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07 Dec 2012, 8:28 am

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So does that mean after 21 these woman lose their desirability status?

Sounds like the older woman have less competition to me.


Theres a certain aspect of society that encourages males and females to try to find their partners as young as possible(used to be only males doing it, its changing now with the boytoy concept and whatnot) as people get older the number of suitors tends to reduce unless someone ages really well

^^^yes this.


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07 Dec 2012, 9:07 am

hyperlexian wrote:
spongy wrote:
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So does that mean after 21 these woman lose their desirability status?

Sounds like the older woman have less competition to me.


Theres a certain aspect of society that encourages males and females to try to find their partners as young as possible(used to be only males doing it, its changing now with the boytoy concept and whatnot) as people get older the number of suitors tends to reduce unless someone ages really well

^^^yes this.


Surely, the number of suitors someone attracts as they get older is more to do with the fact that people tend to pair off as they get older (so fewer single people looking for a relationship) than how well someone ages?!



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07 Dec 2012, 9:12 am

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hyperlexian wrote:
spongy wrote:
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So does that mean after 21 these woman lose their desirability status?

Sounds like the older woman have less competition to me.


Theres a certain aspect of society that encourages males and females to try to find their partners as young as possible(used to be only males doing it, its changing now with the boytoy concept and whatnot) as people get older the number of suitors tends to reduce unless someone ages really well

^^^yes this.


Surely, the number of suitors someone attracts as they get older is more to do with the fact that people tend to pair off as they get older (so fewer single people looking for a relationship) than how well someone ages?!

there is still an age gap in the united states in between men and women at age of first marriage, as there is a preferential skew towards younger women/older men. for some reason it isn't just the 19-21 year old men who want to date them, but the older men too. it's less the case in some countries where people tend to date more closely within their own age range.

i don't know all of the reasons why older women might be preferentially selected beyond "ageing well", but i do think that helps to some degree. perhaps you want to ask spongy instead of me, as that is his comment and not mine? i was agreeing with the general gist but it's his statement lol


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07 Dec 2012, 9:56 am

That is interesting to hear at least.

I must be weird then, as I would date someone who is older just as long as they have a great intellect and take care of themselves at that age (some woman tend to let themselves go at 40 when they were apparently the Vixen in their youth).

Looks are secondary to me really...but most people at my age don't seem to be very clever in their actions nor their interests so an older woman is more on the agenda for me (although not too old mind...as I'd be the one who'd be cradle snatched!)

**Cradle snatcher is someone who dates someone who is either:

Still in school.
10+ years older from 20 to 30
Someone who takes a shine to late teens.


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22 Feb 2013, 12:54 pm

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the good news is that each 19 to 21 year old is an individual human being who will be attracted to different types of men, so you don't have to worry about being anything in particular to attract them. what i mean is that some of them like long haired hippie-style older men, some like sexy nerdy types, some like clean cut boyish churchy fellows, some are demiromantic and highly individual in their tastes, etc. there are as many tastes as there are people!

the bad news is that women in the 19 to 21 age group are part of the most highly sought after age group for dating. so it isn't just 19 to 21 year old men who want to date them, but it is also the 22 to 50+ year old men with their sights set on those women. and there aren't enough of those women for every one of those men to get one.


so it's meant to get harder for women as they age but easier for men as they age?



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22 Feb 2013, 4:46 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
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the good news is that each 19 to 21 year old is an individual human being who will be attracted to different types of men, so you don't have to worry about being anything in particular to attract them. what i mean is that some of them like long haired hippie-style older men, some like sexy nerdy types, some like clean cut boyish churchy fellows, some are demiromantic and highly individual in their tastes, etc. there are as many tastes as there are people!

the bad news is that women in the 19 to 21 age group are part of the most highly sought after age group for dating. so it isn't just 19 to 21 year old men who want to date them, but it is also the 22 to 50+ year old men with their sights set on those women. and there aren't enough of those women for every one of those men to get one.


so it's meant to get harder for women as they age but easier for men as they age?

depends on who the older men go after, i suppose.


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22 Feb 2013, 5:01 pm

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22 Feb 2013, 5:58 pm

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I'm 20 and I'm really interested in dictatorships, maggots, philosophy and pus. Yes, that pus. Yes, those maggots. And it has to be proper philosophy, no naff "if you look beyond the horizon, you will see Jesus riding a camel unless it is actually really an old Egyptian man in a beret" sayings. If a guy talked with me about any of the above topics, I might rip off his clothes and snuggle him right then and there. Even if it was at a funeral.

I strongly suspect that I'm weird though. So actually, you should get to know them on an individual basis by asking questions about what they are interested in.


