Women always try so hard to ignore me and look away from me?

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I am like the most unapproachable person in the world. I think it is because I am so antisocial and awkward. In public, I always catch myself daydreaming and thinking deeply about things. I don't really focus too much on what is going on around me because I know that I am never welcome to it. The people around me would just be a disappointment, so I tend to tune everyone and everything out. This would include my own emotions. I think I am kind of like a robot. I think I lack the ability to be social and when I exert all my efforts into being social, I just look like I'm trying to be something or somebody I am not. Every single time I even just look at a woman in public, they look away or look down at the ground, look passed me, etc. I really don't get it. I am an attractive guy and sometimes I smile (very rarely though). If someone looked at me without smiling, it wouldn't bother me so much and it certainly wouldn't make me look away at all. Just yesterday, there was this woman in line at the store behind me. I thought she was cute and just glanced at her (not even staring) and she instantly looked down and I could tell she was doing all she could in her power to avoid eye contact with me. It was really insulting. I am not a bad looking guy. I am really thin and maybe awkward/weak looking, but that is no reason to look away from me eternally like I am the devil or something. I really don't understand this world and peoples' complete disinterest in me. Does this happen to you too?

I have seen people with AS mention this before and I have to say that I cannot ever imagine that doing little social experiments comes off as too natural. I would imagine that it would come off as a bit creepy and feel very strange to the other person. For an NT smiling and making brief eye contact is something that is done naturally, I think that perhaps what you are doing just seems very awkward to the person that you are trying to engage with. If you keep trying to catch their eye I think that would make them feel nervous, just because it is not a behavior that we are used to. As hyperlexian mentioned people don’t tend to hold eye contact with strangers often.

I think this is it.
Your "little social experiments" are freaking people out, so they're trying to minimise interaction with you.

Coming from a place of near zero interaction to a place of initial interaction is not something to be frowned upon.

Coming from a place of near zero interaction to a place of initial interaction is not something to be frowned upon.

True, but how will he correct his mistakes if noone ever points out what they are?
Coming from a place of near zero interaction to constant rejection has got to hurt; why not try to do what he can to stop it?

How can he know your advice is better than none if you haven't been there to see for yourself?
I am assuming he just said 'Hi' to a few women.

I am sorry but I do not understand.

Alienboy was asking why he is getting the reaction that he is from women.

In my opinion, and I believe Who Am I's opinion, that is why he is getting that reaction. We weren't 'frowning upon' his behavior, just explaining why it may be happening.

And how can a person who has a girl friend that is going to move in with him have near zero interaction?

Just saying "hi" doesn't sound much like a social experiment.

The man has revealed an issue, and most of the posts have then been denigrating.
You would crush a man into a box and then decry him for his struggles?

I'm a sexy aspie
nice face, muscular body
women stare at me

I had a [crazy alcoholic] young girl come on to me in front of her upset boyfriend [a surfer friend!], last night.

They cant control themselves

You're being a little melodramatic. Telling someone that their "little social experiments" are probably giving the wrong impression is hardly crushing them into a box.