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17 Oct 2013, 12:01 pm

Yes, it plays a huge role but is not the determining factor. I am an "arrogant narcissistic cynical jerk" for example, I am a self-aware but I do not care it to fix it. I do not care about the population's status quos and requirements for a relationship.



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17 Oct 2013, 12:03 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
http://www.wikihow.com/Increase-Dopamine

1- Eating Almonds, avocados, bananas, low-fat dairy, meat and poulty, lima beans, sesame. Check.

2- Eating fruits. Check

3- Eating Junk food. Not Check, I cheat sometimes.

4- Exercising. Check, I go to gym at least 3 times a week.

5- Plenty of sleep. Not check, I am a batman.

6- Reach a new goal. hmmm...there's a new goal but I have to work more on it and feel it. Not so check I say.

7- Supplements. Not check.

Get speed *cough* adderall.



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17 Oct 2013, 3:54 pm

I'm surprised someone looked up the natural way of increasing the dopamine. Last I checked, its also a hormone. For those who work out to build muscle know to consume as little soy as possible due to the increase in estrogen.

You can easily check out how to increase serotonin and oxytocin as well. Although women are more likely to have the oxytocin increased than men do. A lot of the foods overlap into increasing the other hormones as well I.e bananas should increase testosterone and serotonin as well.


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17 Oct 2013, 5:47 pm

aspiemike wrote:
I'm surprised someone looked up the natural way of increasing the dopamine. Last I checked, its also a hormone. For those who work out to build muscle know to consume as little soy as possible due to the increase in estrogen.

You can easily check out how to increase serotonin and oxytocin as well. Although women are more likely to have the oxytocin increased than men do. A lot of the foods overlap into increasing the other hormones as well I.e bananas should increase testosterone and serotonin as well.

No s**t, monkeys don't look girly in any way, do they?

And they also are physically stronger usually than most humans in general.

Them bananas are roids to them. xD



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17 Oct 2013, 9:30 pm

"Necessary" and "sufficient" are two different things.
I need to be breathing and not a serial killer if I want to be in the dating market, but just those things aren't enough to get a date.


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17 Oct 2013, 10:18 pm

octobertiger wrote:
^ Sorry, I don't agree with that, and that hasn't been scientifically proven to be the case. Dopamine is supposed to be a neurotransmitter - now, surely that means it's a vehicle, but not confidence in itself. If there are no vehicles, then of course confidence will be affected.

Surely our perceptions and thought patterns create the perceived 'confidence' in the first place, yet require a chemical transport system to get the body to react very quickly (hence panic attacks, etc)

A bit like - you have fear of something - the fear is felt, and a chemical (adrenaline and eventually a suppressant - its name escapes me)

All this 'everything is genetic' and 'everything is a chemical' is a bit dangerous really. I'm not saying that your post says that directly, and I'm not saying that chemicals aren't useful, but they cannot be the whole story.

Another example? You feel confident playing piano on stage, in front of thousands. All of a sudden, you're doing this and there's a change of plan - you have to sing in front of them (ok, strip naked if that scares you more). Naturally, there's a massive change in mood. Are you telling me someone's sucked your dopamine away? How can this be so?


I thought confidence derived from the belief that you've got something you could be proud of, whether it be your academic achievement, job, looks, special skills, money, etc.
However, sometimes people can lack confidence even if they've got all of those, whereas there are those who have loads of confidence based on nothing. So maybe that's where the chemicals come into play.



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17 Oct 2013, 10:20 pm

Ugly is relative.


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18 Oct 2013, 3:31 pm

It's not that simple or black and white. I have plenty of confidence in a lot of areas. I'm not as fearful as others when it comes to certain things. The problem is our society labels some things (being naturally quiet, having to think before you speak, not always having a quick comeback) as global "lack of confidence" when in reality they might just be a personality trait or cognitive difference. If you're wired differently you have to work harder to get over this silly prejudice people have. The problem is people constantly thinking you lack confidence tends to make you actually lack confidence. People are always going to think I'm "shy". The best I can do is try not to give a f**k. I'm a deep thoughtful person, not a chatter box. It's just what I am.



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18 Oct 2013, 5:36 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
http://www.wikihow.com/Increase-Dopamine

1- Eating Almonds, avocados, bananas, low-fat dairy, meat and poulty, lima beans, sesame. Check.

2- Eating fruits and vegs. Check

3- Eating Junk food. Not Check, I cheat sometimes.

4- Exercising. Check, I go to gym at least 3 times a week.

5- Plenty of sleep. Not check, I am a batman.

6- Reach a new goal. hmmm...there's a new goal but I have to work more on it and feel it. Not so check I say.

7- Supplements. Not check.


Fava beans have a natural source of dopamine in them.
http://bitesizedbiology.tumblr.com/post ... d-dopamine


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19 Oct 2013, 9:22 am

You would be surprised how much being friendly and talkative gets people to like you more.

I challenge you for a day to be nice and friendly to everyone and talk to at least 3 people and get to know them better by asking questions. It might require you to get out of your comfort zone a little bit. But it's worth it.



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19 Oct 2013, 12:19 pm

I don't have trouble initiating small talk with people. I do okay with one-on-one conversations. I just tend to fear people will see me as "too serious" or "boring". I'm not very good at telling or laughing at jokes I don't personally find very funny. My real sense of humor is on the darker side. I think my "lack of confidence" comes from having too much empathy. I'm afraid to be myself because I never want to offend anyone. I'm also just slow when it comes to processing verbal information and thinking of things to say.



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19 Oct 2013, 1:14 pm

Codyrules37 wrote:
You would be surprised how much being friendly and talkative gets people to like you more.

I challenge you for a day to be nice and friendly to everyone and talk to at least 3 people and get to know them better by asking questions. It might require you to get out of your comfort zone a little bit. But it's worth it.

Is this post aimed at me mainly?

Wouldn't mind if it is, but just curious.