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22 Feb 2013, 6:44 pm

Philosoph.......oh, who the hell am I kidding?


There's no real answer to the question, OP. Being female does not mean women are monolithic with respect to their interests, any more than men are with respect to theirs, so there's no way to give you a straight-up answer. In all likelihood, the answers you get will reflect the interests of the people giving the answers, the same way many replies to subjects typically reflect somebody's individualistic biases, as opposed to any real fact of the matter. I have a lot of interests that are outside the mainstream and what is considered cool. If you want to find a girl/wimmen friend, you have to seek out somebody who's values, interests, etc, are commensurate with your own, not expect any sort of easy-bake answer (not trying to sound like a dick. Hopefully it doesn't come across that way.)



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22 Feb 2013, 6:47 pm

Marcia wrote:
Surely, the number of suitors someone attracts as they get older is more to do with the fact that people tend to pair off as they get older (so fewer single people looking for a relationship) than how well someone ages?!


I've got some bad news for you. As you get older, you will be considered less and less attractive unless, as others have stated, you age really well. Women lose their good looks with age. Men, on the other hand, tend to get more and more desirable as they get older due to the accumulation of wisdom and wealth (up until a certain point). Basically, a woman's sexual market value peaks during her late teens and twenties, while a man's sexual market value peaks during his thirties and early forties.



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23 Feb 2013, 5:50 am

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Surely, the number of suitors someone attracts as they get older is more to do with the fact that people tend to pair off as they get older (so fewer single people looking for a relationship) than how well someone ages?!


I've got some bad news for you. As you get older, you will be considered less and less attractive unless, as others have stated, you age really well. Women lose their good looks with age. Men, on the other hand, tend to get more and more desirable as they get older due to the accumulation of wisdom and wealth (up until a certain point). Basically, a woman's sexual market value peaks during her late teens and twenties, while a man's sexual market value peaks during his thirties and early forties.

no, men really don't anymore. that was a relic of a period when women could not earn their own money to the same degree.

now that women make their own money in most of the western world, that is reflected in the age at first marriage. the more egalitarian the society, the more close in age the marriage partners. women aren't seeking older men like they used to anymore.


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23 Feb 2013, 7:28 am

hyperlexian wrote:
no, men really don't anymore. that was a relic of a period when women could not earn their own money to the same degree.

now that women make their own money in most of the western world, that is reflected in the age at first marriage. the more egalitarian the society, the more close in age the marriage partners. women aren't seeking older men like they used to anymore.


You've done a fantastic job of pinpointing only a very singular part of why older men are considered desirable.



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23 Feb 2013, 7:36 am

Shau wrote:
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no, men really don't anymore. that was a relic of a period when women could not earn their own money to the same degree.

now that women make their own money in most of the western world, that is reflected in the age at first marriage. the more egalitarian the society, the more close in age the marriage partners. women aren't seeking older men like they used to anymore.


You've done a fantastic job of pinpointing only a very singular part of why older men are considered desirable.

you're right - women are also gaining degrees at higher rates than men, so they don't need to marry into that either. i forgot that part, thanks for pointing it out.

perhaps men and women can start to be equally valued for these things now, instead of the way it used to be. for now, it is just not an advantage for men in dating.


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23 Feb 2013, 8:05 am

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you're right - women are also gaining degrees at higher rates than men, so they don't need to marry into that either. i forgot that part, thanks for pointing it out.

perhaps men and women can start to be equally valued for these things now, instead of the way it used to be. for now, it is just not an advantage for men in dating.


Technically I said wisdom and not degrees, but close enough. Last one: Older women are considered less attractive. Or do you not disagree?



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23 Feb 2013, 8:15 am

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you're right - women are also gaining degrees at higher rates than men, so they don't need to marry into that either. i forgot that part, thanks for pointing it out.

perhaps men and women can start to be equally valued for these things now, instead of the way it used to be. for now, it is just not an advantage for men in dating.


Technically I said wisdom and not degrees, but close enough. Last one: Older women are considered less attractive. Or do you not disagree?

that's too complicated to boil down to one sentence like that. if it were strictly true, cougars would not be a phenomenon. in general, younger women are more highly sought-after as a group, but that doesn't mean you can make an absolute statement about attractiveness.


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23 Feb 2013, 8:21 am

I think you could ask 21 19-21 year olds what they like and you would get a different answer every time. Same goes for any other age group. Humans are all different. It comes down to that saying "You ask the wrong questions".

Most people like to talk about themselves. If you want an easier way to talk to people ask them about themselves... and... listen when they talk.