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albeniz
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24 May 2013, 9:02 am

Salut cafeaulait,

I understand what you are getting at. Relationships are, in my opinion, about sharing life. You don't have to have inane discussions in order to do this. You also don't have to spend all your time with a partner or even live with them full-time to do this. How do you go sharing life with your family? If you can have a relationship with them you can have a relationship with a boyfriend - you just need to find one that understands your emotional needs.



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24 May 2013, 9:21 am

vk2goh wrote:
Well, I think maybe start by building up conversational skills within your circle of friends at the moment.

Toastmasters is one good way to teach you how to do proper speaking. Also, keep yourself busy with things like sports, going out, volunteer work and travelling in addition to your day-to-day life.

You'll find that you'll have heaps more to talk about by having more life experience


In other words conform or you are hopelessly doomed. What if you are too exhausted after work to do those things and need time to rejuvenate by enjoying your own special interests?



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24 May 2013, 9:23 am

albeniz wrote:
Salut cafeaulait,

I understand what you are getting at. Relationships are, in my opinion, about sharing life. You don't have to have inane discussions in order to do this. You also don't have to spend all your time with a partner or even live with them full-time to do this. How do you go sharing life with your family? If you can have a relationship with them you can have a relationship with a boyfriend - you just need to find one that understands your emotional needs.


What about people who don't enjoy talking about their day-to-day experiences, family, or work because they are mostly boring and/or suck?



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24 May 2013, 11:08 am

Despite largely leading lives from our computers, haha, I talk to my guy pretty much every day about pretty much anything. A lack of barriers between us makes it easy and I know I can talk to him about anything and trust that he won't judge me or think less of me for it. Same courtesy extends to him.

We're both creative people though, so we talk a lot about writing, stories, ideas, concepts, etc.



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24 May 2013, 2:58 pm

marshall wrote:
albeniz wrote:
Salut cafeaulait,

I understand what you are getting at. Relationships are, in my opinion, about sharing life. You don't have to have inane discussions in order to do this. You also don't have to spend all your time with a partner or even live with them full-time to do this. How do you go sharing life with your family? If you can have a relationship with them you can have a relationship with a boyfriend - you just need to find one that understands your emotional needs.


What about people who don't enjoy talking about their day-to-day experiences, family, or work because they are mostly boring and/or suck?


The core of human to human relationships as a whole, meaning any kind from acquaintances to wife, is being able to relate in some way. It usually doesn't matter what about.


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