It's impossible for me to date, ever

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22 Dec 2012, 1:41 pm

You want to know what is amazing?

That people like you, who whine, self-pity and spit out any advice given to them, are always being lavished with attention, whereas good, genuine folk, who have struggled tremendously and still do, and yet do their best to change, even if only a tiny fraction each day...are ignored and often abused here.

Billiscool is another one who "woe is me" constantly. Yet, whenever he posts something, people flock to him like flies to light.

I am a very compassionate person, I do understand depression, since it's something i have battled against my whole life. If you knew half of what I have been through, you would feel sick to your stomach. But just because I don't go round advertising every other minute how the world is against me, I don't get much attention.

However, when I do, those people are immediately recognised for their efforts. I try to follow their constructive criticism.

The "black" race card is just so boring now. I have a colleague, a black male, very unattractive physically, has AS, a somewhat crude personality, and lives alone and has no family. But he makes the effort to change. In the 8 years I have known him, he has flourished as a person. Yes, he is still black (so what? I am latin, should I use that for anything?), he still has the same face, still no family, but what he does have, is the ability to listen to others, and to change. We can all change. Like many have said here, the decision is yours.

At the start of this thread, I told you what Plodder has said here too, albeit in fewer words. The essence was there. Did you comment on that? No.

So in my opinion, there is no point. I tried to give you positive feedback, and you didn't even say thank you. That says more about your manners and personality, than where you live and how poor you are.

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22 Dec 2012, 1:43 pm

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If someone said those things to me I'd punch him in the eye.

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22 Dec 2012, 1:54 pm

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what are talking about? ''woe is me'' If you ever read my post, you will know that Im very proud person. and I have alot of respect for myself.
But women (at least young one) don't want to do things with me in either dating or friendship. And me saying that ''women get dates easier than men'' has nothing to do with my relationship status at all, it just what I believe.

and I do change myself the best I can. I work on my changing my personality and all that good stuff. I love women, I think most women are awesome. I have no problem with women. s**t, I love talking to women, they are fun to talk too. but Im not going to lie and claim that women want to hang out with me and do stuff with me. it just how it is...

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22 Dec 2012, 1:56 pm

Why do you people hate me?

What aspiesanda27 just said was very hurtful and it stung.

I just want people to like me regardless of all my negative qualities. Maybe people should be more sensitive, not everyone is "hard-boiled" most of you here.

I can't just get over stuff, or "deal with it" like most people say.

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22 Dec 2012, 2:07 pm

MR20 wrote:

Why do you people hate me?

What aspiesanda27 just said was very hurtful and it stung.

I just want people to like me regardless of all my negative qualities. Maybe people should be more sensitive, not everyone is "hard-boiled" most of you here.

I can't just get over stuff, or "deal with it" like most people say.

don't worry about it. I have trouble with women too. even though Im very happy person, like to listen, have many good qualities in myself,
and well, for some reason, have no luck with the ladies. it would be nice to be with a lady but you know what. f--k it, if women don't like me, then that is their problem not mine.

try not to worry about what people think of you. I don't care if women like me or not (but it would nice at times), If I go up to a woman and she does not like me, You know what, oh,well. She is the one with the problem not me.

many,many women ''hate'' me too but that stop me for going out there everyday (beside sunday at times) and going up and talking to women.
That don't stop me from being happy, that don't stop me from working out and getting buff. I love my life, I love myself, and I enjoy talking to women,even though many ''hate'' me.

I even think aspieandria 27 (hope I got your name,right) is cool person. try to stay postitive.
keep your head up.

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22 Dec 2012, 2:58 pm

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Why do you people hate me?

OMFG. Does nothing sink in? Does nothing register? Dozens of people have been trying to tell you but you WON'T LISTEN.

You have to be trolling us all... nobody could possibly be this stubborn!

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22 Dec 2012, 3:02 pm

I just want friends

I want people to like me, I just want to stop feeling this way. I just want a group of people that are nice and share my interest. People that I can go places, be friends, and have fun with.

I don't care about anything else.

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22 Dec 2012, 3:03 pm

TallyMan wrote:

MR20 wrote:

Anyway, I'm not posting in this thread again. I can only cope with small amounts of your whining self-pity before I feel nauseas.

TallyMan wrote:

Tequila wrote:

TallyMan wrote:

If someone said those things to me I'd punch him in the eye.

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22 Dec 2012, 3:07 pm

MR20 wrote:

I just want friends

I want people to like me, I just want to stop feeling this way. I just want a group of people that are nice and share my interest. People that I can go places, be friends, and have fun with.

I don't care about anything else.

Looks like you have listened to some advice here. Forget the past pains and keep assessing how you want to feel now so that it can improve your future for you.

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22 Dec 2012, 5:28 pm

MR20 wrote:

I just want friends

All I can say is that you do have the potential to slowly change your life.

I've read your other threads about your problems, and I think you need to try and take on board some of the advice given. It may seem "mean", but at the end of the day, we cannot force you to change yourself. I expect that you do want to change how you are (since you made it clear) but you seem to find it difficult to actually start doing that.

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22 Dec 2012, 7:49 pm

MR20, what would your reaction be if everyone just started agreeing with you and saying "You're right, you really do suck"?

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22 Dec 2012, 7:52 pm

MR20 wrote:

I just want friends

As I said before in another thread, check out a local anime club, maybe one at a college. They exist. Email the group leader, ask if you could come, tada.

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22 Dec 2012, 8:05 pm

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MR20, what would your reaction be if everyone just started agreeing with you and saying "You're right, you really do suck"?

I would feel a lot better about how I viewed myself if everyone viewed me the same way, which I think people here would if they met and been around me for an extended period of time.

It would make offing myself an easier decision as well.

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22 Dec 2012, 8:16 pm

MR20 wrote:

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MR20, what would your reaction be if everyone just started agreeing with you and saying "You're right, you really do suck"?

I would feel a lot better about how I viewed myself if everyone viewed me the same way

Er, right. So you want everybody here to tell you that you're "an ugly, poor, slow, stupid, uneducated, smelly, poor, ignorant, unattractive, repulsive, depressed, lonely, uninteresting bum that can't do anything right?"

I do not believe you for a single second. Nobody wants to be hated by their fellow human beings. Most of us, when we say how horrible we are, are hoping to be contradicted. If you genuinely want to be hated in this way, then you are very puzzling, and I cannot make you out at all.

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22 Dec 2012, 10:22 pm

MR20 wrote:

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MR20, what would your reaction be if everyone just started agreeing with you and saying "You're right, you really do suck"?

no you wouldnt because you are already getting upset at the perception that everyone who has posted hates you. I think people in this thread are being harsh telling you that all you need to do is take advice and you will be ok. I can understand your pain man. Not everyone can get a girlfriend easily. If you are really as bad as you say then yah it will be tough for you. I've been to an aspie group and I would say the people there were high functioning, but I'd be shocked if they ever had a gf lol. If you claim you are low functioning then yah it's likely in combination with your other issues(if true) that you won't ever get a gf despite effort. To be honest though, you aren't LFA if you can type so coherently. If you are misinterpreting your level of autism you are also probably misinterpreting your scent and ugliness. Post a picture, I've seen members claim to be dog ugly and while they werent models they were only slightly below average or at least average and im pretty picky when it comes to that.

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22 Dec 2012, 10:49 pm

Can a gentle and understanding and empathetic girl here who lives near him become his friend in real life or something?

All the advices being given to him here are in vain.

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