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rabbittss
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07 Jun 2012, 12:02 am

Zinnel wrote:

Idk i stopped really caring about the site, i think i was using it wrong anyway.

paying attention to things like match scores, reading what questions they agreed/disagreed with me on.

In fact if i did manage to get a response it usualy was along the lines of "wow u actualy read my profile"

appearently your just suppost to look at photos and message who you think looks hot! I say this because so far there has yet to be a single women who had messaged me who has even bothered to read my profile.

I did get a response like that.. was told it was witty and showed that I had actually read her profile.. I responded back and that was the last I heard from her..

I assume now it was meant to be facetious and I didn't grasp it at the time..

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07 Jun 2012, 12:33 am

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Yeah ive had similar instances, in fact i actualy found the conversation abilities of the average users on the site to be quite lacking. Its funny realy because many of the girls have "dont just say "hey..." when you message me" on their profile. But when the same girls would message me it would often be just like that ("hey...")

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07 Jun 2012, 12:41 am

spongy wrote:

MXH wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

MXH wrote:

how is that relevant to the thread? :idea:

If he's giving advice, than his success with that advice is relevant.

Well we just saw his success, no? He went from barely any replies to full pm box. If thats not success then f**k me with a pineapple i dont know what is. now, sweetheart, i know you can't help but being emotional but you dont have to go and rain on everyone elses parade

But he is already making assumptions out of it without having met anyone from there.

Not saying he is wrong or he is right but he needs to wait some time/actually meet at least one of them before making assumptions about the kind of people that are messaging him...

I'm guessing they're the kinda people he wants messaging him, assuming he's talking about it here and all.

Anyway, this will soon/already has turned into a talk of superficialism, and how women all admire men only for their beautiful hearts and NOT for looks at all. Also how successful romantic relationships are based upon someone intellectually compatible who you could discuss ancient Greek literature and modern art with.

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07 Jun 2012, 12:42 am

this one I even put a TON of effort into.. she made reference in her profile to liking a lot words that started with 'c' (not that one.. get your minds out of the gutter).. and n.p.r. So I used tons and tons of C words and made references to bunches of shows on npr..

oh well.. She seemed like she would have been very interesting to talk to..

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07 Jun 2012, 12:53 am

1000Knives wrote:

spongy wrote:

MXH wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

MXH wrote:

how is that relevant to the thread? :idea:

If he's giving advice, than his success with that advice is relevant.

How someone comes across on a screen and how they are off-screen can be quite different.
OP for example had a thread about how some girls loved his online persona(he was approached by them on a flirty manner/he mentioned they asked him out iirc) but girls didnt usually pay attention to him offline(he felt unable to act the same way offline).

Not trying to be a downer just saying its a bit too early to be trying to take any conclusions out of this

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07 Jun 2012, 1:32 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

Boo, how successful have you been with online dating?

How about that? i am meeting someone soon next week

, and no, she's not the shallow stupid type, a highly educated satirical freelancer writer.

Mind you, I might screw it because of other reasons but the whole point of this thread is how to get more replies/msgs on okc, not getting successful deals thro okc (the rest would be up to the person). I was not claiming i am successful with online dating, all I am saying that I am successful now in getting replies and msg.

You know, if you don't get replies/msg, you won't have any success in online dating anyway, getting them is a requirement for getting successful with it in the first place (especially for males).

and you probably didn't see the screenshots i posted in the other thread.

[img][800:678]http://i.imgur.com/uNkgn.png[/img]

[img][800:678]http://i.imgur.com/HFzEa.png[/img]

You believe me now?

Mind you, it has been less than month that i put that pic, and BOOM.

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07 Jun 2012, 1:41 am

I didn't disbelieve you, I was curious as to:
1.) how much success you feel you've had
2.) how you judge/measure that success

and you answered that question

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07 Jun 2012, 1:56 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

I didn't disbelieve you, I was curious as to:
1.) how much success you feel you've had
2.) how you judge/measure that success

and you answered that question

and bear in mind the lack of my local matches.

