What's the Point of a Loveless Life?

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^TRUTH

Now I'm even more fearful of the future... Well, considering I am hopeless in love... *sighs in frustration*

The exact same point as a life with love. Absolutely nothing, its all pointless. You just find how to spend the time as suits you.

Don't lose hope.

You are only 21.

It took me a lot longer than that to find my life mate. And by the way I am NT. It happens to a lot of people. It isn't easy to find someone with a lot in common.

You can find love in other ways. From family, from a pet, even from things you like to do.

When you start thinking desperate thoughts like this, try doing something to get your mind off everything. Find a hobby that will help you to focus elsewhere (onto the hobby not on the doom and gloom thoughts) and stick with it.

You can always practice love by loving things in the ways above. Also people who are interesting and doing fun things have a bigger chance to attract someone interesting and fun. So find things to get involved with, anything is a start. That really does help.

Then when you meet someone special you won't feel as focused just on that person which can make that person feel crowded or pressured. Instead they will have fun being around you. I'm not saying you have to walk around with a huge grin on your face or constantly be busy. In fact either extreme is unproductive in meeting someone.

Not sure whether moving to another city would help, no way to tell you that really.

But above all remember you are only 21 and you really do have a big full life ahead of you. Enjoy it.

I don't agree with this although the 30s can seem dire. Some people meet their life mates really late in life. The key is to be learning new things and be having fun and interested in life. Also it can take time to really know yourself which helps you to figure out who you really are and who you really want to be with.

well said! If you want genuine unconditional love, adopt a cat

Things aren't likely to change just because you move. I used to tell myself... when I move everything will be better... new people.. new places.. i'll definitely be able to make friends or find a GF then!

Nope... no such luck. I've moved a few times, changed jobs, and nothing. The same problems I had before get carried along whenever I move. It seems the only thing we can change is deep inside of us... our thoughts... our views... our feelings. Instead of moving I suggest you try some therapy. Just remember that therapists are like personal fitness trainers... you have to find one that understands you and that you can connect with. Otherwise it's a big waste of your time. That search is worth the effort.

And lots and lots of pets!

I give up and spend large periods of time in solitude, i don't think true love is for me anymore its just going to end in pain, anguish and heartbreak. It has taken me about 9 years to find myself and realize that it will never happen and I accept that.