Nerds rule so don't chang!

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Me too, I mean everyone change a bit eventually with age.

I knew few people who were always invisible by the opposite sex until they have CHANGED.

and yes, extreme geeks/nerds need to change in order to get a better (or even some!!) social/love life.

Most people do some changes for increasing their mating chances, even unconsciously, NTs start going to gyms, parties and improving their social sense since their teen days, most girls in particular enter the beautification realm since they are young (ie. Kirsten story, wp homepage).

Then why the geeks/nerds shouldn't do such changes?


The problem with geeks that they are often rigid to change but this often doesn't help their mating chances.

And let's face it, geeks/nerds are portrayed very negatively in the media even to this day and they aren't usually the best-looking (or the best groomed), all this isn't helping.

If you are a geek/nerd and having success in dating then good for you, you're lucky.

If not and you're adult already, then it's time to change some things in yourself.

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Diesel talking about his past, I think tabletop role playing definitely helped him to a better actor in some aspects.
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[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWXlHGm-4J4[/youtube][youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ha5lzDm9evc[/youtube] I am Otaku >_< Otaku is nerd in Japanese.

If I can add, it's more about not putting yourself into a box. Two hobbies I recently picked up (well the first isn't that recent, but recent in comparison to anime, video games, etc) are cars and weightlifting. Initially I was offput by some of the people who did them. But, one thing led to another, and I was led to cars because of the anime Initial D, and weightlifting to train for ice skating, and here I am doing them. Me doing them doesn't make me a "jock" or whatever, I'm still me, the same Japanese music listening and Shenmue playing me, just that happens to lift weights and work on cars.

I think a lot of people just get bad connotations and go "screw that, that's for jocks/preps/*insert group*" and then won't do an activity they might actually have a desire to do. I think it's a reaction you do from ridicule you get for your other hobbies (ie, video games/etc) from other groups, you then don't want to associate yourself with "their" activities. An example of this was computers, computers used to be for "nerds" and "geeks" and whatever, but then once "normal people" figured out how useful they are, everyone uses computers now.

Basically, don't let the fact that someone you dislike does an activity stop you from doing something.

The example of Vin Diesel is a good one. He plays D&D. He doesn't let himself be defined as a "nerd" but at the same time, isn't ashamed of his "nerdy" activities.

Exactly, I think another good thing to point out is that many people who do get into working out or improving themselves aesthetically and socially are likely to come from a background of low self esteem or insecurity, I know I did. I think the first step is creating a good first impression, talking to people on a basic level and understanding social norms. Many people might see that as putting up a front but a good percentage of the time, first impressions are what people judge others on.

Someone in may be perceived as cool when in reality he has several nerdy interests. However he will create a better first impression than the person that doesn't make an effort with their appearance or first impression.

True, thinking outside of boxes and not rigidly placing yourself in one is the key. Again I think a person can do activities that are perceived as nerdy and still come across as confident and approachable if they make the effort to do so. Some introverted people come across as hostile or aloof and that can definitely turn people away from pursuing a friendship or relationship.

I think presentation is the key when it comes to getting dates and employment, most of it comes down to being able to create that good first impression and to show that you have value. It's more like a sales pitch and people on the spectrum are naturally bad at doing a sales pitch.

Why do the nerds have no eyes? they have a big white squares instead of eyes :O

ok, a little change isn't the end of the world, but how about, don't compromise your principles, BE YOURSELF, and for GOODNESS SAKES, the most important part, DON"T SELL YOURSELF SHORT!

If that is the one and ONLY nerd thing anyone DOES need to change, it is SELLING YOURSELF SHORT!

Soooooooooooo Stop it! NOW....

This. You're absolutely right! That is what my marriage is based on, but I can't see my husband right now. We had a lot of issues before he had to go to the hospital with an illness, and I have been having this huge crush on my boss lately. All I say is that it's biology. I can tell he likes me too just by the way he looks me in the eyes, but he has been nothing but professional with me. And that turns me on even more!!

So yes, you are so right... and good luck to you

Some stereotypical nerd activities are pretty cool, but physically looking like a nerd isn't cool at all. For example, I usually only wear my glasses certain times while I'm at home since my vision isn't that bad. I don't even wear them while driving.

and you.....are you being honest with your husband about your mental-cheating? Since you are so-oh-honesty supporter.

Ya, I have to concurr. You talk about how your marriage is basd on honesty and integrity and then how you have a crush and are turned on by your boss! This, in my eyes, is made worse by the fact that your HUSBAND is ill in the hospital! Why not just divorce him now and get the hard part out of the way?!

My takeaway from this entire thread: Vin Diesel is actually pretty awesome.

Yes...yes he is!!

Scubasteve knows how to break the tension!

The typical nerd has thick glasses, because they are very short-sighted from doing a lot of close-up activities such as reading or using the computer (nerdy things). Strong glasses for myopia (short-sightedness) are concave, which makes objects, such as the eyes behind the glasses - look smaller. These glasses in the cartoon are so strong that you can't see the eyes at all.