Kjas wrote:
MXH wrote:
when doing a witch hunt dont expect theyll come crawling out of the woodwork for you
Exactly.
billiscool wrote:
Perhaps I just have a bias sample size, maybe single aspie women just keep to themselves and single aspie men are more likely to complain about it.
if there are true single aspie women over 25 year old on this board, why do you think no man will even go out with you?
They don't post about it, and if they do - they don't post about it in this section - maybe in the womens section (rarely) or more likely via PM with someone they trust who they think may actually help them. Because they have seen how others in the same position before them in this section have been treated and they want no part in it. Why the hell would many aspie woman come out on here about something like that when they know they are going to get 10-20 pages of being told state such as the following:
"You're only single because you want to be", "if you can't get a boyfriend then you must not be good looking enough", "Lose some weight and then you will deserve a boyfriend", etc, etc, etc
(All of those quotes are statements seriously posted on here I have seen, but paraphrased).
This post sums up the exact reaction I received when I posted about being a single woman (the part about "because you want to be" rather than looks). I was also accused of lying/trolling. I really wouldn't be surprised if all the women here either keep quiet or leave. There were some supportive posts too, but the cruel ones still hurt.
A few male posters could not grasp that just because you get offered sex occasionally or get hit on by a stranger, it doesn't mean you are able to find a real long-term relationship. Maybe it's different for women, but it's not easier. It's not any less lonely if you're needs for companionship aren't being met.
To answer the original post: I'm a young woman with AS and other disabilities, and this is my situation: I'm single. Perhaps because I have been on dates and had sex in the past, it doesn't meet the concept of "single" in the way you refer to it. But I've never had a happy relationship, never been in love with someone who was in love with me, and am single now because I don't want one-night stands or one-off dates that go nowhere, but those the closest thing to a "relationship" I seem to be able to manage to achieve.
17 Nov 2012, 3:58 am
