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16 Oct 2013, 2:16 pm

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Uh... why would I want to waste my time with someone that can't accept I don't fall into the societal stereotype of what a woman is supposed to be?

I should also point out that in terms of emotional disposition, stereotypical gender based interests and skill set (she's a carpenter and can actually build a house) My girlfriend is more of a dude than I am. She doesn't wear makeup, doesn't give a s**t about fashion and rarely wears a dress nor does she care if people think that makes her weird. She often jokes that she'd be a lesbian if she didn't like cock so much.

Conversely she doesn't care if my hair is longer than hers (presently it is), if I go to drag balls dressed as a sexy clown or if I behave like an overly emotional (i.e. not manly) ditz sometimes.



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16 Oct 2013, 2:18 pm

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No. "they" was correct. You're hardly the first person I've seen on this board who thinks this way. There's nothing special about your "research findings" either. I've heard it all before from people who could argue it much better than you can.

I hope you continue using the Image. It's a noticable improvement over your normal posting quality.


Let's hear some usernames then. You are always calling me out about the same stuff you just posted and I never see you calling anybody else out.

Also if it's from a while ago, why are you just now deciding to post this?

I still need usernames to believe you, otherwise they=me.



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16 Oct 2013, 2:20 pm

Geekonychus wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Uh... why would I want to waste my time with someone that can't accept I don't fall into the societal stereotype of what a woman is supposed to be?

I should also point out that in terms of emotional disposition, stereotypical gender based interests and skill set (she's a carpenter and can actually build a house) My girlfriend is more of a dude than I am. She doesn't wear makeup, doesn't give a sh** about fashion and rarely wears a dress nor does she care if people think that makes her weird. She often jokes that she'd be a lesbian if she didn't like cock so much.

Conversely she doesn't care if my hair is longer than hers (presently it is), if I go to drag balls dressed as a sexy clown or if I behave like an overly emotional (i.e. not manly) ditz sometimes.


She sounds a lot like me, except I'm looking into mechanics. I considered carpentry, but actually getting into being a contractor and stuff is medically not possible for me. :(

I do *love* cars, though. :D

... I can't even tell the difference between that eye powder stuff and blush. What's that eye stuff called again?


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16 Oct 2013, 2:20 pm

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^ I've only just noticed you have a budgie on your hat!

Not a budgie:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green-cheeked_Parakeet

Her name is Robyn (the bird wonder.)

I'm also one of those "bird people" which would likely be enough to put me under the "weirdo" category with most girls.



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16 Oct 2013, 2:21 pm

Geekonychus wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Uh... why would I want to waste my time with someone that can't accept I don't fall into the societal stereotype of what a woman is supposed to be?

I should also point out that in terms of emotional disposition, stereotypical gender based interests and skill set (she's a carpenter and can actually build a house) My girlfriend is more of a dude than I am. She doesn't wear makeup, doesn't give a sh** about fashion and rarely wears a dress nor does she care if people think that makes her weird. She often jokes that she'd be a lesbian if she didn't like cock so much.

Conversely she doesn't care if my hair is longer than hers (presently it is), if I go to drag balls dressed as a sexy clown or if I behave like an overly emotional (i.e. not manly) ditz sometimes.


I don't suppose you'd consider sharing? I need a lot of work done on my house :P



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16 Oct 2013, 2:22 pm

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this advice doesn't work for wimin. Because as a female, you are not supposed to be weird, stroppy, have communication issues, want to be alone, want to do your own thing, accidentally inconsiderate and any number of other things you can dress up to basically say geek. Nobody wants girl geeks. Unless they are hot. If you are hot you can have a personality of a cheese grater and it you'll still get people wanting to get into your pants.

Wine has been had. Hell Rage barely in check.


Uh... why would I want to waste my time with someone that can't accept I don't fall into the societal stereotype of what a woman is supposed to be?

I say the advice is pretty much accurate for both males and females. Unless, of course, you want to play act for an entire relationship.


You mean, it's possible to have relationships where this isn't necessary!?!?!?!?!?


I hope you're being sarcastic here...


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16 Oct 2013, 2:23 pm

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smudge wrote:
^ I've only just noticed you have a budgie on your hat!

Not a budgie:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green-cheeked_Parakeet

Her name is Robyn (the bird wonder.)

I'm also one of those "bird people" which would likely be enough to put me under the "weirdo" category with most girls.


Try being a lizard girl that would own a few tarantulas if possible. The reactions I get for that are so weird to me.


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16 Oct 2013, 2:25 pm

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I should also point out that in terms of emotional disposition, stereotypical gender based interests and skill set (she's a carpenter and can actually build a house) My girlfriend is more of a dude than I am. She doesn't wear makeup, doesn't give a sh** about fashion and rarely wears a dress nor does she care if people think that makes her weird. She often jokes that she'd be a lesbian if she didn't like cock so much.

Conversely she doesn't care if my hair is longer than hers (presently it is), if I go to drag balls dressed as a sexy clown or if I behave like an overly emotional (i.e. not manly) ditz sometimes.


At least your honest but have you ever dated normal feminine women? Your giving your advice through your own perspective because things have worked out for you right? Does it cross your mind that not everybody is looking for that type of woman?

Can we at least agree that different women like different things?

Your girlfriend probably wouldn't like a guy like me because I'm too mainstream. The majority of men don't like the type of nerdy women that you describe. I have to agree with leafplant on that.



