Sleep in the the same room, or two different rooms?

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Sleeping arrangment
Sleep together in same room 68%  68%  [ 27 ]
Sleep in seperate rooms 28%  28%  [ 11 ]
Sleep in same room, but two different beds. 5%  5%  [ 2 ]
Total votes : 40

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02 Aug 2012, 6:00 pm

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I'd need a case where both scenarios in the house are possible. I don't really know my specifics of my sleep, so this would be ideal for me. I'd hope my partner would want that as well, so we're able to try and see what works.


I suppose from time to time, you could stay together in each other's rooms.


Hum...never even thought about that! Makes the scenario a bit more flexible!!


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02 Aug 2012, 6:31 pm

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I'd just give a little knock on the wall.

ouch, that would be a mood killer. people don't usually like to be "summoned" for sex.

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ummm... what? thats not what I meant.

then what did you mean?


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03 Aug 2012, 11:37 am

I'm such a light sleeper I don't think I'd be able to at all with someone moving about next to me. I think it would have to be seperate rooms or maybe even different houses.



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03 Aug 2012, 6:15 pm

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I'm such a light sleeper I don't think I'd be able to at all with someone moving about next to me. I think it would have to be seperate rooms or maybe even different houses.


If I ever have another relationship, I'd prefer separate houses! :D

Reading this thread reminded me of my grandparents. My father's parents slept in separate beds in the same room and my mother's parents each had their own room, while I knew them anyway!



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03 Aug 2012, 7:48 pm

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I'm such a light sleeper I don't think I'd be able to at all with someone moving about next to me. I think it would have to be seperate rooms or maybe even different houses.


If I ever have another relationship, I'd prefer separate houses! :D

Reading this thread reminded me of my grandparents. My father's parents slept in separate beds in the same room and my mother's parents each had their own room, while I knew them anyway!

My grandparents got separate rooms when their kids moved out


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04 Aug 2012, 8:42 am

I'd prefer to sleep with my partner. I can't imagine another scenario, I would be quite lonely sleeping away from my partner. Growing up I was used to sleeping in the same room with my siblings and actually I feel safer having the company of another.
Although I'm still not sure how much sleep I can get with my partner, I'm worried that I'll disturb him by tossing and turning and that would keep me awake, especially because I get uncomfortable sleeping on one side for too long.
Having separate rooms is always a good idea, but I don't have to sleep separately.


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04 Aug 2012, 12:36 pm

Marcia wrote:
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I'm such a light sleeper I don't think I'd be able to at all with someone moving about next to me. I think it would have to be seperate rooms or maybe even different houses.


If I ever have another relationship, I'd prefer separate houses! :D

Reading this thread reminded me of my grandparents. My father's parents slept in separate beds in the same room and my mother's parents each had their own room, while I knew them anyway!

I said about seperate houses slightly tongue in cheek (I imagine it's a rare few who would feel the same!) but I am actually quite surprised at the number of people here who say they wouldn't mind sleeping in the same bed.



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04 Aug 2012, 1:38 pm

Not sure if I would be able to get to sleep in bed with another person over a longer period of time. I have tried a couple of times, and I do like it. But I have a hard time falling asleep. So my prefed solution would be separate bedrooms but with the oportunity to sleep in the same bed every now and then.

Of course, with the elusive "right" person I might be able to fall alseep every night. But I still think separate bedrroms might be the ideal solution in the long run.



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04 Aug 2012, 2:53 pm

I like sleeping together and waking up together. But I also like my own space and would prefer to have my own room to retreat to if I was tired and needed a good night's sleep without any disturbance like snoring or fidgeting or someone stealing the duvet. Luckily, I have a three bedroom apartment, so I can take my pick.



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04 Aug 2012, 11:47 pm

I voted sleeping in separate rooms because my husband snores. I would be willing to sleep in the same room with him if we both had separate beds and we can have them together. Me moving my legs and feet in bed bother him because it shakes the bed. I can also use ear plugs but if his snoring is too loud, I am going to another room.


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05 Aug 2012, 12:08 am

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Me moving my legs and feet in bed bother him because it shakes the bed.

I've seen parts of infomercials for beds that have adjustable sittings for each person's sleeping preference comfort level & they supposedly don't transfer movement. I've seen one with a woman jumping on a bed & a glass of wine was on the bed a foot away from her. I don't think that glass had any wine left in it to spill if the bed did transfer movement :lol:


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05 Aug 2012, 5:31 am

I would prefer to sleep in the same room, same bed, at least the same room.


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06 Aug 2012, 2:25 am

I've got a double bed, and love the space of it, but I only ever take up one side. The only problem would be where would she sleep as i've got alot of soft toys with meh.



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06 Aug 2012, 10:25 pm

I've always found sharing a bed with someone really uncomfortable until I met my boyfriend. We both love to cuddle while falling asleep, and it relaxes us both so much that we pass out. I have to be in a very certain position in order to fall asleep (with my legs separated by a pillow and my arms cuddling something), and he falls sound asleep very easily, so even if I need to get adjusted, he sleeps through it.


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09 Aug 2012, 11:11 am

Same bed.
I can't sleep well unless bf is there, and he's the same, with me.


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09 Aug 2012, 11:50 am

My answer isn't listed: Sleep together but also have separate rooms. Been married a long time, and I wish we'd started that from the beginning. I need a place to get away alone sometimes, a place that is just mine. Also we've found that when one is sick with flu or a cold, it works best to sleep separately. But most nights I really prefer sleeping together.