My whole country is much smaller than a one US state.

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07 Jun 2012, 2:13 am

1000Knives wrote:

spongy wrote:

MXH wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

MXH wrote:

how is that relevant to the thread? :idea:

If he's giving advice, than his success with that advice is relevant.

As opposed to the brilliant relationships you can have with people simply based on the fact that you think they look good?

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07 Jun 2012, 2:37 am

spongy wrote:

1000Knives wrote:

spongy wrote:

MXH wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

MXH wrote:

how is that relevant to the thread? :idea:

If he's giving advice, than his success with that advice is relevant.

This isn't the point of this thread, read the title above three times, read the thread twice. Thank you in advance.

and hey, you already know that i am meeting and talking with girls irl through gym and other activities, i am not relying on okc.

and I am not receiving msgs from one kind of people, as i explained in the thread.

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07 Jun 2012, 2:54 am

Yes Im well aware that you are meeting people out of other activities and Im glad to see that you are trying to give advice to those that are having some issues getting messages.

However your important note caught my attention and I was wondering how you can determine someone´s personality through a message/profile with great accuracy... I mean its easy to see what they want you to see but is that the real thing?
I guess Im not made for online dating(lack of people around here/trust issues...) but as you said there are plenty of other ways to meet people you just have to find what works for you and I think Im ok in that aspect

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07 Jun 2012, 3:16 am

spongy wrote:

Where did I say that I can determine someone´s personality through a message/profile with great accuracy? I can just determine their general personality or at least in what greater category of personality they belong, for example you can tell from her interests/pics/activities/her own claims whether she's a bookworm or a party animal (lol at the English animal terms) - but not deeper than that.

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07 Jun 2012, 3:27 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

1000Knives wrote:

spongy wrote:

MXH wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

MXH wrote:

how is that relevant to the thread? :idea:

If he's giving advice, than his success with that advice is relevant.

As opposed to the brilliant relationships you can have with people simply based on the fact that you think they look good?

I had long discussions with that girl i am gonna meet about racism, languages, linguistic history , games and horror movies. As I said earlier, she's a world-traveling freelancer writer and has cultural/social/political articles all over the net, so there was plenty of things to discuss..

The initial spark (at least the online spark, can't tell if there will be a such spark offline) might have been superficial but it doesn't have (and it doesn't usually ,really) to remain that way.

My main concern above all is the difference of the spoken English fluency, she's an American citizen so certainly she's way more fluent.

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07 Jun 2012, 4:25 am

spongy wrote:

MXH wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

MXH wrote:

how is that relevant to the thread? :idea:

If he's giving advice, than his success with that advice is relevant.

Does it matter? Lets put it like this. If nobody ever replied to him it wouldnt matter because the act of meeting someone is more than what he was able to achieve. First you have to attract people and then you can look for someone worth dating. Not the other way around

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07 Jun 2012, 6:18 am

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07 Jun 2012, 7:15 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

Kurgan wrote:

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I've gotten two messages since I created my account. Both of them were from fat, ugly chicks.

They've stopped using MySpace angles?

*wondering if the attractive women whom he messaged are laughing about getting messages from an awkward loser...*

You must be confusing yourself with me. My mild Asperger's makes me act laid back (some say stoned) so I'm less awkward than you think. And I think I'm less of a loser than most men on dating sites. I have my issues but they really aren't that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. I'm assuming you were offended by my comment. I'm sorry if that's the case. I'm just stating the facts. And with regards to messaging attractive women and them laughing at me, I only messaged three people. Two were Asian and one white. The Asian women were above average looking and had a high match rating and similar interests with me. I've had hotter Asian women interested in me before. The white woman I messaged was hot and had similar interests as me. I only messaged her after she looked at my profile like 10 times. She hasn't responded yet but I disabled my account right after and only just reactivated it. So f*ck you sir.

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