Lonely Red Mage, Looking For Love...

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dude..

sorry but i'm hetero dude... i'm flattered though..

image was ment to be a summary of this thread, not an invitation

ok... but i still don't get it...!

Seriously guys, stop spamming up my topic! I don't go along and spam your topics, so don't spam mine! This is meant to be a serious thread, so don't post unless you have something to say.

This should be in the 'Relationships' area anyway

I know, I know. Could someone lock this? It's obvious no one is interested.

Be patient RedMage, new people come through here all the time. You never know...

I know... I doubt there's anyone here from SA though that would be interested.

Hmm you also seem to be looking for friends.

Would it be easier to look for friends first, and then after you have friends, ask the closest friend out?
This isn't how a lot of people do these things, true enough, but I don't play that game.
Unless you aren't actually looking for a long term relationship... in which case, hellznrg won't let any distance (or age for that matter) get in the way of some lovin'...

Seriously though, if you are already having a difficult time with friendships, you're going to have a very difficult time with a romantic relationship, and you're probably better off starting with more basic stuff like figuring out how to get friendships without scaring people away (as you admitted that you do in your Friends thread).

my advice is to do what i did... until i was 25-26, I was just like you... stuck in front of the computer all day, no exercise, no fresh air, no friends, no real-world skills etc....

and then i just decided that i needed a change and joined university... that was the turning point in my life... since then my life has never been the same... i have many friends now... although i suspect most of them are taking advantage of me...

anyways, the person i am now from 4 years ago is the result of many things that sent my life ricocheting off in a different direction..

0. i had an online girlfriend for 1 1/2 years... the moment we met IRL everything went downhill. neither of us knew that i was autistic... that made me very depressed and that was the point when i decided that i needed to change my life
1. joining university
2. seeing the "gulf4good" poster on the university bulletin board (charity org organizing "charity challenges").. subsequently going to egypt, making friends, and above all, finding out about my fitness potential
3. joining the gym... ice skating.. squash, etc...
4. joining another gym "nautilus academy", thus learning about the aerobics classes called "BTS"
5. i loved the aerobics classes so much that i decided to become an instructor
6. to become a BTS instructor i needed to get a YMCA qualification
7. meeting my friend najla at the YMCA course
8. becoming a BTS instructor
9. making friends with the BTS org chief
10. Najla invited me to a party during which i met Ron who told me i needed to get my s**t together (basically he told me about all that seduction stuff which is in the mens forum)
11. i'm going to be helping the BTS org with administration of an event ("MEFIT06")
12. potential for me to be providing IT support to this BTS org

... there are many more things but i can't really list all of them... in any case, i can trace everything back to that one instant in time... when i decided to get up off my butt, get all the computer s**t out of my mind and just go out and try to gain some skills... you'll meet people and make friends, and this will just make your life go off in different directions... as long as you're going to be lost in some fantasy world, you're getting NOTHING done in real life....

all this of course assuming that you in fact don't have many friends etc...

I agree with hellznrg, in that nothing's going to get better while sitting in front of a computer complaining about how much life sucks. Getting outside and doing things that interest you is a great way to learn more about the world around you, and just meeting people naturally from doing those things will be a good enough start towards making friendships and perhaps more substantial relationships.

I NEVER go outside for starters...

If that's so, then I guess you'll always be lonely and depressed, since you can't manage to gather up the courage to face reality. I think you need to ge a life, so you'll be much happier than you are now.

And how do you expect me to do that?

You know what to do, it's really simple, but you don't have enough confidence in yourself to do it.