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06 May 2012, 7:46 pm

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I would hate sex with no talking. How would I and my partner express consent? or communicate our boundaries?
What about the dirty talk?


Fair point. I just mean I'm sick of having to talk the kind of talk that gets talked before you can get close to the person you want to date or whatever. In my case it takes a lot of effort to talk that talk, and it never leads anywhere for me. That's what I'm frustrated about.



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06 May 2012, 8:22 pm

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DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
I would hate sex with no talking. How would I and my partner express consent? or communicate our boundaries?
What about the dirty talk?


Fair point. I just mean I'm sick of having to talk the kind of talk that gets talked before you can get close to the person you want to date or whatever. In my case it takes a lot of effort to talk that talk, and it never leads anywhere for me. That's what I'm frustrated about.

how would a person know if you were right for them if you didn't talk first?


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06 May 2012, 8:41 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
beezy wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
I would hate sex with no talking. How would I and my partner express consent? or communicate our boundaries?
What about the dirty talk?


Fair point. I just mean I'm sick of having to talk the kind of talk that gets talked before you can get close to the person you want to date or whatever. In my case it takes a lot of effort to talk that talk, and it never leads anywhere for me. That's what I'm frustrated about.

how would a person know if you were right for them if you didn't talk first?


Knowing that doesn't necessarily make it any easier.

In person I can't talk about sex with anyone if its real. Just casual talk, gimme a drink or two and I'm cool, in the right environment. But if I get even the least hint of anything more to it, I just shut down on that topic.



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06 May 2012, 8:41 pm

edgewaters wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
beezy wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
I would hate sex with no talking. How would I and my partner express consent? or communicate our boundaries?
What about the dirty talk?


Fair point. I just mean I'm sick of having to talk the kind of talk that gets talked before you can get close to the person you want to date or whatever. In my case it takes a lot of effort to talk that talk, and it never leads anywhere for me. That's what I'm frustrated about.

how would a person know if you were right for them if you didn't talk first?


Knowing that doesn't necessarily make it any easier.

no, i don't think it would. but if the goal is to meet someone who is the right person, it seems that some communication would be necessary.


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06 May 2012, 8:50 pm

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no, i don't think it would. but if the goal is to meet someone who is the right person, it seems that some communication would be necessary.


You'd be surprised, sometimes. Well ... depending on your definition of "communication"



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06 May 2012, 8:51 pm

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no, i don't think it would. but if the goal is to meet someone who is the right person, it seems that some communication would be necessary.


You'd be surprised.

how else would a person know?


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06 May 2012, 8:52 pm

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how else would a person know?


I don't know, but I never look a gift horse in the mouth.



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06 May 2012, 9:14 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
beezy wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
I would hate sex with no talking. How would I and my partner express consent? or communicate our boundaries?
What about the dirty talk?


Fair point. I just mean I'm sick of having to talk the kind of talk that gets talked before you can get close to the person you want to date or whatever. In my case it takes a lot of effort to talk that talk, and it never leads anywhere for me. That's what I'm frustrated about.

how would a person know if you were right for them if you didn't talk first?


Well that's the problem. The 'knowing I'm right for them' is not as simple as the phrase makes it sound. It's very complicated and I'm very bad at it. If I was good at it, I wouldn't be moaning that I'm tired of having to do it.



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06 May 2012, 9:19 pm

beezy wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
beezy wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
I would hate sex with no talking. How would I and my partner express consent? or communicate our boundaries?
What about the dirty talk?


Fair point. I just mean I'm sick of having to talk the kind of talk that gets talked before you can get close to the person you want to date or whatever. In my case it takes a lot of effort to talk that talk, and it never leads anywhere for me. That's what I'm frustrated about.

how would a person know if you were right for them if you didn't talk first?


Well that's the problem. The 'knowing I'm right for them' is not as simple as the phrase makes it sound. It's very complicated and I'm very bad at it. If I was good at it, I wouldn't be moaning that I'm tired of having to do it.

yeah i understand. it can be like pulling teeth.


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08 May 2012, 10:52 am

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Fair enough, dude. You know what you want, which is the main thing.


Exactly!


And as a man who knows what he wants I strongly prefer to date women who also know what they want. Unfortunately, there are a lot of women out there who really don't know what they want....I guess I need to be more careful to weed out such persons before I go on a date with em.



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10 May 2012, 10:27 pm

If I feel impatient about something, it is to hold my own child in my arms and finally say that I am a mother. That will not happen unless I join in holy matrimony. Otherwise, I have accept that I won't have a child of my own. Even if God dose have someone for me, He may not see it fit to bless us with a child. It is so hard to accept that I may never have my own child, but it's God's will for my life, then so be it.



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12 May 2012, 1:18 am

balletangel wrote:
If I feel impatient about something, it is to hold my own child in my arms and finally say that I am a mother. That will not happen unless I join in holy matrimony. Otherwise, I have accept that I won't have a child of my own. Even if God dose have someone for me, He may not see it fit to bless us with a child. It is so hard to accept that I may never have my own child, but it's God's will for my life, then so be it.


Do you have any fertility issues? Because if not, there's nothing from stopping you going to the sperm bank and being artificially inseminated in order to have your own child. Sounds to me like your faith annuls your impatience. I wish I had faith like that(in something or rather)...... :?