Who made it to 40 and remained a Virgin?

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25 year old virgin here. The worst part is that i've come close a few times, i'm just always to shy to make that final and crucial move.

Count me out, lost it at 29.

@Sirius
You mean to say that when you approach a woman, your most likely response is quite robotic?
Woman: How are you?
You: Statistically 78% of people in the world are happy and content with their lives. I'm happy at this moment in time which makes the statistics very logically correct.
*Woman leaves*
Tell me it's not THAT bad?

I would fall in love with the person who said that to me.

I'm only 26, but the way things are going I'll be a 40-year-old virgin soon enough. I'm terrified of asking a woman out on a date, and I'm more likely to win the lottery than have a woman ask me out.

The lack of sex doesn't bother me that much, though; I'm more frustrated with the stigma attached to male virginity. A man has to have lots of sex to be successful, but has to be successful. How is that even supposed to work?

If it wasn't for paid sex services I would have become a 40 year old and 60 year old virgin.

I wouldn't call it 'disgusting' but a such late virginity is not a lifestyle by itself but it's most probably a one consequence (ie same as not having many friends, outings...etc) of a prolonged unhealthy and unbalanced social-wise lifestyle.

:-/ not wanting to sound like complaining but it's really the truth.

I'm nowhere near 40 (15) but I've only hugged 2 girls for more than just saying "hi" or "bye" (which only happens in family anyway) Neither of them a girl I have dated or have thought about dating. Never kissed a girl, or gotten close. Never held ones hand. Basically I've only asked a girl out and awkwardly had my hand on her leg for about 5 seconds. I'd call this a good start to 30+ or even 40+ year old virgin. Unless I actually decide to go to a party and where a drunk girl is in college, unlikely as I hate parties like that.

^ 15 is nothing. Don't jump on the perpetual virgin train just yet.



Sex/relationships are a whole new can of worms and raise their own challenges. I wish everyone here could be able to understand what is good about being single/a virgin but you probably won't appreciate it until you've been on the other side. It's a "grass is greener" sort of thing.

Being asexual or being able to be happy with being single would have saved me a WORLD of problems in my life and I'd be much better off in many ways.

Well if it is that bad it's more interesting than someone saying 'it is a nice sunny day today' when I can see that for myself lol. I don't keep up with weather forecasts very often (what is the obsession with the weather about?)

Really, I am more likely to be amused in a good way if someone walked up to me and said what you just posted! Would get my attention but then I am strange.

And on the topic of the thread, female but not a virgin since I was 17.

Of course, we're not talking about the asexual cases.

You too are unable to comprehend the adult virgins here because you've never experienced a life till adulthood without the adult "rites of passages" experiences (relationships, first kiss, making out, sex...etc) or being virgin. Their 'condition' is also a "grass is greener" thing to you.

You can't understand them, they cannot understand you as well.

People who lost their virginity since 16 or 17-18 and had teen-adult experiences during their late teen period and 20s (like most people on this planet) simply CANNOT comprehend the psychological/ego impacts that 25+ adult virgins have to co-live and face. Period.


But seriously, you cannot say their condition is better than yours, you have the option to return single anytime, not happy with your husband/bf? divorce him and voilà you're single again, you have the choice, and you probably have enough experience to get a relationship easily again (without getting into the gender difference too...), while most virgins here, even those who are trying, don't have this flexibility in choices...

You're not that much older than me, you know. Why do you assume that I lost my virginity as a teenager?

I do know what it is like because I waited until I was married in my mid twenties and then was married to a man who had NO interest in me. So, although I eventually broke that pattern of wanting sex and being unable to have it, I DO understand how it feels to be desperate for it and not able to get any.

What I am saying is that I wish people could be able to be OK with being single and not put so much emphasis on sex. It is a biological imperitive so I understand why it is so hard for people, I just wish it were not so.

Being single now would not give me back the things I lost in chasing after relationships, unfortunately. Besides, I did not say their condition was better than mine, just that there ARE some good things about it and that I wish people could be able to see it that way. And that in MY life, I can see that I would have been much better off if I hadn't placed so much emphasis on relationships because I personally sacrificed many things in this pursuit.

I'm not trying to advocate either side, I just want people to be able to be happy with who they are and what they have. Easier said than done, I know.

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Stayed quiet since I said that, Boo.

Because I am not sure what did you mean by 'fondle', and how far and how frequent you got in that.

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Half way there.

ME ME ME!! ! [hopping up and down and raising both hands]