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29 Jul 2012, 1:43 am
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29 Jul 2012, 1:46 am
^^^
I don't think most people get told Wolf - only those who are extremely attractive would get told like you do.
I think for most they just wonder through, never really knowing. And even if someone says something - unless you know what their motives are it can be difficult to take them seriously.
MXH wrote:
wow, terrible timeframe. i usually see one every 1-3 months. And usually they stick around in my mind for a while. Its a weird thing to be able to be attracted to people almost at will, but then to be just blown away by a quick glance at someone.
At least you don't stare, freeze, giggle or hyperventilate when it happens!
Agreed one the attracted as a choice VS no choice. That's probably why it freaks me out so much, I'm used to being able to choose.
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29 Jul 2012, 2:07 am
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wow, terrible timeframe. i usually see one every 1-3 months. And usually they stick around in my mind for a while. Its a weird thing to be able to be attracted to people almost at will, but then to be just blown away by a quick glance at someone.
At least you don't stare, freeze, giggle or hyperventilate when it happens!
Agreed one the attracted as a choice VS no choice. That's probably why it freaks me out so much, I'm used to being able to choose.
not only do i do all of those i have to almost leave her sight before i stop feeling sick.
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29 Jul 2012, 2:08 am
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Thank you that you do find me extremely attractive, there are difficulties that come with that as well though. People will make assumptions that you are vain or shallow and that can have certain obstacles, it can also attract the wrong type of women that like you for superficial reasons.
The last couple of dates I went on, when I asked why the women found me attractive or what drew them to me, they only stated physical attributes such as being tall, handsome, dark or having a good build.
The last couple of dates I went on, when I asked why the women found me attractive or what drew them to me, they only stated physical attributes such as being tall, handsome, dark or having a good build.
Well - I meant if you get told directly like that - then you are obviously attractive in the general sense..
But yeah - on a personal level, as far as yumas go, you are pretty cute.
I'm well aware that there are other issues that go with it. For women who are attractive, they will be expected to go after guys with wealth or high status (in fact, regular guys often won't even appraoch them and just assume she's "out of their league"). For guys who are, they will be expected to go after superficial things. And people expect those who are attractive to go after each other for those reasons - in your case, the wrong type for you.
Since most people never experience that though, they aren't aware of the issues that go with it.
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29 Jul 2012, 2:36 am
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Wolfheart wrote:
Thank you that you do find me extremely attractive, there are difficulties that come with that as well though. People will make assumptions that you are vain or shallow and that can have certain obstacles, it can also attract the wrong type of women that like you for superficial reasons.
The last couple of dates I went on, when I asked why the women found me attractive or what drew them to me, they only stated physical attributes such as being tall, handsome, dark or having a good build.
The last couple of dates I went on, when I asked why the women found me attractive or what drew them to me, they only stated physical attributes such as being tall, handsome, dark or having a good build.
Well - I meant if you get told directly like that - then you are obviously attractive in the general sense..
But yeah - on a personal level, as far as yumas go, you are pretty cute.
I'm well aware that there are other issues that go with it. For women who are attractive, they will be expected to go after guys with wealth or high status (in fact, regular guys often won't even appraoch them and just assume she's "out of their league"). For guys who are, they will be expected to go after superficial things. And people expect those who are attractive to go after each other for those reasons - in your case, the wrong type for you.
Since most people never experience that though, they aren't aware of the issues that go with it.
Thank you, many people make insinuations and presumptions based on their own rigid perceptions and many people who claim to be deep are truly shallow because they follow these rigid perceptions of how someone should be or what they should pursue based on their physical appearance.
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lol. can i have some of your problems then wolf? Theres many problems id love to have. Like having dates that go nowhere because the girls are simply interested in me physically, or what color show i buy the expensive sports car with, etc.
There's no guarantee that you will have more success in finding a genuine love in either case or scenario.
Again, is this based on one date in which the girl didn't find you attractive? It's still a debate as to whether attraction is universal or subjective but it could be a case of both. At least subjective attraction is more of a case of someone finding you attractive in their eyes, it is a more personal attachment so you know it is genuine whereas universal attraction is superficial and impersonal.
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29 Jul 2012, 2:39 am
Wolfheart wrote:
Kjas wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Thank you that you do find me extremely attractive, there are difficulties that come with that as well though. People will make assumptions that you are vain or shallow and that can have certain obstacles, it can also attract the wrong type of women that like you for superficial reasons.
The last couple of dates I went on, when I asked why the women found me attractive or what drew them to me, they only stated physical attributes such as being tall, handsome, dark or having a good build.
The last couple of dates I went on, when I asked why the women found me attractive or what drew them to me, they only stated physical attributes such as being tall, handsome, dark or having a good build.
