In love with someone who may be an Aspie

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Thanks so much for responding. Yeah, he says he didn't want to hurt me, but I think it was more fear. He tends to avoid things he doesn't want to deal with. He's good at it. And he didn't need to deal with it, because he had this girl to spend all this time with, and didn't need me anymore.

I understand why he did it, but I have to allow myself to be angry with him. He went from being someone I utterly trusted to someone I barely recognize. I spent a full month alternating between worrying he was okay and thinking he was angry with me.

I will try not to become closed off, but I have learned not to place so much faith in someone I don't know very well.

I think he will eventually learn that abandoning your friends when you get into a relationship is a very, very bad idea. But it's a mistake a lot of people make when they first get into relationships.

ASComposer, thank you, I am going to try and forget him. The mean part of me that's still smarting is determined to make him regret me by becoming the most fabulous, attractive, brilliant, confident woman I can be. But I know those feelings of anger will eventually fade.

Paul, thank you, thank you, thank you -- you have been so kind throughout this whole ordeal. It is so nice of you to say that. I know that when I meet the right person I won't have to try so hard or worry so much. And as I said before, I know the same thing will happen to you. You are kind, thoughtful, generous and intelligent. There are plenty of women out there who find those to be the most attractive qualities a man can possess.