and everyone of her friends knew (I was trying to put the pieces in my head for years!). I really would like to return the favor to her but I have not seen her in more than a year. Someone cared about me that bad and I missed it completely. I have no friends and I feel depressed because I feel like I missed an opportunity i will not have in years to finally end my loneliness and inability to connect with anyone. I can't even connect with children or babies. I swear if she just asked me out directly I would never leave.

Even if it's embarrassing to ask, in the long term he will be extremely loyal to you. Studies show that Aspies are usually much more happier than their NT partner in the relationship.
Internally - theAspie loves their partner more than their partner imagines.
Externally - it might look like the NT is struggling because Aspies have a very difficult time verbalizing thoughts or properly expressing emotion and are always stuck in their own world.

Last edited by Luska on 28 Feb 2012, 5:03 am, edited 1 time in total.

I look at them a lot then get a little talkative when i feel safe enough to talk to them but usually after they talk to me first otherwise I just freeze up and look away real quick 95% I usually get real shy unless I have an alcoholic beverage in the equation but usually I don't talk unless they talk to me and want to be around me more then it gets more mutual. If the girl has similar interests or is doing something i find interested in then i will talk about that I don't flirt otherwise unless the girl flirts first. I'm awkward like that.

i think the best thing to do is to tell him directly that it would be cool if you could hang out sometime, or do something together maybe.

or just tell him you are attracted to him.

either way, you need to be blunt / direct (in a nice way, obviously ) if you want to make any progress, IMO.

I saw my aspie crush this morning, and as usual he smiled, waved and said hi, how are you. I responded in kind and tossed in a how are you for the first time. Knowing how difficult it is for him to talk to me and what a risk he takes by doing even the smallest things like wave or smile makes me like him that much more. I apprecaite every little risk he takes on me ...

Am planning on baking something next week with a 2nd note ...

...breathe heavily and state at them from a distance

Nah, just kidding. That doesn't work. I need to get better at having the balls to give compliments at the right time.

It seems pretty clear that he appreciates the attention and very well might like things to go further.

When I was younger, I tended to try to spend as much time as I could near whomever I had a crush on. But as I've gotten older, I find I try to keep away from them because it's just too painful and also because I feel that any woman who is friendly toward me must be being friendly just out of her nature, not because she has any specific interest in me. I have too often made the mistake of assuming a friendly comment meant more than just that. By staying away, I tend to make less of a fool of myself.

Giving cookies is definitly a good gesture, but I suspect it's going to take a whole lot more to help him understand how you feel. A few years back a woman did a few things (cookies played a role) which, I now suspect were her attempts to encourage me. I took a long time in making a move and by then I think she gave up on me. At any rate, she didn't respond to my statement that I wanted to see her more often.

I think suggesting that you two have coffee or lunch together, making a specific and unequivocal date at the time you ask him, would go a long way toward building a true friendship with him. He would probably appreciate it if you lead the way, but kept the pace a bit slow so he has time to adjust to any advancement of the relationship.

Good luck

When Aspies are interested in a member of the opposite sex, their genetic differences cause green antenna to sprout from their foreheads which send out a high frequency mating signal - the other party's response to this will determine compatibility.

Orrr... We just, you know, do all the normal s**t like looking nervous when we talk to you...

They don't if they had a brain.

Why would you want a GF when theirs porn?

Porn can't cook you awesome dinners.

I can cook my own dinners thank you.

Why would you want to creep a women out

You know what my point is. Porn can leave you feeling very lonely and unfulfilled. This goes for women who like porn but don't have a partner too.

Perhaps someone might want a girlfriend to help them with their poor spelling.

Perhaps I should start a lonely women porn lovers thread