Well - I meant if you get told directly like that - then you are obviously attractive in the general sense..
But yeah - on a personal level, as far as yumas go, you are pretty cute.
I'm well aware that there are other issues that go with it. For women who are attractive, they will be expected to go after guys with wealth or high status (in fact, regular guys often won't even appraoch them and just assume she's "out of their league"). For guys who are, they will be expected to go after superficial things. And people expect those who are attractive to go after each other for those reasons - in your case, the wrong type for you.
Since most people never experience that though, they aren't aware of the issues that go with it.
Thank you, many people make insinuations and presumptions based on their own rigid perceptions and many people who claim to be deep are truly shallow because they follow these rigid perceptions of how someone should be or what they should pursue based on their physical appearance.
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lol. can i have some of your problems then wolf? Theres many problems id love to have. Like having dates that go nowhere because the girls are simply interested in me physically, or what color show i buy the expensive sports car with, etc.
There's no guarantee that you will have more success in finding a genuine love in either case or scenario.
Again, is this based on one date in which the girl didn't find you attractive? It's still a debate as to whether attraction is universal or subjective but it could be a case of both. At least subjective attraction is more of a case of someone finding you attractive in their eyes, it is a more personal attachment so you know it is genuine whereas universal attraction is superficial and impersonal.
its based on me not having had a date ever. Be it for personality, looks, money, etc. And no real prospect of having one either. By that basis I can with ful right say that in your scenario there are higher chances of finding someone special than in a scenario where you dont find anyone at all. You make it sound as if having something that many want is a terrible curse. And i wont pity you for it. Having an advantage is not a curse. It doesnt mean women are going to be attracted to just your looks, it means you have more things for women to be attracted to. If all you're getting are women that you dont feel compatible with then try something new. But dont come here pretending its something horrible. This is honestly worse than the guy that kept coming around here complaining that hes single but will only date hot girls.
29 Jul 2012, 3:11 am
MXH wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Kjas wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Thank you that you do find me extremely attractive, there are difficulties that come with that as well though. People will make assumptions that you are vain or shallow and that can have certain obstacles, it can also attract the wrong type of women that like you for superficial reasons.
The last couple of dates I went on, when I asked why the women found me attractive or what drew them to me, they only stated physical attributes such as being tall, handsome, dark or having a good build.
The last couple of dates I went on, when I asked why the women found me attractive or what drew them to me, they only stated physical attributes such as being tall, handsome, dark or having a good build.
Well - I meant if you get told directly like that - then you are obviously attractive in the general sense..
But yeah - on a personal level, as far as yumas go, you are pretty cute.
I'm well aware that there are other issues that go with it. For women who are attractive, they will be expected to go after guys with wealth or high status (in fact, regular guys often won't even appraoch them and just assume she's "out of their league"). For guys who are, they will be expected to go after superficial things. And people expect those who are attractive to go after each other for those reasons - in your case, the wrong type for you.
Since most people never experience that though, they aren't aware of the issues that go with it.
Thank you, many people make insinuations and presumptions based on their own rigid perceptions and many people who claim to be deep are truly shallow because they follow these rigid perceptions of how someone should be or what they should pursue based on their physical appearance.
MXH wrote:
lol. can i have some of your problems then wolf? Theres many problems id love to have. Like having dates that go nowhere because the girls are simply interested in me physically, or what color show i buy the expensive sports car with, etc.
There's no guarantee that you will have more success in finding a genuine love in either case or scenario.
Again, is this based on one date in which the girl didn't find you attractive? It's still a debate as to whether attraction is universal or subjective but it could be a case of both. At least subjective attraction is more of a case of someone finding you attractive in their eyes, it is a more personal attachment so you know it is genuine whereas universal attraction is superficial and impersonal.
its based on me not having had a date ever. Be it for personality, looks, money, etc. And no real prospect of having one either. By that basis I can with ful right say that in your scenario there are higher chances of finding someone special than in a scenario where you dont find anyone at all. You make it sound as if having something that many want is a terrible curse. And i wont pity you for it. Having an advantage is not a curse. It doesnt mean women are going to be attracted to just your looks, it means you have more things for women to be attracted to. If all you're getting are women that you dont feel compatible with then try something new. But dont come here pretending its something horrible. This is honestly worse than the guy that kept coming around here complaining that hes single but will only date hot girls.
I'm not saying it's positive or negative, simply something that people overlook and how people claim to be deep yet they are protruding towards the very lines and structures that make them shackled to what makes them transparent.
Yes, of course looks do get a foot in the door and they can definitely help in some aspects but I'm stating many people assume that people are leading a fulfilling life just because they are in a relationship when sometimes that can be opposite of what they really need. It's like getting that dream job you have always wanted, only to find it is high maintenance and not right for you.
