Appearance and Fashion Tips for Asperger's Men

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I have plenty of idea. You made a flawed example. Accept that and make a better one.

and since you completely missed the point of #2, Ill just answer with what you told boo. You held a double standard as to what is ok to put on his wall. Putting a guy means he might like guys so its ok. Putting a woman is sexist. Neither of which are sane reactions to come to from such a simple observation. And thats before going into the dynamics of why you called it sexist.

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in Canada, only women wear short trench coats. fashion is very cultural/national/social.

no, there is nothing wrong with that example. i think that it probably would not matter which pictures i posted, because you have chosen to disagree with most of my posts in this category due to the fact that you seem to have a personal problem with me (and a few other members who you disagree with no matter what they post).

there is no double-standard that i hold for men. i hold women to the same standard. and i already said in my original post that if he put up pictures of men i would think he is probably gay, so i already covered that. and yes, it would be sexist too. good job ignoring the actual content of my posts in the effort to disagree with me no matter what i post.

you honestly think that i come here to argue because i dislike you? You wish you and "the others" were that important in my life to require that. Now, that you have a group of people capable of blindly spewing BS at will and backing each other up any time someone dares to stand up is a different story. Get your facts right

I can think of several ways on which appreciating a movie star/music star... from the opposite sex could come across as okay but in most of this occasions you have to be careful about making it clear that its not her looks(for example: I really like Megan Fox´s movies would come across badly(to females and some males),but, I think that people are too hard on Megan Fox and she is a decent actress who just has had the bad luck of being labeled as someone that just has the looks because of her body would come across as okay(and if you actually research on her career you will see that is how she was being labelled several years before becoming a huge star(short appearance on two and a half men as a mindless bimbo...))).

Same applies to females(everytime I hear a female talk about Johny deep´s latest movie and focusing on his looks I cringe...)

Quite a lot of people would think that you are only interested in looks if you had a poster of Megan fox/Johny deep

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yeah, that's true - if a person is a superfan for some reason it is different territory. i knew someone who was obsessed wth Duran Duran and had thousands of dollars of merchandise, but she wasn't turning them into sex symbols - it was just a special interest.

or some people have those "inspiration boards" or whatever, so then it is quite clear that the pictures would be aimed towards self-improvement goals.

i grew up in the 1970s when it was typical for teenaged boys and younger men to post up photos of (i.e.) Farrah Fawcett or even something out of Playboy on their walls. or if you asked to use a washroom in a mechanic's shop it was typical that they had naked pictures of women posted up. so to my old-fashioned eyes photos of people on the walls can create a visceral reaction of disgust for the objectification. i decided long ago that i would not have sex with someone who had objectifying pictures up on the walls. it seems much less common now, but if a guy had similar pictures on his phone or computer wallpaper i'd feel the same way. my feelings are not universal - most people probably have no problem with it.

What? No sweater vests?

those arent exactly stylish

I agree with the idea that Aspie men could improve their status by taking care of their appearance. They will get more attention from the opposite sex, which can help them get to know more women.

As for dressing like the men in Oceans 11, or like Ryan Gosling, I'm not so sure about it lol. The way the guys are dressed in the Oceans 11 picture comes across as being a jerk to me, for some reason.

Perhaps style can be more of an individual preference?

I have found that as long as I am wearing clothes that actually fit me I'm pretty much golden beyond that I feel like uncomfortable and that affects my confidence level.

What works for me is to simply dress casual, look nice, but not too serious. Nothing at all like the pics in the OP and others. I go through periods of being clean cut and having no facial hair, to looking like a caveman, no problem. I get many looks from women this way, have had what I consider a decent amount of girlfriends, and I have never had to introduce myself first, they always come and speak to me. This works out well, because I am shy, often times too shy to introduce myself to a fine woman I may be interested in. Maybe I am just fortunate in that aspect, where I don't have to dress myself up or really focus that much on looks much outside of looking acceptable to get attention from women. I am fairly decent looking in the face and body, and occasionally I can be pretty smooth when a woman comes up to me so I am sure that helps.

Style and fashion has a universal attraction and that could depend on cultural or social factors, you should try coming to London and you'll realize that the style they dress in is very popular.

If you tried to dress like that in London and go into certain shops, you would be turned away by security or not allowed to enter. Why do you think people that listen to metal should conform to a certain code or dress sense? I know and listen to a wide range of music from metal to rap.

Going to the gym isn't going to remove the fat. You also have to watch your diet. If you don't you end up with a fat over muscle (as you have learned). You gain strength, but not the look you aim for. If you're looking at cutting fat, look into some body building websites that focus maximizing fat loss instead of maximizing other gains.

That's London dude. You could go anywhere in Australia or New Zealand dressed like that.



Sub-cultures tend to have their dominant clothing style, especially those situated around music such as....

Metal:



Punk:



Industrial:



Gothic/Dark Wave/Dark Electro/Etc:




....as you can see, a guy in a suit would stand out in the bad kind of way in any of those crowds. And, your advice ought to be very clear about that. Yuppie clothing won't work everywhere!

Yes that's true but by attempting to be different, they are actually forming another group so they aren't really being original, are they? The individual person desires judgement, without that desire, the forming of groups is impossible. They aren't being original by wearing that type of clothing, they are simply conforming to rigid lines that they set out to change in the first place.

I feel like the casual or business look has a universal appeal for the most part, it is the professional standard and it is widely accepted in the corporate capitals of the world such as London, New York and Dubai.