asked a woman out today

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You'd have to be *really* skilled to pull that move off. Aspies are not generally skilled in this area...

I'd offer someone the coffee next time and not whine about not being a millionaire. If you can't buy her a coffee you're either very poor or very cheap - very unattractive qualities.

it's sad you see it this way. I had thought you were more open minded.A guy isnt poor f he doesnt want to buy a girl coffee.

The woman didn't want to go out with me. So why should it matter what I say to her? she didn't want to date me, oh well.
didn't get my free coffee .

here what makes no sense. If a woman has no interest and does not want to date me, then why should it matter what I say around her.

Man i need to give this a full dissection, so you could atleast learn from your mistake..

me:say you like coffee
her: yeah
So a good opener, not the best but you have a conversation, her reply leaves it open for you to ask her to go with you...

me: so, how about you buy me some coffee at starbuck
her:uh, no
This is really weird line to go down.. you have engaged her, you are the one seeking her approval, you are not a god king for whom she out drop her panties at the slightest notice...
However that line salvagable, shes still in the game.. a quick witted guy would shoot back.. well how about i buy you some coffee then?

me: really, oh well
me: hey how you know Im not a millionare
This line is completely unrelated to the conversation, i mean the conversation is over.. this line is akin to going off on a tangent.. its not relevant to the above conversation...
her: well, I don't
me: yeah, I could have been a millionare, I could have gaven you some money
Dude why on earth did you say this? it makes it seem like shes a prostitute... ? its really odd and out of line.. for a start, she isn't going to buy that you are a ballin millionaire.. she isn't even interested at this point..
( I think left sometimes after that, and came back)

me: hey, my lawyer are going to talk to you bout not buying me coffee
^ this is where the aspie stuff comes out really badly, its something rainman would say, the topic is over and you shouldve left it, it can be unsettling for women to be accosted by men..
her: ok
me: well, you have a good thanksgiving, bye
^ nice line, it would have been great if you had have started off polite instead of trying to be a playa

Would have been different if he had said "How about we go to starbucks and talk over coffee?" rather than "How about you buy me coffee?" That's presumptuous, and comes off VERY wrong.

So glad I don't have to deal with that stuff ever...

What I was mentioning in my above post that you quoted was my dismay of en being considered cheap or poor if they dont want to buy an entitled stranger coffee.

So very creepy. So very wrong. And so glad I don't drink coffee. Hahaha.