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09 Nov 2012, 5:07 am

Life is too short to waste on "playing hard to get" #@$$% games anyway. Forget her and move on.

Gad I hate head games!



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09 Nov 2012, 10:30 am

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head games!


I don't wanna play 'em! HEAD GAMES!

*guitar riff*

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09 Nov 2012, 2:02 pm

BlueMax wrote:
Life is too short to waste on "playing hard to get" #@$$% games anyway. Forget her and move on.

Gad I hate head games!


I actually like games, and playing them myself. I lose interest too quickly otherwise, and I get defensive if anyone gets close to me too soon. However, if someone just keeps going silent on me, I end up losing interest and think that they're a bit of a d1ck.



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09 Nov 2012, 2:06 pm

Love games!

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09 Nov 2012, 2:58 pm

smudge wrote:
BlueMax wrote:
Life is too short to waste on "playing hard to get" #@$$% games anyway. Forget her and move on.

Gad I hate head games!


I actually like games, and playing them myself. I lose interest too quickly otherwise, and I get defensive if anyone gets close to me too soon. However, if someone just keeps going silent on me, I end up losing interest and think that they're a bit of a d1ck.


Typical middle-eastern girl..

No wait....typical girl!



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09 Nov 2012, 3:01 pm

you two should just get a room already



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09 Nov 2012, 3:07 pm

smudge wrote:
I actually like games, and playing them myself. I lose interest too quickly otherwise, and I get defensive if anyone gets close to me too soon. However, if someone just keeps going silent on me, I end up losing interest and think that they're a bit of a d1ck.


Gotta' be a gender difference thing... men hate the games, women love 'em (generally speaking, of course.)

It makes me wonder how we ever manage successful relationships at all! :D



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09 Nov 2012, 3:22 pm

smudge wrote:

BTW, it's "playing hard to get", not "playing hard" on its own.



Yes. "Playing hard" has a completely different meaning and is a totally different expression.



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09 Nov 2012, 5:41 pm

I don't know, some guys I know are all about the chase and value a woman by how much effort it took them to be with them. Or this girl-friend of mine who apparently loves them. There is people who love games and people who don't.


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17 Nov 2012, 1:22 pm

On Thursday night I was chatting with M the nurse woman (the one who told me earlier she can't have a relationship because she might move soon bla bla - yet why she went out with me in the first place is another women-related enigma). So on 11:45 PM I've asked her out for a wine dinner (since she loves wine) - she said 'no, I am seeing more than dinner in that' (no kidding!), I was like "it's ok".

On the same time there was P, a young woman who have been chatting me on FB and trying to meet me for a week, she asked me for a meeting again on 11:46 pm just a 1 minute after M's no, after seeing P's message I've automatically said yes.

M went to sleep after that but on the next day we kept texting normally, during the the new message exchanges (and she was asking me if I am feeling alright) so I replied like "It's ok, I've got a date for tonight btw (with P).
She was like? "You're telling me that to let me know that you have a lot of admirers" - I was like "Well, you were my #1 option - change your mind and I would cancel the date now") - she replied me with some blushing emoticons without writing anything.

P turned out way better than I expected and will go out with her again tomorrow on sunday- when M asked me how the date went I was like "It was great! she's really attractive and cute!" and she was like "great news, good for you".

Best counter-rejection everrrr!! !! !! !! !! !! :lol: :lol:



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17 Nov 2012, 3:03 pm

"So I finally asked her "Why the sudden change of heart after the date? if you're no longer interested just tell me and stop wasting my time" - she replied that she just sees me as a friend and nothing more."

Love this sentence, and especially the highlighted part. That's so me. I would say something like that too. But not a lot of people appreciate my forthcoming questions! :cry:



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17 Nov 2012, 7:45 pm

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my first date with my husband was a coffee date. i dated over 100 people before i found him. never give up.

You go girl. You had perseverance and that is wonderful. I know it can be painful and many may have a very difficult time getting through so many people. But you hung in there. Happy for you :-)


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18 Nov 2012, 6:09 am

N33D2focus2 wrote:
cathylynn wrote:
my first date with my husband was a coffee date. i dated over 100 people before i found him. never give up.

You go girl. You had perseverance and that is wonderful. I know it can be painful and many may have a very difficult time getting through so many people. But you hung in there. Happy for you :-)


As smudge mentioned before, they become more and more less meaningful.



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18 Nov 2012, 6:52 am

cathylynn wrote:
my first date with my husband was a coffee date. i dated over 100 people before i found him. never give up.



but did you reject the 100 or did they reject you? or were thy mixed?

That's important on the self-esteem impact.

Usually the one who rejects doesn't get a self-esteem blow as much as the one who's being rejected.



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19 Nov 2012, 1:45 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
On the same time there was P, a young woman who have been chatting me on FB and trying to meet me for a week...
P turned out way better than I expected and will go out with her again tomorrow on sunday- when M asked me how the date went I was like "It was great! she's really attractive and cute!" and she was like "great news, good for you".

Best counter-rejection everrrr!! !! !! !! !! !! :lol: :lol:


The one for you wants you back.

...So how did it go?