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20 Nov 2012, 1:35 pm

People always tell me to never say never but I literally will not ever be capable of surviving carrying a pregnancy to term.

I will never have children. I can tolerate kids very briefly before I have to remove myself from any situation involving small children. The sound of a baby crying literally makes me become nauseated.

No kids in my future.

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20 Nov 2012, 2:03 pm

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it is extremely frustrating to have to drive at 40kph in school zones between 2:30 pm and 4:00 pm. i become "pickled" with impatience because i can not see why i should have to drive at 40 kph in the areas that are governed by that speed limit!!.

the local elementary school is to blame for the super slow speed limit, and i am not against keeping them safe, but i think they should herd the kids out the back of the school and into waiting buses, and leave the main road clear of kids, and relieve us drivers of having to travel at 40 kph.

i become very uncharitable with a minute or 2 of being caught in a social landslide.

the value of the "social acceptance" of me is not of much fundamental importance to me.
who knows.

the more kids there are, the more obstacles there are to steer around.

here in america its 24kmh for school zones.

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20 Nov 2012, 2:12 pm

MXH wrote:

here in america its 24kmh for school zones.

It's 30km/h in most places in Canada... unless it's more of a highway-type road than inner-city. Or he's pushing 30 by doing 40.

I get a number of impatient jerkwads behind me who don't want to do the school/playground zone speeds - they rant and scream like I'm ruining their life by driving safely for the kids' sakes.

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20 Nov 2012, 2:38 pm

aspiemike wrote:

I would like to have at least one kid some day, and no more than two. I believe I can be a good father figure and I am the rare type that acts more mature than his actual age. And what better person to mentor a young aspie than an older wiser aspie anyway in the case that the kid is an aspie. Cleaning up after myself though is a concern (cleaning house regularly), but I do take care of myself otherwise.

That's my viewpoint on it, too.

And there are so many people around who only care about the "transmitting their genes as much as possible" part but never about raising the kids and caring for them... and they (and others who suck at raising their children too) think childless people can't tell them they're lousy parents because "what do they know". Yeah, right, as if you didn't learn parenting from your own parents as a child... well, probably *they* didn't and that's why they suck at it.

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22 Nov 2012, 3:15 am

I've got nothing against kids either, I even take cute pictures of them for friends or neighbors (because I am a good photographer). I just couldn't see myself ever raising one or living with a single mom. I'm also pretty new at dating and it's difficult to get romantic or intimate with kids around. I really do want a woman with plenty of free time to spend with me. Already tried dating a mother of an adopted 13 yr old and it just didn't work out.

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22 Nov 2012, 10:13 am

BlueMax wrote:

MXH wrote:

here in america its 24kmh for school zones.

It's 30km/h in most places in Canada... unless it's more of a highway-type road than inner-city. Or he's pushing 30 by doing 40.

it is very easy for you to google what the speed limits in australian school zones are, but you have obviously not done so.

BlueMax wrote:

I get a number of impatient jerkwads behind me who don't want to do the school/playground zone speeds - they rant and scream like I'm ruining their life by driving safely for the kids' sakes.

you get a "number" of them? what is the number?

i find it difficult to imagine civilized people audibly screaming in their cars at the imposition of a 40 kph speed limit (or 30 in your case).
maybe you were having auditory hallucinations that were fueled by paranoia that led you to believe that people considered you an impediment as they queued up behind you in your extreme adherence to the rules..

i have never encountered behavior such as that even once in my whole time as a driver.

maybe it is because i pay no attention to the speed limits and i sail through those areas at my personally approved speed limit....(joke)

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22 Nov 2012, 2:39 pm

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22 Nov 2012, 3:12 pm

No kids for me. I think people have kids for the wrong reasons:

1. They want to be loved.
2. They don't want to be lonely.
3. They expect their children to take care of them during their old age.

I have friends with children and they look miserable. Always broke. The kids trash the house and always causing trouble.

I like kids, but don't want any of my own. I love having a tidy house, money in the bank and the peace and quiet.

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22 Nov 2012, 3:30 pm

BlueMax wrote:

^^^ Holy crap, dude! Chill out!

Talk about unwarranted personal insults...

It appears to me you started it Bluemax by laying into him first
You seem to relish opportunities to diminish others over perceived mistakes
Then you now accuse him of your own initial response!
Hopefully you will get bored with bullying others on WP
And leave other members alone
This last months I have been watching you throwing around your weight and trying to be the big man by demeaning and bullying others

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22 Nov 2012, 7:46 pm

FunkMasterMike wrote:

Also, I wanted to add... :roll:

I've raised this topic to my mom, she thinks its selfish.
If a person knows truly, that he/she can't be or doesn't want to be a parent, they shouldn't have to.
I always thought carrying on your "bloodline" is overrated anyway.
I enjoy being an adult far more than being a child...mostly because of the freedom to do things...and adult things.

Really? Not having kids is selfish? I think people who think that way are also hypocrites because I bet they sure hate child abusers and go on saying how some people should never have kids and should be sterilized and burn in hell and be locked away for life. I also bet they judge other parents for child neglect and how they raise their kids.

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22 Nov 2012, 7:48 pm

Colton wrote:

You forgot:

4. They want a miniture version of themselves.
5. They want a kid who was everything they want, so they can control their life the way they think it *should* be and turn them into who they want them to be.

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22 Nov 2012, 7:56 pm

There are so many wrong reasons to have kids I don't think there are any right reasons to have them.

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22 Nov 2012, 9:04 pm

I used to want five of them but I'm too old and tired now so maybe one or two

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22 Nov 2012, 9:34 pm

I want at least one kid, but as for more, I'm going to cross that bridge when I find it.

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22 Nov 2012, 10:25 pm

I definitely do not want my own kids. I feel completely certain on that.

I like the idea of adoption, but I can't imagine a time when I'd ever be able to support a child, and even that would certainly not be something to take lightly.

I really don't want to create another human being. For a great number of reasons

Apart from anything else, anyone who wants kids should stay with a couple who have a young family for a while. It's a f*****g thankless task!! Real eye-opener to see that

Good question/topic

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22 Nov 2012, 10:35 pm

I also think there should be far more consideration of what people are passing onto their offspring.

I know this begins to border on eugenics type stuff and is very distasteful to many people, but I don't think subjecting a person to a life of illness and disablement is fair at all.

This has been my genetic inheritance, and I would would rather never have been born. That may be irrelevant in the grand scheme of things, but this happens to a lot of human beings, and in at least some cases people could have seen it coming.

That is actually one very sound reason I don't think I have any right to breed frankly. I am not passing on the family curse I have inherited onto anyone. It would be plain cruel

But I don't want kids anyway, so that solves it I guess

And there is something quite indulgent (in my view) about all the obsession over IVF etc. in the modern world, there are so many children that need to be adopted, that need homes and care.

Having children can definitely be a form of narcissism.
May sound cynical, but it's true

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