The Dating Game: What I've learned from WP Love&Dating

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Lol you get the gist

What's the hip word on the streets for it among the young folk these days then?

"That thing old people used to do."

I don't use the term 'going steady' myself, I just used it to describe the concept of seeing one person rather than dating a variety of people/playing the field

People who get hung up on how cool or uncool a person's terminology is are notoriously unlucky in love in my experience
as they clearly demonstrate their shallowness and worthwhile people of any depth tend to steer well clear

i think ''seeing each other'' is what the cool young people say now....or they may say ''so you and i are f*****g right?''

That's the trouble here, you don't want any help and you are being resilient towards those who try to help you or offer you advice. If you're not going to listen, you're not going to find help. As I said, I have created threads in the past about presentation, grooming, body language and image in the past. You have good genetics for physical work and weightlifting, I made friends through training and sports and being more active definitely gave me confidence.

Another phrase I heard when I was younger was 'walking out with' Lol

'going steady' is an Americanism though - I probably only used it as there are a lot of Americans on this board
I've never used it myself elsewhere.

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I think what MR20 is saying is that it isn't a level playing field ie you have more advantages so it's all a lot easier for you in the first place.

If you were MR20 you would probably feel the same way as he does.

i havent heard that one before. I think ''an item'' is an older one as well. i think people now adays just say , ''we are together, we are seeing each other, we're dating, she's my f**k buddy, we're going out''.

i can't be sure though as unfortunately im single

i dont think resilient is used correctly here..it means able to bounce back unaffected from trauma. I think you mean resistant.

Seeing someone is just a different set of problems

I've been made out to be stupid earlier due to not understanding an explanation of something
that wasn't being explained very well

Then I get 'I love you but you're hard work'- Oh so it's my fault for having a defective brain?!

None of this has made me feel very good about myself so I'm now stuffing myself with corn chips
which will make me fatter then I'll probably get blamed for being fat at some point!

The grass isn't always greener on the other side believe me!

There's downsides to being with someone just as there are to being single

Not necessarily because I have made great efforts to achieve what I did. For instance, I went to college and although at first I had trouble making friends, got into fights and whatnot, I persevered and made several friends. I can drive, it took me several attempts to pass my test but I can drive, I didn't just let the first obstacle get to me. I started out with no friends and an outcast.

Me as a 130lb awkward, shy and skinny teenage boy.


I'm almost a hundred pounds heavier now and I feel like I have achieved a lot just through willpower and determination. So yes, you can improve yourself and set your mind on goals over time.

lol dude post that on fb..it would be funny.

I see the point you are making

I find the 'before' photo of you nicer in a way though - you look more down to earth and approachable and cuter

But presumably less appealing to the average NT

I'm not interested in appealing to NTs myself, I don't know about MR20 though

I relate to men who look more like your 'before' photo than the 'after' one, which makes sense as your after photo is far more
of an NT look

Aspies often don't even bother with getting a 'look' - we are as we are - people can take it or leave it

Isn't looking too NT going to possibly put off aspie women who might be a better match for you or is it mainly NT females you are
after anyway?

It doesn't matter to me if a girl is on the spectrum or not but girls on the spectrum are a rarity and even so, being on the spectrum doesn't define someone as innocent or with honesty and good character. Having AS isn't some halo you wear on your head and relationships without trust and communication lead to mistrust and insecurity so if both people are on the spectrum, they would have to work through that.

Wolfheart, you were warned before not to sell yourself as a product on WrongPlanet. you didn't just achieve your goals through hard work and determination. you have used steroids, multi-level marketing programs, PUA materials, and other schemes in order to get where you are now, and it is frankly untruthful for you to sell your story like you were a success based on just "willpower and determination", and for you to promote that story is unfair to the members who actually believe you.

NOBODY is really totally successful as a teenager, not even NTs. pretty much everyone is a work in progress during those years. it's not as though anyone on earth turns 16 and is already fully successful in life.. but keeping that in mind, Wolfheart, it is not as though you went from the disadvantages of MR20 to the person you are today. you may have made strides in the direction you desired, but you need to keep this in perspective on the board - you didn't go from MR20's life to your current life. and for the gains that you made, you didn't do it with just "willpower and determination".

this is a temporary lock on the thread for you to read this warning. you need to stop promoting yourself like you are a product NOW. it is dishonest. if people want to look up to you, they will do so without needing you to tell them why.

i would have thought that your one month suspension from the site would have given you some perspective.

edit: thread is unlocked. Wolfheart, keep in mind that the forum is not a tool for sales or promotion. if anyone has any question about this, please send a PM to a moderator. thank you