I am not feeling it; no I am not.

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Update: broke up with her because she's a b***h, almost literally (yea.. a dog person).


I am very glad that I barely had feelings; her feelings and her words were fake and s**t.

I am glad also. Better to find out sooner rather than later.

Did you suddenly discover this then? Was she hiding it well previously?

We decided to go exclusive last week but since then I was discovering.... strange behaviour about her; first let me note that she was extremely jealous and she always questioned me about female acquaintances; even girls that are barely my friends and barely see them. She explicitly admit that she doesn't believe in limitless friendship between guys and girls and always had trust issues with her exes in that regard. Ha! I came to realization that she was reflecting her own truth there; she thinks all people are like her.

The other day she was complaining about her colleagues (females) gossiping bad stuff behind her back like her being a slut who loves attention from guys and involved with some; huh, I should have taken this gossip as a sign, usually there's no smoke without fire, eh?

She also once complained about her guy friends; saying how all are secretly want her for sex - she told me about a guy 'friend' who explicitly told her that he was horny and wanted her help but she claimed she refused and was very upset about this, as she claimed anyway; deeply I wondered if she was giving false signs toward guys or...something else, otherwise how comes all of them would be that daring toward her?

Then I saw a totally inappropriate picture for fb in her facebook album (boldly half-opened shirt , almost all bra shown; it wasn't fashion per se, it was obviously purposely opened like that ) with all silly comments from guys below -I've asked her to remove it; she did but I questionined her what was the point of a such picture to be posted on facebook in the first place! Then she claimed it was old daring times (she could at least deleted thr horny comments tho) - as someone who used a shirtless pic on okc, I didn't question further.

On Sunday, she texted on evening after her journey with family and asked her how was it, she said it was nice and then said she met her guy friend in the evening - gut feelings I had here about his "guy friend" because of the way she said it; I've asked her who was he; and guess what? He's the same guy who 'fancies' her (and he was horny for her) - I've asked why she met him, she said "just friends" - I've asked her if was in a group setting or not, "we were alone" she said.

I've told her "you know he wants more than friendship, why meeting him?" - she said "all guys fancy me it's not my fault" O_o ; anyway I've expressed my total non-Ok for meeting that guy "friend" in particular alone and at night and told her that I am thinking of distancing myself from her and gives a second thought about this whole "relationship" ; she didn't like what I said so she spit her venomous truth: "We're both 24 (her and that guy), wanna enjoy life!".

What came from me after that were words that would be totally censored here.

Run fast and far...but then, I can see you've already figured that one out.

I have known women like that. It never ends well for the men who care about them.

Your instincts served you well today!

Boo, there's obviously something that keeps attracting the same kind of girls to you - the kind that you actually don't want to interact with.

How does your dating selection process work if you don't mind me asking?

They're not the same kind, that was the first of her kind.


(unless you are refering to those girls who randomnly asked for sex)

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Well, I am trying to not date at ALL ever again....... being just friends with everyone, and then one day you might accidentally fallll in love with each other.

Dating is 2 people TRYING to find romance.... ewwww!! !! !! !! !!

Something about LOOKING for love, to me, is the surefire way of not finding it, but instead settling for the lesser of the evils on the "also looking" menu!

I'm afraid this is always going to be the downside of wanting to be with the type of woman all the other men want as well.

1.) It goes to the woman's head and makes her very arrogant and self-obsessed

2.) It means you will always be fearful of her going off with one of the other men always hanging around waiting for their chance

She sounds obnoxious to me and not even looking to settle for a committed relationship - she wants to play the field and enjoy all the male attention.

I'd leave her to get on with it as it will all dry up when she hits 40 anyway as from the sound of it her personality isn't anything special - she'd better make the most of it while she can!

You evidently go for looks over personality and this will continue to cause such problems until you can develop a liking for people who aren't so mainstream good-looking

It would pay you well to develop a liking for less overtly good looking people as there are far less downsides to this type of person. It all depends on how much you want to show off your partner to others and use them as a status object though.

Also, isn't it an arrestable offence in a country like Lebanon to show flesh on your Facebook page??

In an 'Inbetween Relationships' period, if I fancied the other person and their personality was ok I'd be taking the sex to cheer myself up.

I agree with that. This dating stuff and feelings never worked for me too. So there is a guy, i dont even know yet, and after having three dates, which are gathered maybe around 12 hours spended time, there shall suddenly be deep love with a still completely foreign person? Never felt anything in this way and never understood, why i should be interested in spending time with unknown persons anyway. After trying to copy that stuff in my teenager years i finally decided not to have any relationships again, because I seemed to be unable to fulfill the expectations in partner ship for my partners. And for myself there was just only misadvantages without any pros.

So luckily I do have an relationship now since 13 1/2 years, but instead of this dating stuff he was just a normal friend of mine, so I were able to know him better and better and like him more and more without the trouble of dating and relationship stuff and the expectations thats go with it. I knew him for 2 years, when we decided to try partnership on his effort, i was still skeptical because of my bad experiences before. Happily it worked out well and i really think it is because I was "allowed" to know and to trust my friend without the stress of all that dating stuff. So when we decided to have a relationship, this feelings already had 2 years to grow, so that they were able to met the expectations of my partner.

I cannot imagine how this deep feelings of trust and so on, should exist after knowing a person only a few days or hours. Not to mention real love or anything in this way. So this classical meeting with foreigners would never work for me, because i had to tell the person, that he had too wait around 2 years until i can tell if there are feelings inside me, that would allow me to know, if i was interested in an relationship or not.

True that.



False assumptions are false, I don't go with only the "overtly good looking" people, check your pm for pics of the people I dated.




Oh boy , I didn't know that, loads of girls would be arrested there then; and not only on facebook.

I totally agree with and I am fully aware about it; in fact this how most relationships start.

But you people are talking as persons with normal social lives and with fairly large pool of friends/acquaintances. People who, through their friends and their active social life, are always meeting new people, hence always making new friends.

Do you think I would be here making this thread if I had a such thing? or being ever on WP and any dating site?

I am 30 years old already, if I had those and if I wasn't so socially inept then I wouldn't probably stayed single thus far.

Sorry, but this advice isn't for me.

maybe you will meet someone on here???

and I don't have much of a social life.

I only had friends over because my boyfriend wanted to meet people, so I let people in my life again, and I had other friends before only because they forced their way into my life, (so more like creeper frienemies)

I still beleiev in concentrating on hobbies and interests, and then the people with the same hobbies and interests accidentally spend more and more time and then, oops!

In my opinion the standard relationship model works insofar as a person sees themselves as part of their mainstream (NT) culture.

I used to before I knew I had Aspergers and was engaged to be married at one point (but I'd agreed to that more to please the other person than for myself and it didn't work out anyway) but after my diagnosis I more or less abandoned efforts to fit in with NTs as I'd been categorically told I wasn't one of them so I couldn't see the point any more.

I have now found a far more workable model and that is living with a male friend while I see another person for a physical relationship. So there are two people providing for my needs instead of one person having to bear all the responsibility.
This works out far better for me and I don't feel I am too vulnerable if the relationship goes wrong as I continue to have the support of my friend so this is a safety net.

While I am happier having the physical relationship as well as the friendship, the friendship is the most important relationship ie it is more essential to my wellbeing.