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16 Oct 2013, 2:25 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Geekonychus wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Uh... why would I want to waste my time with someone that can't accept I don't fall into the societal stereotype of what a woman is supposed to be?

I should also point out that in terms of emotional disposition, stereotypical gender based interests and skill set (she's a carpenter and can actually build a house) My girlfriend is more of a dude than I am. She doesn't wear makeup, doesn't give a sh** about fashion and rarely wears a dress nor does she care if people think that makes her weird. She often jokes that she'd be a lesbian if she didn't like cock so much.

Conversely she doesn't care if my hair is longer than hers (presently it is), if I go to drag balls dressed as a sexy clown or if I behave like an overly emotional (i.e. not manly) ditz sometimes.


She sounds a lot like me, except I'm looking into mechanics. I considered carpentry, but actually getting into being a contractor and stuff is medically not possible for me. :(

I do *love* cars, though. :D

... I can't even tell the difference between that eye powder stuff and blush. What's that eye stuff called again?


eye shadow

there is only one girl mechanic in my area in a 2 mile radius which has 6 garages.. I hope you are into computers, being a car mechanic is not what it used to be..



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16 Oct 2013, 2:28 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
leafplant wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
leafplant wrote:
this advice doesn't work for wimin. Because as a female, you are not supposed to be weird, stroppy, have communication issues, want to be alone, want to do your own thing, accidentally inconsiderate and any number of other things you can dress up to basically say geek. Nobody wants girl geeks. Unless they are hot. If you are hot you can have a personality of a cheese grater and it you'll still get people wanting to get into your pants.

Wine has been had. Hell Rage barely in check.


Uh... why would I want to waste my time with someone that can't accept I don't fall into the societal stereotype of what a woman is supposed to be?

I say the advice is pretty much accurate for both males and females. Unless, of course, you want to play act for an entire relationship.


You mean, it's possible to have relationships where this isn't necessary!?!?!?!?!?

I hope you're being sarcastic here...


I thought I was but actually, for real, is it possible?



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16 Oct 2013, 2:28 pm

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there is only one girl mechanic in my area in a 2 mile radius which has 6 garages.. I hope you are into computers, being a car mechanic is not what it used to be..


Eye shadow... sensible name. Why didn't I think of it?

I do like computers. If I'd been more interested in them, I might have considered being a programmer, though I suppose making electronic music sorta counts as being a computer person. :lol:


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16 Oct 2013, 2:30 pm

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Geekonychus wrote:
I should also point out that in terms of emotional disposition, stereotypical gender based interests and skill set (she's a carpenter and can actually build a house) My girlfriend is more of a dude than I am. She doesn't wear makeup, doesn't give a sh** about fashion and rarely wears a dress nor does she care if people think that makes her weird. She often jokes that she'd be a lesbian if she didn't like cock so much.

Conversely she doesn't care if my hair is longer than hers (presently it is), if I go to drag balls dressed as a sexy clown or if I behave like an overly emotional (i.e. not manly) ditz sometimes.


At least your honest but have you ever dated normal feminine women? Your giving your advice through your own perspective because things have worked out for you right? Does it cross your mind that not everybody is looking for that type of woman?

Can we at least agree that different women like different things?

Your girlfriend probably wouldn't like a guy like me because I'm too mainstream. The majority of men don't like the type of nerdy women that you describe. I have to agree with leafplant on that.


I think he did sort of imply that I wouldn't have a chance with hipsters. That's what I understood anyway.



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16 Oct 2013, 2:31 pm

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Shame about my crippling self esteem though, any ideas how I could fix that?

Understand, I was exactly where you were less than two years ago.........

The first step for me was accepting that i'm weird and always will be. Take the label and own it. If 99% of people don't like you because of it.......... SCREW THEM! They aren't worth your time anyway. The right people will start taking notice (both romantically and platonic-friendship wise.)

It won't be easy but these kind of things never are.........



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16 Oct 2013, 2:33 pm

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I thought I was but actually, for real, is it possible?


Yes it is. I've personally had a 10 year one. While my marriage obviously had issues (or it wouldn't have ended) me having to fake being someone else wasn't one of them.


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16 Oct 2013, 2:34 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Geekonychus wrote:
smudge wrote:
^ I've only just noticed you have a budgie on your hat!

Not a budgie:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green-cheeked_Parakeet

Her name is Robyn (the bird wonder.)

I'm also one of those "bird people" which would likely be enough to put me under the "weirdo" category with most girls.


Try being a lizard girl that would own a few tarantulas if possible. The reactions I get for that are so weird to me.

That's quite hot! Dated a girl that had a snake for a while. Awesome in a Morticia Addams sort of way..........



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16 Oct 2013, 2:35 pm

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Shame about my crippling self esteem though, any ideas how I could fix that?

Understand, I was exactly where you were less than two years ago.........

The first step for me was accepting that i'm weird and always will be. Take the label and own it. If 99% of people don't like you because of it.......... SCREW THEM! They aren't worth your time anyway. The right people will start taking notice (both romantically and platonic-friendship wise.)

It won't be easy but these kind of things never are.........


Oh honey, I had to accept that part a loooong time ago..heh

Trouble with me is that I seem so normal when people first meet me. And then the look on their faces when they stop not noticing what's been right in front of them the entire time... I thought I could circumvent that by going online where you can't even see what I look like but it seems like the same problem is occurring.

So, yeah, not sure really what can be done..