Friends with benefits -- need advice

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Right. Women don't go for FWB because they don't enjoy being used. Please do not kid yourself by imagining that women are happy to use you for sex and conversation, too, so that'll make everything dandy.

Friends are not people you have good conversations with. Friends are people you care about and are committed to, one way or another. If you're a good friend, you've got your friends' backs. You're there when they need you. You're invested in their happiness and success. On some level, you love them. That gets truer as people get older and have families, because the time for shallow friendships disappears: you focus on the people you really care about.

Put it this way: You want to use women for sex and diversion, be obligated to them in no way, and have them vanish when you're done with them. Can you explain why a woman would want this? This is what your hand and Comedy Central are for.

Excellent self-defense.

Hahah yeah, a self-defense. Why wouldn't you want to do anything with their family? Maybe because that means getting involved in their lifes too much, which is also some kind of responsibility avoidance?

And yes, women usually don't tend to enjoy FWB relations because they always secretly hope that it will grow to a relationship.
From a personal experience, it always ended up this way. And then you just feel used and unhappy.

I am wondering, isn't maybe FWB the worst thing for an aspie to handle? Because, although it is "no obligations" relationship, there are certain unwritten rules about it. Especially if you actually ARE friends in regular life and you expect to be treated that way.

Who says couples don't have good conversations?

Who says couples aren't also friends?

minus obligations.