Do you know any female loners? Are male loners...

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Yes, I know a female loner; she rejected me.

I can go months on end staying home alone except for trips to the grocery store, and communicating with nobody except via the occasional family email. On the other hand, I can easily jump into the car and drive across the country to attend an unexpected funeral without any discomfort. In traveling around on my own, I notice that there are many multiples of "alone" men out and about on the road compared to women, although I've never had the courage to take anyone up on their kind offers of passing companionship. Yet.

I'm a loner and have been called a nerd on numerous occasions. Once the "model" guys get older and loose there looks women go towards men with education. Being a loner nerd now is worth it to be an engineer later...

I'm a loner and I'm a girl. I rarely see the girl I would consider my best friend and we have that kind of relationship where we don't need to constantly keep in contact. Other than that, it's just me, Mamaz (my dog), and my current NT boyfriend.

I'm a loner because I'm very shy and have social anxiety, and honestly, most people frustrate me. When I need my social interaction tank filled, I chat room it up, and that's usually good enough for me.

Just so you know, the "model" guys have their own deficiencies (ego, the need for power, obsession with money, etc), so don't feel they automatically have the upper hand.

If you can make a girl/woman laugh, you are more than halfway there.

That's pretty much what I do. I play an MMO and occasionally interact socially with the other members of my group online and I come to WP.

Loner here too, my work fills me to overflowing with social nice-nice, I have heaps friends but I think I'm a pretty sh***y one more often then not, so god knows why these people continue to invest in me. I only very occasionally contact any of them when they cross my mind and I think I should but certainly not because I want to chit-chat. So it's pretty much always them keeping in touch with me, I'd give them the shirt off my back if they needed it, don't get me wrong but I just cant stomach having to keep up the accepted social pretense.

I'm female, and I'm a loner. It's just more comfortable that way, even though I do get lonely every once in a while.

okay, from what I gathered from this thread, being loner means you have a ton a friends, offspring, and are well-liked by all your colleagues and cohorts. Well done everyone! We butchered this word so badly that it might as well be removed from the dictionary.

I'm sorry, I sound like I'm joking but along with all the women that tell themselves that they're not attracted to men in positions of power in that other thread, and all the ones claiming they are loners here, I find it baffling that they can lie so plainly.

The amount of deceit involved in this world is pitiful.

I am not being deceitful.

I am a loner. I don't have a "ton of friends". I live with my mother and barely leave the house. I don't even have any friends living in the same state as me. I pretty much only have one friend left over from childhood that lives in a different state that I only see once a year.

I saw that other topic and didn't post in it yet. I'll look at it now. I'm not attracted to "men in positions of power" either. I'm asexual. As someone who was bullied a lot in school I can't stand bullying behavior. I can't stand people that are controlling either. I also am not attracted to heavily muscled men. I don't like the way it looks.

Just curious, Klowglas, how do YOU define "loner?" My impression always was that it meant something like preferring one's own company to almost all others, living alone, etc. What am I not understanding?

AspieOtaku, you will be the first to know on WP if I get married! If only we were so bold and blunt as you!

Well I'm a loner... and still one.
I have been struggling with it since I got in the US since 2008, so...
I wish I had many friends who understand me.
The only one I have outside the church was a fellow Aspie, and I was happy with her around, and she was a year younger than I was. Until she betrayed me last October, and sent the police on me last January, but luckily they just let me go after promising not to come back to her.
I don't say this to anymore, but it's for the best to let you guys know
"Even a fellow Aspie can betray you."
She was the one I 1st loved but before I can ask her to be my girlfriend, that's when she turned and succumbed to the family curse she had.
It's best I'd save that one for later.

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It seems if a young woman has no friends whatsoever, she either travels a lot and just talks/has sex with male strangers and stuff, has a really involved job where she still socializes [/quote]

why can't I met these type of single women, who just wonder around and having sex with male stranger.

Me & my girlfriend are both loners. I have some physical disabilities besides my Aspergers that caused me to be bullied alot in elementary & I was so overwhelmed with high-school that I just wanted to be left alone so I could relax when I wasn't in school. I had one real friend in high-school who I lost touch with & I made a few friends after but a couple were people I worked with & one was my mom's friend who got me involved with a club. I wasn't very close with any of em thou & we didn't do alot of hanging out of friendship things together.
My girlfriend is possibility an Aspie; her brother has it & she has some spectrum traits as well as a few anxiety disorders that cause her to have Avoident Personality. She messaged me after reading abit of my posts on here

As mentioned, I have no friends. I feel that the part about being "well-liked by your colleagues" was pointed at me. My purpose in mentioning that was to demostrate that I CAN get along with people but that I don't want to. I believe that someone who doesn't want to make friends is more of a loner than someone who wants them but is simply unable to get them.